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Whats the best way to strike up a conversation with someone who you have never met but would like to talk to? (Pubs friend of friends etc).

Have no idea....but I dont think you can really plan it ...cuz then it comes accross un-natural...jus go up to someone and talk and see what comes out - after all - if u plan it or say something that someone else tells u to say then its not really you they are hearing is it???

Just start with a simple question, something that you would be really interesting in knowing about that person

find something in the inviroemnt to be newtral to start a conversation
if is something on the peson be honest in your coments

do not
in a coffee shop ask her if she likes coffee (you already know the answer and you will look dumb)

but you can say someting like,
hard day today, it is good to have some time for coffee

if you are at a friends house, you can introduce yourself, (if you were not itrodued before) you can mention how do you meet your mutual friend and ask her how did she meet them


i hope i could give you some ideas to work

Its more that im shy and dont even approach someone

"Hello" is a good opener, accompanied by a smile (looking at their face that is!) followed by a compliment.

Well then its not words that u need ...its confidence....just believe in urself...

Practice, practice, practice with people who you are not intending to "want to get to know" ie. you're not attracted to them - less pressure.

Just people that you can across in your travels throughout your day ......... give a sincere compliment, talk about the weather, the game that was on tv last night or whatever major thing is going on lately ........ sometimes it will while others times it may not. Its more about learning to become comfortable doing something new. Are you shy around your friends? Probably not - so its simply about learning to become "comfortable" in something new.

Just introduce yourself and ask how she is doing, then go with the flow. Ask her anything to get her talking about herself.....if she stars playing with her hair with growing smiles...then you are in......or tell her you are from the future as a good attention getter....

this works for guys when they start playing with themselves too

i wait for girls that be staring me down or when i start getting grabbed when im talking to a girl,i always get complements about how young and cute i look which is obviously the girl showing interest in me,i live downtown vancouver though so i get mad hit on by gay guys as well but i just ignore that crap.....im what you would call a POPCORN PLAYA!

Go up an introduce your self as there next ex-husband.... that always cracks them up!

Smile.

Go say hello.

Intorduce yourself.....

and see what happens.

If they growl at you, beat a retreat....

If they smile at you, take it from there....

Hsave seen you before here, do you come often?

Ypou are new here, never seen you before.

But give them something to talk about.

Good luck.

You can only be turned down so many times, there are as many shy ladies out there as there are shy men.

Just make sure, when you have recently had a bereavement of the one you love, you have given yourself enough time?

Good luck!

[quote=dannycopper]Its more that im shy and dont even approach someone[/quo

Danny, all the dates you're been on these past 5 months, you're doing something right buddy.

...or is this one of them to meet even more women on CS? jk

oh oh oh, I'm stealin that one!

as in online or in real life ?

If its online ... its easy to get talking initially while on the forums and then one can carry it along ..

In Real life .. i guess smile , be genuine and NOT using pick up lines would do ... later depends on her ...

aaahaaa....

...what else?

no stealing ideas !!

ermmm what would you do Mano ??? ..

Go up to her and call her by a random name. When she says it's not her, say she looks just like a woman you used to work with a few years ago. Ask her if she has any relatives in that non existent town you used to work in. Go on to real stuff if she seems receptive.

All bets are off if that random name you call her really is her name LOL