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If two people are conversing and getting to know each other and have for a few months should they let others on SC members know that there is someone they are intrested in? Or should they just keep it between them selves? Is it fair to allow others to think that there is no one your intrested in? And is it fair to each other to continue to talk to others from the opposite sex?
If you do this is it not like saying I am intrested unless I find someone better. How can you make any relationship work from that?
Maybe you are far from commitment, but is there something wrong with commiting to getting to know this one person and not have other distractions from other members?
And when would you say it is right to let others know?

personally i belive that it is non of other bussies, and as we are only talking i dont see any reazon to go out and and have "fun" with others girl

let me refrase that part

when we ae local somehow i have to some more time aviable to the girl i am interested than the others

but f she is from another location
whether diferent city, state or country...

how wil i say it....., the hormones will start start asking for fun too

she is far, she will not find it, i dont have to tell her

is this aceptable?

Well I've never been good reeeally good at keeping secrets but I would want to know that yesssssssssssssssss we are going for it, yesssss we are a couple before I sprayed my guts on the forums.

I would let others know when we felt right to do so. As far as talking to other from the opposite sex. I would like to think as you met them here they would have a good handle on what your personality is like and it really shouldn't worry them. It wouldn't bother me. The forums or CS bought us together doesn't seem right it could be something that tore you apart also.

i do not meant to stop talking in the forums

i meant to stop talking (like in e-mail - IM - phone - or in case of locals to talk in person) untill i know her better

or should i keep the options open, and see (in general whe we are long distance ) if in the mean time a loccal will show up and go for the local relationship

I like the way you answerd this, I have been trying to deal with this issue kind of. I guess my question would be if you are or have been talking, for a while and you get an email or IM would you let that erson know you are talking to somebody else? Or do you let them think there is no one? I think I know what the ost is saying. If they don't know you are talking to someone, it leaves there hopes up, if they like you.But is that really fair to the one you have been talking to, they like you too.

The more talking the better in my opinion Alex after a while I would go with the phone as the main contact it just seems a bit more one on one. I personally would keep my options open until such time you both wish to take it a step further.

And it is important to meet in person as soon as possible, sometimes all is not what it seems behing the computer desk. God knows I've learn't that one.

So keep your options open until you meet in person, and believe there is something there and wish to take it further. But keep chin wagging in the meantime there can be no harm it in.

For me it is honesty straight up. I say I talk to other. I say I run around in the forums. My personally I am talking to someone not marrying them. I have nothing to hide on here and I wouldnt want to give the impression I do.

just decode what I actually wrote its to early for me to bother fixing them

We get is sweetie. Coffee for you.

Yessssssssssssssss Pleeeaaaseeee.

OK now that it has been brought up, what if you do talk on the phone, and have been talking for months. what if you do plan on meeting but because of distance it is going to take some time, I guess what I would like to know is if I get an email from a guy here, should I tell him I have been talking to someone and we plan on meeting. Or should I just keep talking to him, and not say anything about the other guy? and if I do that, what happens if it works out when we meet do I tell the newer guy sorry guy I am with someone else. Wouldn't he have liked to seen it comming? And what if the newer guy turns out to be someone I would like to be with, was that fair to the guy I had been talking to?

If you felt strongly about the person that lives some distance away. I feel you would naturally cool your jets until you had a meeting with the person you liked.

As far as not talking to anyone completly because of a possible, and I emphasise Possible connection. No Way.

The way I see this, is we are on a dating site looking for our 'one' this does not mean that the first 'one' we have contact with we fall for in real life. Again I don't think you can secure any feelings until you both meet.
Now you may meet and its all goodo. You may meet and find its completly different. But yes I would say I do talk to others, I think this would be understood and I'm sure as shit he is too.

Seriously thats all I can manage at the moment its to early for me.

my life is today
it is nice to have a dream my the dream is just a dream
i have my need today

while there is no reality today, i will do my best
go out, meet people, if a gal shows up and i enjoy being with her, i will be (those are my need today)
later, if at some point my dream can become a reality (in the sence i will be able to meet her) then i will have to solve the puzle that is in my head
should i keep the gal that i have now and i am havig fun, or let her know that i will be traveling to meet some one that i know by mail or the phone
what will hapen if i meet the gal that i was talking and the chemistry (or whtever you want to call it) is not there
shuld i get stick to her because it was a dream
should u dump her and go back to the previous one
or shuold i say the gal that i am seeing that i have to take vacations from her,m beciause another women that i know from the internet is comeing to spend some time with me?

well, i think i will live my life today and i solve the puzle whenever i need it

may be but that time, everyting would be more clear
i will stay with the gal that is next to me, and dume the gal i was talkig over the phone

but thst is me, i would love to know what other guys things, i am prety sure females will disagree with me

talk talk talk

I think when the question is asked and honesty is answered its kool. We should not stop talking to others untill that commitment is agreed to together.

People are not silly.................................

Need to rephrase some of that lol

We should not stop talking to others .................We should not change the way we talk to others.........


Early for me too lol

Personally I am not asking if I should stop talking to others, but should I tell them up front I have been talking to someone?

Yes

Yes of course.............

We all like Talking and laughing.............

Bet ya their talking

I believe you should tell the new guy about the situation with the one you have been talking with. Just stay honest! The new guy will most likely could drop out of the picture.
But if you explain that you have not met and you two could still talk as friends until you see where the other situation leads to that you would be happy to do that. All relationships are based on friendship anyway and if he doesn't want that, then oh well for him for giving up so soon.


JMO

If I was conversing with someone whether it be here on the site, email,IM etc but neither of us had ever met in person I don't know if I'd say anything to the others on the site until I met the man I was conversing with.

Once I met the first guy and we hit it off, No I don't think it would be fair to keep the info to myself and lead the other guys on. That would be a cruel to do.

You asked if it would be fair to still converse with other guys on this site.? Sure why not especially if those other guys were online friends to begin with. If I haven't already formed a relationship with the guy I never met I wouldn't see why I wouldn't still want to continue my converations with the other guys.

There's no guaranttees that the guy I'd meet in person and myself would hit it off. So I would keep all my options open. Cause the first guy might turn out to be a jerk and then you may have missed out on meeting a real nice guy.

Alex I don't know if this answers your questions but hopes this gives you an idea of what I'd if I found myself in that situation.

I hope you get the gist of this.

Now I've confused myself.