Posted: Jun 29, 2008, 5:09 AM CST
One fine day I was travelling in a train on business trip I could find a lady sitting next to me holding a mobile in her hand , having a deep conversation to somebody, sometimes weeping , Disconnecting the phone again talking for some time crying, As she was looking attractive I was watching her but it seemed she never bothered that she was sitting in public train with co- passengers go on and on. after sometime we happened to put up some conversation when she needed a small help of adjusting the seat she quitelly asked me to help.
Somehow we became little aqaitnted and managed to ask her why she was upset . she was reluctant to say. then we again came down to general topics like families and careers and I came to nkow that she was married. after sometime I really dont know she like the conversation and sarted compalining about men, that men are really decissive which could spark a friendly debate between me and her.
As the discussion went on she began opening up and told me that she had a problem with her husband and was travelling back to her native after a clash, and resigned the private job what she had.
I asked her politely what the real problem in her family , she became very talkative and opened up with a bundle of expectations she had about her husband and he was not upto that. the four years of her marriage life was hectic and too much compromising from her life.
we had a cofee time in between then I politely asked her what her hubby was doing. She told me proudly that he is working for an MNC as a senior manager.I asked her whether what type of a charecter he was, she was reluctant to comment in the beginning and little hastly she told me that he is over commited to work, does not find time for family, very much adamant and keeps liitle conversation when he is at home.I asked her whther they were into love marriage or arranged marriage. she told me that it was a love marriage and both their families did not support thier marriage.
Again I asked her so why she is going back to her home from where she had been expelled once. She said there is no other way as she doesnt want to live with her husband.
again I asked her how long does she know her husband before marriage, she said I know him from college level where they met and fall in love.then I said her that I just really cant believe that a person whom you loved for nearly 5 years before marriage and your life was family life was tragic.she said, after marriage for sometime he was normal as he was , then he statred changing considerably and she couldnt digest that.
I told her that madam I really dont know what went wrong with you, because what i really feel from this small beautiful conversation with you really expected the same old lover where as your lover might have trasformed to a husbands role , with love and responsibilities after marriage.this could be the reason. I asked her ever she had thought from the role of her husband. She kept mum.
I told her dear friend Never expect anybody to fall for you in life because life is beautiful only when you fall for good things in life. dont have too much expectations which can hurt you rather be ambitious.
Never compromise in married life but be adjustable and flexible enough to accomodate the transitions or change in the life. be realistic than be imaginative.always love your family and try to have children, cherish them, make you understandable to your husband and understand him too. you will enjoy the life.otherwise I really dont think her husband is really decissive otherwise he would have expoited her sexually for the long affair they had before marriage and left her.
Yeah , I really dont think there is anybody in this world who is not broken by heart since we expect everything to happen in our own way. heartbeating: