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I feel like I have made many friends on here and now I need some helpful advice/criticism/whatever you want to call it.

I have the most wonderful man in my life that I could ever want and I am sooooooo happy....as is he. We won't be able to meet face to face for a little longer due to his job. But we talk as much as we can.

In spite of this happiness....which I am sure is genuine....I feel so lonely and blue. I have a job that I love.....but I don't want to go to work. When I come home from work....I don't want to go anywhere, don't want to talk to anyone, but Mark. Just wanna cry all the time. I am eating like the end of the world is coming and I know that is not healthy.

What is going on with me???? I feel like I am going crazy!!!!!

Any advice would be greatly appreciated......not just looking for sympathy. I am sure once Mark is actually here it will get better....but until then.....WHAT??

Help friends.......I know I can count on you!!!

go to an old folks home, and volunteer with the people, play cards, checkers, whatever. Listen to their lives. All has passed for them. Your life with Mark is just beginning. You will hear stories of long love that will make your heart bleed. You will also hear a bunch of fun stories, which is always awesome.

You aren't going crazy, just a bit impatient is all buck up lil' girl, all will be fine. You found someone, that is the biggest accomplishment. Actually being with each other is a bit hard, but you got the hardest part over with. Best wishes to you and YOUR man

I waited topsee if anyone else would offer insight first but since noone have i will give my take on this...

first i think your hormones are running all nilly and also that you have the fear of the unknown where as you haent actually met yet...
i think as my daughter would put it you are my dear "lovesick"

hang in there doll it will subside as you get more use to the idea that something is actually going to happen when you do meet..

Hiya, xoredheadxo





Sounds like you are falling in to a depressive state, due to allowing yourself to have your world revolve around Mark. You may be overly consumed with this guy & the relationship - not good.

I'd say keep a journal or diary. Write down your thoughts & feelings, daily, even nightly, too...it should help. Make an attempt to preoccupy your mind with other activities that you enjoy. It's not good to count on another person for your own happiness & well being.



I hope you feel better soon & become more healthy, in all ways!

you poor thing

you sound as though you are depressed and comfort eating is not the thing to do

you need to go out and traet yourself to something nice, even if its some nice bath oils....

just aslong as it makes you feel better, pamper yourself

it won't be to long before Mark is back, then you can fun getting to know each other better

chin up

You know, I was going to say something along this line, but you beat me to it, Red.

Depression is very insidious. It's a natural defensive reaction to stress. It sounds to me like you're a bit obsessed, and since the source of your obsession is currently unavailable, your body is reacting to the stress of that frustration with the symptoms of depression.

Get out into the sunlight. Vitamin D produced by the skin's exposure to sunlight is a natural anti-depressant. Watch what you eat as well. Certain foods high in sucrose can actually intesify the symptoms of depression because of the "crash" associated with wide swings in blood-sugar.

Anyway. Good luck to you. I hope something I've said helps...

Its great that you've potentially found that special someone, but you need to have other things in your life that give you a spark and enjoyment. Enjoy life, and if you this man turns out to be the right one, fantastic, he will compliment what you already have.

I think its really important that you don't shut out all your friends, family and what you've enjoyed in life to this point.

You might also be feeling anxious and maybe lacking a bit of self confidence leading up to meeting this man, but he wants to meet you for you, as this is the person he has been growing to like and wanting to meet.


Hope it works out.

Thanks ladies for your replies!!!

I know "this too shall pass"...it's just I'm not usually like this and I hate the feeling.

Also thanks gentlemen...

You are right....there are a LOT of nerves flowing right now...lol.

Thanks for your insights and great advice.

actually a few of us ladies are actually blokes, but your welcome

Oops....I noticed that a little too late

Sorry guys

Hey girl you know you dont want advise from me. Cause of the stupid things i do. But I am here for you if you need to talk, laugh, or cry..

Oh god you tell me i've been in that stage alot of time

what i do when that happen to me

go take a walk talk to yourself change the air around put loud music and do stupid thing's like i do sing in the mop dance with the broom

watch a movie and do the thing's they do ...lol

i know i sound stupid but it's not it just to get rid of some bad ideas or to get rid of the loneliness

make supper for 2 and talk to him on the phone if you can and try to imagine him there with you...

or talk to yourself in the mirror tell yourself how much your beautiful ect.......

You took the words right outta my mouth.....You need to have a life of your own too...When you have too much time to think....the only thing to concentrate on sometimes is what you don't have right now...and at this moment it's Mark there....as red says...find things to keep you busy to steer yourmind toward more positive things and the time will go a lot quicker and the next thing you know he will be there....a healthy relationship includes each partner also having a life that includes friendships and things each partner likes to do outside of the relationship....as well as together.....Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!

sounds like depression to me... I would prescribe exercise ... just a short walk a half hour a day can do wonders!

very nicely said hugz!

as am i here for you too girl,

Thanks everyone....I really appreciate your concern and advice.

As I said earlier..."This too shall pass".

I just have to get a grip and pull me back up where I belong.......I don't like it down here.....lol

And I have sooooooooooooo much to be happy about!!!!!!

awww you are just in love

but yes you need to get a grip and pull urself up...

You are a little depressed becos you miss him so....

I get that way when i Miss My Love....

put a little music on....

Or go for a walk...

or maybe try to read a book...

Not much will help but maybe keep ur mind off it for a bit....

Eating really isnt that healthy if you are just eating junk...

Once you too meet in person things i am sure will be ok...

but i have met mine a few times in person and Miss him terriblly...

but i try to keep control and know we will see each other again soon...

it dont get easier but its get tolerable...

I wish you the best sweetie...

but dont let it take over ur life...That in itself is not healthy...

It will also worry him over you

As everyone has said...continue on with your normal routine....I know, sometimes it's easier said than done (going through that myself...lol). Just beware of some of those times when you may be doing something and your mind starts wandering...might end up in worse shape (talking from experience with the solitude while staining my fence...lol)