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Over the past week and a half I've been very down and feeling like nothing will get better.
The breakup with my girlfriend is doing a real number on me.
I know that these kinds of feelings happen to us all.
I have these feelings of failure and dred all throughout the day everyday.
I've been in therapy for the last 10 because of my deep depression and I'm taking meds as well.
I feel sad, lost and alone and I'm scared.
Somebody please help.

not sure what would help you, but you are not alone.

I know you have alot of friends here that will help you through this

Hang in there, I know it's easier said than done..it has to get better...

I just joined here a couple of weeks ago.
I'm not sure if anybody would be willling to help or whether they could or not.

Sounds soppy but time is a great healer and things will get better, think most of us have felt like that at one time or another

First of all here is a BIG hug hope that helps a bit...

As to feeling a failure, please try not to focus on such things.. what is 'success' anyway.. and you are not alone in feeling that you could be doing something more or something better we all feel like that at times..

There is a lot out good out there.. open your eyes to the sunlight once in a while... even if it just to observe the beauty of the world around you... while there is darkness there is also ALOT of beauty..

well us drummers gotta stick together! youd be shocked by the amount of people here willing to listen and give advice on stuff..

seen you talking in forums they'll be here you'll see

Raymond.... I feel for you, my friend, though I am not sure I will be of much help. I fear I may be heading down that road myself and I have had absolutely noone.....

What I can say is that you should be immensely proud of yourself for taking the necessary steps to get yourself well. Its no mean feat and takes a lot of bravery, that shouldn't ever be under-estimated. You must be diligent in taking the medication prescribed for you and you MUST be totally candid with your therapist about how you truly feel, otherwise he/she cannot administer the appropriate treatment for YOU!!

Don't expect massive changes overnight, be realistic about it taking some time..... baby steps??

We're all on your side, my friend!!

"The Parable of the Mustard Seed

Kisagotami is the name of a young girl, whose marriage with the only son of a wealthy man was brought about in true fairy-tale fashion. She had one child, but when the beautiful boy could run alone, it died. The young girl, in her love for it, carried the dead child clasped to her bosom, and went from house to house of her pitying friends asking them to give her medicine for it.

But a Buddhist mendicant, thinking "She does not understand," said to her, "My good girl, I myself have no such medicine as you ask for, but I think I know of one who has."

"O tell me who that is," said Kisagotami.

"The Buddha can give you medicine. Go to him," was the answer.

She went to Gautama, and doing homage to him said, "Lord and master, do you know any medicine that will be good for my child?"

"Yes, I know of some," said the teacher.

Now it was the custom for patients or their friends to provide the herbs which the doctors required, so she asked what herbs he would want.

"I want some mustard seed," he said; and when the poor girl eagerly promised to bring some of so common a drug, he added, "You must get it from some house where no son, or husband, or parent, or slave has died."

"Very good," she said, and went to ask for it, still carrying her dead child with her.

The people said, "Here is mustard seed, take it."

But when she asked, "In my friend's house has any son died, or husband, or a parent or slave?" they answered, "Lady, what is this that you say? The living are few, but the dead are many."

Then she went to other houses, but one said, "I have lost a son"; another, "We have lost our parents"; another, "I have lost my slave."

At last, not being able to find a single house where no one had died, her mind began to clear, and summoning up resolution, she left the dead body of her child in a forest, and returning to the Buddha paid him homage.

He said to her, "Have you the mustard seed?"

"My lord," she replied, "I have not. The people tell me that the living are few, but the dead are many."

Then he talked to her on that essential part of his system -- the impermanence of all things, till her doubts were cleared away, and, accepting her lot, she became a disciple and entered the first path."

You are not alone, friend...

I'm really brokenhearted over losing my girl.
If you remember my post, she is suffering from the same thing as myself.
I wanted so desperately to be able to help her but she pushed me away leaving me totally devastated.
I miss her so much, I can't think of anything but her.
I can't eat or sleep, and I'm crying all the time.
It's a living hell.

This may sound cold but it worked for me..if she don't want to be with you respect it and be there for her if she ever calls..

i fell the same way at the mo so ur not a lone there bud + having a cold don't help either

so as Monty Python quite adequately put it

If life seems jolly rotten,
There's something you've forgotten,
And that's to laugh and smile and dance and sing.
When you're feeling in the dumps,
Don't be silly chumps.
Just purse your lips and whistle. That's the thing.
And...

Always look on the bright side of life.

Always look on the right side of life,


For life is quite absurd
And death's the final word.
You must always face the curtain with a bow.
Forget about your sin.
Give the audience a grin.
Enjoy it. It's your last chance, anyhow.
So,...

Always look on the bright side of death,

Just before you draw your terminal breath.


Life's a piece of shit,
When you look at it.
Life's a laugh and death's a joke. It's true.
You'll see it's all a show.
Keep 'em laughing as you go.
Just remember that the last laugh is on you.
And...

Always look on the bright side of life.


If life seems jolly rotten,
There's something you've forgotten,
And that's to laugh and smile and dance and sing.
When you're feeling in the dumps,
Don't be silly chumps.
Just purse your lips and whistle. That's the thing.
And...

Always look on the bright side of life.

Always look on the right side of life,


For life is quite absurd
And death's the final word.
You must always face the curtain with a bow.
Forget about your sin.
Give the audience a grin.
Enjoy it. It's your last chance, anyhow.
So,...

Always look on the bright side of death,

Just before you draw your terminal breath.


Life's a piece of shit,
When you look at it.
Life's a laugh and death's a joke. It's true.
You'll see it's all a show.
Keep 'em laughing as you go.
Just remember that the last laugh is on you.
And...

Always look on the bright side of life.
If life seems jolly rotten,
There's something you've forgotten,
And that's to laugh and smile and dance and sing.
When you're feeling in the dumps,
Don't be silly chumps.
Just purse your lips and whistle. That's the thing.
And...

Always look on the bright side of life.

Always look on the right side of life,


For life is quite absurd
And death's the final word.
You must always face the curtain with a bow.
Forget about your sin.
Give the audience a grin.
Enjoy it. It's your last chance, anyhow.
So,...

Always look on the bright side of death,

Just before you draw your terminal breath.


Life's a piece of shit,
When you look at it.
Life's a laugh and death's a joke. It's true.
You'll see it's all a show.
Keep 'em laughing as you go.
Just remember that the last laugh is on you.
And...

Always look on the bright side of life.

Always look on the bright side of life.(From Paddy 1)
I would like to add..thank God for divorce she's no longer my wife...

I know exactly what you are feeling. It is horrible. Makes you feel like you are loosing your mind. What you have to do is substitute something else in your life in place of your friend. And not necessarily another woman. It can be running, it can be working, it can be playing, even building something. Funny as it sounds, directing the sorrow at something else does work. My prayers are with you.

Raymond,

I feel for you. It's been a long time but I know what it feels like.

There's nothing I can say or do to make you feel better only time will help to ease that. In the mean time, try to take care of yourself. Eat something and if you feel like drinking leave it alone for now. Lack of food or water and alcohol consumption will only make it worse. Also, try to get some exercise. Maybe the exertion will help you to sleep.

Be well

good advice

I shared the same experience a few years back. SHe had moved on, moved in with another dude, was getting "hers" and I remained miserable and feeling sorry for myself.

Somewhere along the line, I realized that what I was feeling, were only "feelings". I realized another was not responsible for my happiness.

A woman once said, "they best way to get over a man, was to get under another one"...

I wonder if that works for men also?