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some sort of end all be all source of information??

CS is wonderful for many things
and i obviously-having stayed so long
value it to a great degree

but i dont understand some of the advice that is sought here?

i mean surely there are actual sources for information in this day of technological access to information???

no offense intended toward any of you, but there are about 99% of things in life that i wouldnt ask the general public-
number one it becomes an overwhelming amount of info and isnt possible to process-conflicting ideas and such

and number 2-i just dont find many here qualified to help on much.

i have cultivated and invested in some intimate friends whose advice i do seek out on occasion but i am just sometimes bowled over
by the range of questions and requests for help regarding so many issues that i just dont see that it would be appropriate or even help me?


maybe im just a B...



sorry-ive just wanted to see if its just me on this one for months now

Considering that most people who use a computer can do a web search......

I think many questions posed on the forums are rhetorical, meaning the question is asked merely for effect with no real answer expected.

because we are bored with our lives and have nothing better to do???







O.K. O.K. I'm speaking just for me!!!!!

No its not only you mf, i've thought the
same thing many times.
Given the power of the internet and the
weath of information out there, it seems
ironic that some people use this site to
gather what is at times 'dubious' advice.

The short version to explain most of the contents on the forums can be summed up in just one word!

And the word is....."drivel"

A lot of us come here because we are in a sense, family and friends... Sure we can google things but it is nice to have some friendly feedback too.

daisy all i mean is that we arent professionals
some people ask personal questions that strangers arent qualified to advise on
i think so many things about this behavior i darent even say


hi sweetie

dubious drivel
that will be my new screenname-if i ever wear this one out

I like your new picture.........you have a nice pair...................of shoes!




I'm a baaaaaad boy!

No, Mindfful.... its not just you. I have thought that many times.

Whereas I do believe there is a place for gleaning knowledge and information from others (and I do think that is important), when it comes to the Forums, the thought process that is involved or, in fact, evidently NOT involved is staggering!!

As well as the importance of inter-action and, therefore, learning there is also a certain coherence, rationale and lucidity needed in being able to "pick out" the relevance of what, for the most part, are viewpoints.

I have a problem, for example, when the questions asked are akin to that of a five year old, the most basic that, considering it is a criteria of site membership in the first place, to be over 18 years old, i.e. an adult beggars belief.... surely, the aforemention coherence would deem it more appropriate to seek the other methods of investigating what is needed, i.e. books, educational/informative TV programmes, the Internet?

I think it is clear that, as mentioned, the process adopted leading to the decision as to which is the most viable and warranted route is severely lacking...?? This involves using judgement and decision-making, of course.....

But then..... it depends on whether there is a genuine desire to have others impart their knowledge and wisdom or...... ??

And DON'T get me started on "Stones" and "Sponges", will ya...??!!

exactly

no sponge<<<

recovered



hi roooose

You are not the only one. I come here to have fun.... and sometimes find a few people on here are in the same boat or have been through the same things. Some make me laugh and enjoy coming here for my daily laugh.

Take what you feel is right for you, and ignore the rest. Not everyone is going to agree.... and some come on here and say something just to see how others will respond.

Every now and then, an intelligent conversation/thread will come up.

You are not being a B, jmo.... seems like you are being you and somethings on here are.... too much information .... and somethings should be kept private. (sorry if the message received was interpreted wrong.)

Above all else, be who you are.

The most important word here is 'connnecting' ...


the other is exposing (in a literal sense) with the hope of it becomeing a physical sense?

Maybe stupid questions/advice is like people trying out a new whipped cream. They already know what its like, but if they rub this new stuff on their stupid button it might feel different.

People like to reacquaint themselves with what and who they are on a myriad of subjects. Reinforcing our set of beliefs is common and somehow necessary to our facade.

Yep thats me.

Yeah I agree sometimes it is a bit much, Mindful. However, I also agree with Daisy, that we are all friends and a little bit of a family here so to ask those question it is not hard to do. Yeah sometimes we do have to seek professional help but often we wish we didn't and maybe want someone to prod us in that direction.

If I don't like the title or content of a thread I just:

1 don't bother reading it or

2 ignore it altogether and walk away so to say.

whaaa?




i know how to take whats useful and leave the rest
i just have come to believe, for me, in the value of sharing in a general way.
IMO alo of the questions and answers are codependence and frankly turns my stomach on ocassion



the times i have really wanted a solution and was willing to grow i didnt ask the general public-but i did s a distraction, and to 'seem' to myself that i was 'doing something'
i just decided, for me, that that was a method i used to BS myself.

Hi, lovey!!

Noooo... you ARE a "Sponge"!! Sponges are GOOD!! Its Stones that are no good... well, IMO, of course.
Think about it.....??
You wouldn't have raised the issue in the first place otherwise, would you?

I thought everyone knew about Stones and Sponges??

A delight, as always, to see ya ---->

for me the overshare was a desperate and ineffective attempt to build intimacy

i mean really we cant be annoyed by something we dont recognize from our selves i think...

I think that asking things here is a way of getting different outlooks to be able to make a better self decision. Each new idea triggers ideas in the person....then with reflection a better decision is made than one running on pure emotion. Most people know what is right but just need some of the cloud removed to see more clearly to what they already know.

you also ignore ppl so
whats your point?
this is a conversation
not an instruction

but thanks

youre not obligated to respond to everyone here but its generallythe polite thing to do when one extends the hand of greeting and friendship

yes im hurt
this too shall pass

hey love the new pic!

im not saying professional help is in order-
im just saying some things seem to be more appropriate to really be helpful if they are shared in a small group-more privately
i mean i just think sometimes is it really help they want or distraction or the sense they have made a positive action or attention or what
its just an opinion
means little

as i mentioned-obviously im just able to reflect on my own behavior
not trying to project just blabbing

im sure to some this thread is as inane as any-


oh well