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Greetings and salutations to those who may remember me....

Ladies and gentlemen, I want to introduce myself to you. I am the poster child for bad timing. Or wrong place, wrong time. Won't bore you with details, but I pose a question...
Have you seen the movie "Sliding Doors"? (early Gwyneth Paltrow film) It's about how much a person's life might be greatly changed if only one small act...one instant...one move...was done differently. I can think of many things that would have put my life on a completely different track, had it not been for one minor action or one decision made. I don't regret most, but I do a few.
Now I find that age and location are my own personal Sliding Doors. If I was younger, the man I have been seeing in recent months would likely be my next great love. But he is younger than I am (in his early 40s), was married once when young and never had children, and he would like to have kids. For me, that ship has sailed. All those years of having maternal yearnings (I had 2 sons, would have loved another child or two, even) and now I meet a great man who wants a baby and deserves to have one and....ahhhh, hell. I said I wouldn't bore with details, yet here I am, doing so.
Is your love life being de-railed due to bad timing? Do you find yourself saying "If only...." more than you say "we just didn't click"?

how would you be forgotten so quickly???

i ran i here when i saw you!!!



sweetie
you understand...youre alright-it will serve you

but i empathize

xx

You think thats bad, I like the guy in the windex commercial with sliding doors and two birds.

Jeffrey!!!

How great to see you again!

I felt that something terribly good (!) was going on with you when you disappeared like that last time!

i'm sorry to hear of the (sometimes unavoidable) end to this, but such is life and i am more happy that you did have the good time.

I know that you said you didnt want to lay all the details and stuff, but just a lil question: Is it over already or are you 2 in the process of it being over?

That's one of the absolute nicest things I've ever heard! You RAN when you saw me! I'm all gooey inside now. Thank you...it means a lot.

Hi!! Long time...so great to see you, too. Have you re-settled in a new place now? Anyway, to answer your question....it is the elephant in the room. We haven't ended it, but I feel that it must be resolved soon, before I get too entrenched. It's funny how I find myself wanting to fall in love again and be loved again, but when I start to feel...when I see the possibility that my heart will be out on a limb again...I inevitably envision pain ahead. Wow. Telling, isn't it?
I've missed hearing from you.

You definately have to talk about it the soonest; and with an open heart!

but, i was just meaning to say that if there is will both ways about a future in this, then the due resolvement doesnt have to be the breaking up... there are other ways to have a child... just a thought

As for me, yeah, i am in Cyprus now - though i wouldnt exactly be calling it settling down, hahaha
I'll be leaving soon enough Just a few more things to do, a few more weeks

Nice to see you back.

I question myself on that same issue...think my ship sailed with yours.

However.....would adoption be an option? Although he wouldn't be the biological father that's not what a father is about...it's the love, care & devotion given to the child. Something to think about before you toss away something that might be the best thing since sliced bread.

Adoption would be fine for him, I'm sure. But the simple fact of the matter is that I am 53 years old; my maternal instincts that I mentioned were in the past. I really couldn't start over again at this stage of my life, raising another child.
But, time will tell what will transpire. You never know, sometimes, what life has in store.

Mano...you're in Cyprus...if you pass through Athens sometime soon, you must let me know. Would love to buy you a freddo by the sea!

haha, Make that a Frappe and.. i'm there

But do think about the adoption thing... or better yet, feel about it You sounded really happy "up" there Who says that 53 is too old for ANYTHING? ----> that includes enjoying motherhood all over again

I ran too.....but I came back to say hi

Nice to see you back, although I wish the circumstances were different.

At times, life appears to be a series of badly timed events. Hang in there. Everything for a reason.

Ahhhh, so nice to know that some things (and people) never change! Hello, Ship. Glad you said hi...and a big, fat to you, too!

Jeffrey!

I know what you mean. I personally don't look at the timing, I tend to look at where I am now and what I am now because of what has happened and I often find myself saying 'we clicked' if but only for a moment. And really, a moment is all we got in the bigger scheme of things, even if we get to repeat them with the same person.

welcome back!

Never saw that movie, but I have said to myself if only I hadn't been so stupid when I had a chance with a girl that probably would have been my life's mate if I had given her the chance, till this day I still think about her, and what could have been if I had only allowed it to happen, but I didn't and that was a lifetime ago, and now it's to late to do anything about it.. We live and we learn, or at least some of us do.. life is a blink of an eye, we're here one day, and the next, we're gone..

Good post jlb684, and good to see you again..

sweetie the elephant is a beast
i have 2 following me around at the mo and i am so verklempt (sp)

yet we plod on

swim or die

i ran in here you goof


man this man business is no easy feat is it?

Sliding doors has been one of my favourite films for years (watch it every now and again) after I had explained it to a friend, she said NO Di this is your life get used to it.

On the baby score I do understand, had my lot and even have a grandaughter so there is no way I would want to start raising babies again!!

If this man is the love of your life and you his, and he knows the situation then he might feel differently towards having children of his own, just talk to him and let him know how you feel

good luck in what ever you decide

:: trips Ship up on the way past::

It's good to see you Jeffrey!

Yep I've seen that film..

I really feel for you.. what a shame..