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My friend got married last week, and turns out...she wants a divorce. The guy she has married happens to be a good friend of mine and she thinks he is cheating on her (already!)...she wants ME to confront him and ask him what's going on...shud i stay out of this or get sucked in?

STAY OUT!!!!!!!!! You will be the one to suffer and be hurt and will lose 2 friends in the bargain.

Its her husband so she should confron him.

you can only lend support.

I would stay out of it, it will only come back and bite you in the ass.

Her Husband she should do it , communcation is part of all relationships.

Hi
I agree with riya.... just support her dont get involved only lead to heartache... jmo

I think as a friend you could as her to make sure first if what she is thinking is true in the first place before thinking of divorce. I mean divorce is not like a simple or to be taken lightly type of issue neither is marriage.

It shows a clear cut lack of confidence or understanding .. which one ... i am not sure though. Plus no one on confrontation esp. when newly wed is going to accept it ... so i personally feel she should think things over , find out what the matter really is and tactfully handle it .

Its needs delicate measures .. as such things can make or break a relationship.

I may be naive, But I thought there were no divorces in India????

But also think.. it's her problem.
however.. since he is a friend.. If you ever hear that he is in fact cheating, I think you should tell him as a friend that he is doing wrong.

It's a no win for you.....butt out!!

well...u are naive to an extent there hun. divorces are rapidly growing in india as women gain financial and social mobility. however, it's still lower than in western countries.

i know for a fact he is having an affair...i have caught him sex chatting with a lady on his comp and then he told me he meets her as well (he didn't know i knew about the sex chatting...he thinks i think he is friends with her). i really don't feel good knowing this and not letting my friend know. i feel like a partner in crime.

If all of that is true.. Hell yes you should tell her.
Would be better she get out now because it will only get worse.
Why the heck did he marry her??????

If you know what you know..then tell him if he doesnt say anything..
that you will tell her..give him the option to be open first...

If not then be a friend and tell the truth

doing the right thing is so hard.

i think he married her because his parents made him...and partially because she has a lot of money. i also dated him for a while...MAN...HE WAS A DOG

Good luck

yes, but go over there nekkid with a rose in your teeth



this is the bad advice thread right?

I'd make like a tornado and get the hell out!

seeing me naked wud be a treat for him...i am afraid i cannot say the same about seeing him naked. ;-)

rather the point thought isn't it? full disclosure from him ...

ok...so i told my friend. she made me stay until her husband came home. then, she beat him up with her big purse and drove out. awkward situation...him and me alone...i took the oppurtunity, hit him with my purse too...called him a dog and also drove away (why can't i be more original?)

A few basic questions come to mind...

did you encourage/help facilitate or endorse/support the decision of their marriage?

If he was cheating/unfaithful to the vows of the marriage would
it alter /change your friendship with him?

the confrontation issue, thats her responsibility, however if you have a the knowledge or ability to help in anyway I feel a true friend is obligated by the friendship to support the other.

Finally I have always thought friendship (true ) made one obligated to help/assist the friend.
Afterall, what kind of friendship is based on only sharing the good times?

marriage is such a personal decision that i don't think it's any of my business...even as a friend to support/not support/facilitate/not facilitate it. i did warn her that he was a player and advised that she reconsider. however, she was all too excited and didn't reconsider (i am sure if she had...she wudn't have married him of all ppl). anyway, i tried to put on a happy, poker face for her.

now that i know he is a shit head...i might choose to stay away from him...completely. i never thought him to be my friend...but i kept talking to him and being nice for my other friend. no need of that anymore. the whole thing with cheating on a partner really upsets me and ticks me off. anyway, i am helping my friend find a place to stay...i offered her a place at my house but my parents are here right now and she felt a bit embarassed. i am taking care of her and making sure she is kept as happy as possible.