Are women think that they can change men?

Barnagie
Warsaw, Mazowieckie Poland

Posted: Jul 9, 2008, 5:11 PM CST

Hello CS Staff ;)

I think yes, I'm based on my observation (especially my sister).

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DUBLINGUY1973
Dublin, Dublin Ireland

Posted: Jul 9, 2008, 5:18 PM CST

Barnagie wrote:

Hello CS Staff ;)

I think yes, I'm based on my observation (especially my sister).

Most women do i think (not all obviously) but i think unless a person wants to change, nobody can actually change them. JMO

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roseofsharon
Buggered if I know where...?!!, Hampshire, England UK

Posted: Jul 9, 2008, 5:27 PM CST

Barnagie wrote:

Hello CS Staff ;)

I think yes, I'm based on my observation (especially my sister).

Why are you addressing this to CS staff?? Its Forum posters you want to target, surely?

And.... you have based your observations on ONE person then... your sister? Hardly wide-spread research, is it??

What is this obsession with men thinking women want to "change" them all the time??

I have not come across such a thing.... perhaps you need to think about moving?

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alex_192
sarasota USA

Posted: Jul 9, 2008, 5:30 PM CST

Barnagie wrote:

Hello CS Staff ;)

I think yes, I'm based on my observation (especially my sister).

they are convinced they can do it

and if he is a jerk, they will want to show the wold they changed him

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DaisyChick
Portland, Oregon USA

Posted: Jul 9, 2008, 5:31 PM CST

When I look at a potential relationship, I look at that person in a whole. Attributes and flaws. If there is anything that I can't handle I just don't even bother going on with the relationship.
If I am already in the relationship when he starts something up I can't handle I weigh the options, then I am honest with him. I would never want someone to change who they are for me and I don't want to change for anyone else.

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alex_192
sarasota USA

Posted: Jul 9, 2008, 5:33 PM CST

DaisyChick wrote:

When I look at a potential relationship, I look at that person in a whole. Attributes and flaws. If there is anything that I can't handle I just don't even bother going on with the relationship.
If I am already in the relationship when he starts something up I can't handle I weigh the options, then I am honest with him. I would never want someone to change who they are for me and I don't want to change for anyone else.

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lusciousmile
Espoo, Etela-Suomen Laani Finland

Posted: Jul 9, 2008, 5:54 PM CST

Sometimes i feel like i could. I'm obviously wrong, though, people can change, due to influences.

I doubt a man would continue to leave his clothes on the floor, if he lived with me.

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cristina
Lisbon, Groningen Netherlands

Posted: Jul 9, 2008, 5:57 PM CST

I can only tell them to shut up...

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mastic55
Long Island, New York USA

Posted: Jul 9, 2008, 5:59 PM CST

I was thinking this was going to be a kinky thread, I was ready to buy adult diapers.

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Rickster
New York, New York USA

Posted: Jul 9, 2008, 6:03 PM CST

A woman thinking she can change men and actually changing them is two very different situations.

Do you think a woman can change you?

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cristina
Lisbon, Groningen Netherlands

Posted: Jul 9, 2008, 6:06 PM CST

Rickster wrote:

A woman thinking she can change men and actually changing them is two very different situations.

Do you think a woman can change you?

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lusciousmile
Espoo, Etela-Suomen Laani Finland

Posted: Jul 9, 2008, 6:06 PM CST

Rickster wrote:

A woman thinking she can change men and actually changing them is two very different situations.

Do you think a woman can change you?

No, Rick.

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crotalus_p
Rush , Dublin Ireland

Posted: Jul 9, 2008, 6:08 PM CST

DaisyChick wrote:

I would never want someone to change who they are for me .

But what if they wanted to change so that they can make you happy because making you happy is the most important thing in the world to them ??????

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lusciousmile
Espoo, Etela-Suomen Laani Finland

Posted: Jul 9, 2008, 6:15 PM CST

crotalus_p wrote:

But what if they wanted to change so that they can make you happy because making you happy is the most important thing in the world to them ??????

Sounds stalker-ish, to me.

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crotalus_p
Rush , Dublin Ireland

Posted: Jul 9, 2008, 6:19 PM CST

lusciousmile wrote:

Sounds stalker-ish, to me.

How is it stalker-ish to want to make the woman you love happy ?

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Barnagie
Warsaw, Mazowieckie Poland

Posted: Jul 9, 2008, 6:28 PM CST

[quote=Rickster]A woman thinking she can change men and actually changing them is two very different situations.

Do you think a woman can change you?[/quote]

I think yes. I have a lot of bad habits which I want to change and when somebody shows me them I always try to change (selfimprovement :) )

Maybe this is not thinking that they can change men.
Some people just afraid to be alone, some people have just low self-assessment.

There are psychological problems.

Goodnight or have a nice day!

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lusciousmile
Espoo, Etela-Suomen Laani Finland

Posted: Jul 9, 2008, 6:29 PM CST

crotalus_p wrote:

How is it stalker-ish to want to make the woman you love happy ?

There are much/many more important things in the world, than living, with the main purpose of making another person happy, furthermore, changing just to make another happy, sounds dependent and scheming.

I didn't mean you were stalker-ish, just the idea mentioned.

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lusciousmile
Espoo, Etela-Suomen Laani Finland

Posted: Jul 9, 2008, 6:30 PM CST

lusciousmile wrote:

There are ~~much/~~many more important things in the world, than living, with the main purpose of making another person happy, furthermore, changing just to make another happy, sounds dependent and scheming.

I didn't mean you were stalker-ish, just the idea mentioned.

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Barnagie
Warsaw, Mazowieckie Poland

Posted: Jul 9, 2008, 6:44 PM CST

crotalus_p wrote:

How is it stalker-ish to want to make the woman you love happy ?

Make Happy at all cost!
I think better is make "don't worried".

But I must tell that I always try to change people which I like/love - in the subject of health and safty.
It is selfish because I just don't want to lose them or see them ill .
And this doesn't make them happy :)

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kissmedeeply
Asheville, North Carolina, North Carolina USA

Posted: Jul 9, 2008, 6:49 PM CST

Why would we want to change them...

if there is something you/him want to change..

Do it for urself..

Trying to change someone even if he/she does it for you...

The relationship will not work out..unless you do it for urself..and
not someone else

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