gingerb: Idealistically I have always believed it was possible until recently. I think age and experience makes a difference to beliefs. If it never happens thenyou beging to believe it maybe isn't possible except in your imagination or something you have gleaned from fairy tales.
That's what boxing ourself in is all about. I think we chatted about this before.
A person who wants to be thought of as demure say, will gravitate to posts and comments that have a demure tone, saying something internally(subconsciously) like , "hey thats me "and will respond in a way that reaffirms that image, effectively placing another block in their wall of demureness.
Open your mind to not so much fairy tales but more, possibilites of who you can be and the blocks tumble away. I see women mostly, holding on to their need to appear to have some decorum, either sensually or verbally, they won't step over that line because doing so removes the blocks that they defined themselves with. I'm not saying we need to go hog wild, just open up to more things that we can be as a person. So what if someone gets the impression you're not demure? You get to make up who your are every moment of your life, so make it fanciful, worth living and someone you can enjoy outside your box..
This moron who is buggin everyone has so many blocks in his wall that he'll never see the light of day .. and that too can happen to us, if we keep adding blocks that we think we need to define us with.
Two million cells in our body change daily, the landscape of the planet undergoes changes at a phenominal rate evry secioond and here some humans still hang on to their little box, unwilling to change anything... to even think diferently about who they are or more importantly can be... Love dont work in a rut and it surely knows no bounds.
age may just be your rut...
so many bricks after so many years... hire a muscle guy with a jack hammer
and get to work!!