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DUBLINGUY1973
Dublin, Dublin Ireland

Posted: Jul 11, 2008, 7:47 PM CST

hung on in a relationship thinking things would get better even though you knew deep down they never would? I have done that a lot in previous relationships for some stupid reason

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DaisyChick
Portland, Oregon USA

Posted: Jul 11, 2008, 7:52 PM CST

Just about every relationship I have been in has been that way. For some stupid reason I always think if I just do "this different" or "that different" it will make things better. Big mistake. I hate letting go of people I love, I definately think more with my heart then with my head!

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uk_man_31
norwich, Norfolk, England UK

Posted: Jul 11, 2008, 7:53 PM CST

ditto

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DUBLINGUY1973
Dublin, Dublin Ireland

Posted: Jul 11, 2008, 7:54 PM CST

DaisyChick wrote:

Just about every relationship I have been in has been that way. For some stupid reason I always think if I just do "this different" or "that different" it will make things better. Big mistake. I hate letting go of people I love, I definately think more with my heart then with my head!

Yeah me too although I'm trying to change. Personally i think it takes two to work on a relationship and make things better and you can't do it all yourself.....

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kissmedeeply
New brunswick, New Brunswick Canada

Posted: Jul 11, 2008, 7:57 PM CST

DUBLINGUY1973 wrote:

hung on in a relationship thinking things would get better even though you knew deep down they never would? I have done that a lot in previous relationships for some stupid reason

Nope when i know its over...ITS OVER

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DUBLINGUY1973
Dublin, Dublin Ireland

Posted: Jul 11, 2008, 7:58 PM CST

kissmedeeply wrote:

Nope when i know its over...ITS OVER

Wise woman

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kissmedeeply
New brunswick, New Brunswick Canada

Posted: Jul 11, 2008, 8:01 PM CST

DUBLINGUY1973 wrote:

Wise woman

aww why thank you dear...i dont stay in a relationship like some say becos of the kids...

If something is bad..i get out of it as fast as i can...

You cannot change a Person..

They have to want it for themself

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DUBLINGUY1973
Dublin, Dublin Ireland

Posted: Jul 11, 2008, 8:10 PM CST

kissmedeeply wrote:

aww why thank you dear...i dont stay in a relationship like some say becos of the kids...

If something is bad..i get out of it as fast as i can...

You cannot change a Person..

They have to want it for themself

Very true. Well i spose when you have someone else depending on you, its easier to be think with your head and not want to settle for second best for their sakes as well as yours

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Hugz_n_Kissez
Someplace, Ontario Canada

Posted: Jul 11, 2008, 8:12 PM CST

DUBLINGUY1973 wrote:

hung on in a relationship thinking things would get better even though you knew deep down they never would? I have done that a lot in previous relationships for some stupid reason

Well maybe my marriage...BUT live and learn...things never got better...they got worse..NOW...ummmmmmm no way...

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alex_192
sarasota USA

Posted: Jul 11, 2008, 8:13 PM CST

DUBLINGUY1973 wrote:

hung on in a relationship thinking things would get better even though you knew deep down they never would? I have done that a lot in previous relationships for some stupid reason

i did it, for one year
she did it for one year

but we did not succed

then we split
we were friends before the marriage, we remainde friends till now

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DUBLINGUY1973
Dublin, Dublin Ireland

Posted: Jul 11, 2008, 8:17 PM CST

Hugz_n_Kissez wrote:

Well maybe my marriage...BUT live and learn...things never got better...they got worse..NOW...ummmmmmm no way...

Well at least you learn from your mistakes

alex_192 wrote:

i did it, for one year
she did it for one year

but we did not succed

then we split
we were friends before the marriage, we remainde friends till now

Well maybe some people are better off as friends, huh?

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Hugz_n_Kissez
Someplace, Ontario Canada

Posted: Jul 11, 2008, 8:18 PM CST

DUBLINGUY1973 wrote:

Well at least you learn from your mistakes

Well maybe some people are better off as friends, huh?

Oh yes I do...I never make the same one twice...some lessons are that great!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Indyfella
indianapolis, Indiana USA

Posted: Jul 11, 2008, 8:37 PM CST

Most people do that, I think. Don't want to be known as a "cut & run" type...plus, want to be able to say you gave it your best shot.

JMO

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Dont_Look_Now
Huntsville, Alabama USA

Posted: Jul 11, 2008, 8:55 PM CST

DUBLINGUY1973 wrote:

hung on in a relationship thinking things would get better even though you knew deep down they never would? I have done that a lot in previous relationships for some stupid reason

I have...I will never do it again...

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Cary0608
Mandaluyong City, Quezon City Philippines

Posted: Jul 12, 2008, 6:44 AM CST

Indyfella wrote:

Most people do that, I think. Don't want to be known as a "cut & run" type...plus, want to be able to say you gave it your best shot.JMO

is it just pride?

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jampet
wexford, Wexford Ireland

Posted: Jul 12, 2008, 6:46 AM CST

yes- made my bed...etc etc , but I've learned, I hope

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BnaturAl
Sarnia, Ontario Canada

Posted: Jul 12, 2008, 6:51 AM CST

DUBLINGUY1973 wrote:

hung on in a relationship thinking things would get better even though you knew deep down they never would? I have done that a lot in previous relationships for some stupid reason

oh ya, incureably so, always thinking there's a way around the probs .. but it takes two and some people get soooo entrenched in their position during an arguement that changing position would affect theyre pride and that means they can't change it at the risk of lossing "face' or "feeling" in the wrong.

Relationships don't usually survive stubborn right/wrong stances.. JMO Am I right?

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shipoker55
St. Petersburg, Florida USA

Posted: Jul 12, 2008, 8:26 AM CST

yes...my second marriage. We stayed together for 16 years. I did it because I was a Christian and was worried what my testimony would be if I couldn't work out our differences. I was miserable, put a good Christian should bear that...after all, look what Jesus bore!!

I came to hate that woman...but pretended to love her so I would look good in front of the church.

It never got any better...till I buried her under the front step!!

JUST KIDDING about the burying her. it was getting to serious.

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bluebelle4000
dublin, Meath Ireland

Posted: Jul 12, 2008, 9:26 AM CST

guilty of that too...............stayed in the realtionship even though i knew he wasnt for me and he felt the same only prob was we were both too nice to say it lol....there was not fights or anything like that or hatred... he didnt want to tell me and vice versa... we are still good friends am glad to say...

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stefonline
Dublin, Dublin Ireland

Posted: Jul 12, 2008, 9:28 AM CST

DUBLINGUY1973 wrote:

hung on in a relationship thinking things would get better even though you knew deep down they never would? I have done that a lot in previous relationships for some stupid reason

Yeah know that feeling.......hung around for 20 years.....am I an idiot or what.......

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