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Why strive for somethinf unobtainable? Strive to be your best...but to strive for perfection is to strive for failure!!

How many times when we are growing up do we hear the words "if you just try you can do it". Everything we did since childhood has often seemed to us unattainable but when we tried we often found that we could get ther,e or do it, or be something, we didn't think we could.

It's all a state of mind. Some of us limit our thinking and abilities by saying we can't do it, but we never know unless we try.

I'm a great believer in striving for the impossible. At worst we still get further than we thought we could and are often stronger for trying.

The rest is only fear and what have we got to lose?

Some live in a fantasy world....others are more reality based!!

Striving for perfection?? "There is no one perfect, no not one" This from the Holy Book that many of you say to believe in!!

Are you trying to prove the writings wrong???
Being your best is a noble undertaking, but trying for perfection is fruitless

striving for love is filled with imperfections. Striving for love is not striving for perfection. It is striving for love
To use your quote as it applies to this thread i to say we should die for the sins of the one we love...as he supposedly did for those he loved.

so we should all die on a cross to be perfect??

I thinks it's just good to say we disagree!!

Truly loving somebody is about putting their needs above our fears and perceived inadequacies.........

actually this thread isn't about love...you turned it around. This thread was about being perfect. I still say it try for perfection is to set yourself up to fail. Strive to be the best you can be...and if you attain that, you are successful. Perfect or not

I will catch hell for this...but then this is me.

I think women, in general, have a high opinion of themselves. I believe that in large, they have more of an ego problem than men. So I can see where they talk about "perfection". Men see themselves more realistically, in general, and know they have limits.

So I can see where women would expect perfection, because many see it when they look in the mirror. Thus they think "I am worth it" when expecting perfection from men!JMO, of course

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question......"What kind of man are you looking for?"

She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking
"Do you really want to know?"

Reluctantly, he said, "Yes."

She began to expound... As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can't do
for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man. I am in the position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?"

The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated, " I am not referring to money. I need something more." I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life." He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain.

She said, " I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man." I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...
believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for perfection financially because I don't need a financial
burden. I am looking for someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman , but strong enough to keep me grounded. I am looking for someone who I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy. God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself.

When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face.

He said, "You're asking a lot."

She replied, " I'm worth a lot."