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He just e-mailed and wants to meet on Thursday afternoon. I likely will go for coffee in a mall but not anywhere else, and see if my youngest daughter can come with me.

Depending on how old your daughter is, that may or may not be a good idea. Best Wishes though if you decide to go. Good luck! Personally I would take a male friend or two female friends.

And a taser

Legal shmegal...they're fun!

My youngest daughter is 25 yrs. old but I may just go myself and meet him in a mall around alot of people. I will not go in the RV, maybe in a few months if things turn out fine but not now.

Good idea...and I like the taser idea and maybe mace...just in case.....

good idea I was going to suggest you bring someone you know and trust.

Pros; he wants to meet you. Why ?

Cons; you're not his body type. You haven't communicated with him to any worthwhile degree. He's just passing through.

Pass on this one.

I agree with Paws....pass on it, public place or not. Experience talking.

Definitely wait until your hear from him again....

Yes I did rethink this and decided to not meet him. I am nothing like what his profile says so still do not know why he would even ask to meet me, especially since he never even e-mailed before this.

Good decision.

kitty,

just tell him briefly that you don't meet his requirements but you'll have coffee with him anyway. obviously at a busy coffee shop or restaurant. theres no harm in it. if your creeped out by him, then respectfully (or not) decline.

what is the worst that can happen this way?

no, I am not going to meet him, I get a bad feeling about this that is why I asked in the first place.

Trust yourself and your feelings

Hi Kitty
well if he has read all the replies to your question on this forum ... I think he would be very wary to try anything funny. - Wait for his reply and like the others say take a friend with you.

I really hate it when men put in their profiles they want a beautiful or pretty woman. How do I know is I am pretty enough for you or slim enough for you.

Well obviously you're pretty and slim enoughor he wouldn't be wanting to meet you.

DO ... go meet him for coffee.

DO NOT ... go anywhere else with him.

Take a chance on it being a complete bust, what's the worst that could happen in a public place?

If all he's looking for is a travel buddy, he'll drop it when he finds out you won't go for that. Who knows, he might be a nice guy. Ya never know.

I wouldn't meet him if there had been no communication back and forth first!!

have you forgotten already how your daughters visit went??

If you haven't heard from the guy before.. then it is a really bad idea.

Believe it or not, some people don't chat on the forums and don't spend months writing letters. The guy I just met had just joined, hadn't even found the forums yet. I just saw him on my who'd viewed me, thought he's too young, can't even see what he looks like the pic is so far away, oh and his username has lonely in it and I hate that! But he's local, so I just sent him a flower to welcome him. We chatted 3 days and met in person. Oh my freakin gawd, when I saw those blue eyes I knew I was in trouble! What can I say, it's been a couple weeks of fun, who knows what's gonna happen tomorrow? I'd never have known if I hadn't taken a chance.

And yeah, I've had some meetings that totally sucked, but it didn't kill me. How else are you gonna know? If you're gonna write it off beforehand, why the heck are we even here? Just be safe and give it a go. Ya never know what will pan out, and worrying about what might happen tomorrow and trying to anticipate every problem that might occur is a waste of today.