Loner1960: Way back when my sisters and I were teenagers. Around the kitchen table at a mealtime discussion. Our parents gave this tibbit of advice. " Observe how your date treats their parents. Especially how a daughter treats her father, and how a son treats his mom. Because that will indicate how they will treat you.
Now many here have had long term relationships. Did your partner end up treating you like they treated their parents? Is this something that you noticed with your brothers and sisters? Close friends? Maybe your own kids?
I will probably be logged off when and if many reply, but I will read with interest in 24 hours.
I also had the same advice given to me years ago by an older female friend but never quite worked out if there's any truth in it or not.
When I think back to the relationships my ex's had with their mothers. I wouldn't say they mistreated them or had bad relationships. Same as they never physically abused me.
However, I do think they were thoughtless and often uncaring. They never used to visit their mothers very often and would sometimes forget birthday etc.
I remember accusing them of acting selfish towards me and often thoughtless too so maybe there is a lot of wisdom in this advice