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Are guys just meant to be mind readers?

I met up with an old friend the other day, her & I went to school together & used to 'hang out' We were good mates and she used to say it often.

She never gave me any hints that maybe she wanted more, or maybe she did & I was just too bloody slow to see it.

I always thought she was fine but never tried to go any further with her for fear of A) Rejection B) Spoiling a great friendship C) Humiliation from my friends for 'shopping in a diamond store on a plastic budget'

My mates often told me that she was too good for me and WAY out of my league, I thought they were good mates trying to save me from embarrassment.

So I used to spend time with her just grateful to be in her life in any capacity, hoping that one day she might say to me something like, "Have you ever thought about us taking our relationship to another level?" or "Do you think of me the way I think of you?"

But she never did, she treated me like a buddy. I was too shy & insecure to make a move and shortly after leaving school we drifted apart.

Now, years later, she gets in touch & says hey, lets catch up.

So we meet & have a cuppa & a chat, she tells me she's happily married for the last 10 years, 3 kids, Husband has a great paying job, owns her own home etc etc, a real success story.

Then, through the course of conversation, she tells me that she used to have the BIGGEST crush on me at school!

I ask, "Why didn't you ever give me a hint? something at least?" & she says, "You never asked!"

She then goes on to say, "No use crying over spilt milk right? besides, life has worked out great for us now."

OMG LADIES??? Why do guys have to be the ones to make the first move? Can't you see that we, for all our macho acts & innuendos, can be insecure too?

And guys, I learnt something very important from all this, just because you THINK you're out of her league doesn't mean she's not thinking about you & if you don't ask, you may not know until its too late to do anything about it!

So, guys & gals, send flowers, send emails, dont be shy, you may get rejected often, but it only takes 1 attempt to discover that special someone may be right under your nose.

Seize the day!

Joshy

Awwww thankies sxc

I may not comment but I read your story. May you find the happiness you once cherished.

Thank you I was actually starting to think people were getting sick of reading about my life story

Maybe i'll continue..........

Well, you have to understand, Josh...some of us women (like you apparently) are too "shy" so to speak to be so upfront and forward as to ask a man out...I know I am that way...I have never been able to ask a man out, I'm a chicken

sometimes a comment isn't merley enough as in your case. sometimes things pull at the heart that much words fail us.

Thats exactly my point! Too many people are shy or fear rejection or something!

We all have a reason why we DONT do something, but if we can overcome the fear, take a bold step & actually make our voices heard, we might just fulfill dreams.

It's got to be better to know either way than live with 'What ifs!" doncha think??

<-biggest chicken you ever saw, I swear!!!!

I was always brought up with the saying "Never regret the things that you have done, only regret the things you haven't"

You're right Josh, seize the day

You have no idea how much that means to me, thank you

Well, lets shed the feathers & beaks together

Just saying it how it is. I too have lost a baby I however lost him at 8 months gestation he was born sleeping. you however held your baby breathed life with your baby, seems to me I was let of a bit easier when i read such stories as yours.

Losing a child is devastating no matter how long you have with them, I dont think anyone has it easier than anyone else.

But the small consolation here is you are not alone, someone, somewhere understands & cares, and I do

Yes I agree.

I'd like to have no regrets when my life is done

Good post. Life is just too short and I totally agree... Seize the day!!

Easier said then done...

Being shy..fear of something or what have you is very hard to overcome it...

I would never ask a guy out...

Its not me...

I have fear of airplanes...Do you think i can over come that..

Maybe???

but not likely...

People do come down on one being shy...

Well God gave us all of these emotions for a reason...

I kind of like a person to be shy..and not all out there....

best to you my dear