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why do people attract the same type?
In my case they are all lairs/cheats in a new relationship i try and give it 100% and not use past relationship experiences against the new one but i think if you have been hurt you cannnot help that!
so why do we keep doing it? going for the same people who will only end up hurting us or letting us down just like we knew they would!!

dont worry it will work out for you in the end one way or another

I've often wondered this myself. All my life, I seem to attract the alcoholics or the ones with some kind of drink problems. Yet, my sister always ended up with the violent types that beat her up badly all her life.

What have you done differently.

LOOK....NOBODY is perfectly HONEST...get over it.

OH............and women like you are soooooooooooo perfect and without faults.



YEAH RIGHT.

AND IN closing,I hope my posts haven't let you down.............














LIKE I CARE.

if we do something long enough, it becomes almost habitual, and at that point, becomes rather difficult to change. not impossible, but difficult. we do this without realizing we are just steping into the same thing all over again. been there, done that, syndrone.

Hiya

After each negative experience we have to take stock and look truthfully at the situation and ourselves and seek to see what lesson this situation is trying to teach us.. there is ALWAYS a lesson.... these trials are lifes way of enriching us, building us up and making us better people...

I had a negative experience recently with a person from here.. what I learned from that situation is not to trust every thing that people say... especially men... many of them will say anything to get what they want (which is often an ego massage )... scripture says that you should judge them by their fruits... this is a good guide I feel... cause people (including ourselves) can say anything... but it is our actions which count..

I wish u the best of luck... they are not all like that... ...no REALLY they aren't ...

Keep the faith... God bless

Not everyone is a liar/cheat...

That was not fair to say...

We have all been through some sort of ordeal...

Its hard to move on too any kind of relationship..and yes the past
does follow you...

You need to be strong and help that person out and show him you
are not like the women he has had in his past...

But just becos i have been with some that were not totally honest...
does not mean others are like him....

Putting Labels on other men/women is just not fair/right...

Be positive and look ahead in the future and hope it all works out..

But if one keeps saying everyone is a liar/cheater then that is what you will get...

You just will never be happy..

JMO

Very nicely stated and soooooo true.

Why do people attract the same type?

The answer is in your question: as long as we are the same, we are going to attract the same type of people. The other types would just not be interested in what we are.

Sometimes it’s very useful to call a lie “a lie” the first time you hear it. If you’d let it go, it won’t go far, it’ll keep coming back again and again in different shapes. If you wouldn’t let it go… well, perhaps the liar will leave. But you don’t want a relationship with a liar, do you?

Thank you

why do people attract the same type?

How many of us at the end of a relationship vehemently blame the ex?

The hardest thing for anyone to do is evaluate themselves honestly when it comes to how they maintain a relationship. Main culprits being ego, pride and self esteem

How many have at one time or another used the line

"Its not you... It's me"
Which in essence was just a polite way of telling another get lost, drop dead, leave me alone.

Our habits are what bring about repeated failed relationships even those that always tend to get abused or expend all their finances again and again. its their own fault.

our lifestyle and habits are the hardest thing to admit to being wrong,or change, yet its going to be necessary if we want to have a long successful relationship.

Yeppers, I suffer from this problem

A good question!
According to Krishnamurty : Relationships are like mirrors , look in2 them and you see yourself.

Love the pic blondie, he is a freakin' idiot! Chalk it up to the never ending lesson of love.

Man, did that soooo need to be said, Fireliter! One recurring problem I see here is "blame the other guy syndrome." The problem with this approach is that it deprives one of insight both into the relationship and into one's own self - with the likely consequence being that the mistake will be repeated ad infinitum.

I like the idea of the "buck stopping here," myself.

we dum

we learn not to stick out hands on the stove burner, and it only takes once... in love matters for whatever reason we keep doing it and doing it ... existential suffering..

Yikes!

Its really simple to me, if I attract the same ole , same ole , its down to my behaviour , so I look at me rather than the other!!