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What I'm having trouble comprehending right now, I know I'll figure it out eventually, is why when I go for the ones who seem to be nothing alike, different age, looks, personality, etc., and I try to respond differently, learning from past encounters, yet they wind up doing the same things! Frack! Is it really me!

In "my" case, "we always see in others, what we do not like in ourselves"..

Well I think it all depends on the people. Everyone has different reasons. Some may be because of low self esteem and past issues. Some could be because it is what they grown used to or grew up being in certain same situations etc...

I think we have to ask ourselves the most why we do the things we do and try to fix them.

I have been a sucker for attracting the same guys all the time. The sweet talkers who make you believe everything they say and of course bling at the time and didn't see their BS. But now I am more cautious and take the time to get to know someone really really well and I figure if the other person can't wait and can't respect my feelings on that then he is not the one for me. The one for me will be patient and understand me and not pressure me. Period!

problem solved.............

We "ALL" have a certain amount of BS (checking around lips). We can be (and some are) overly cautious, living in a state of fear.

Personally. I much prefer to take the risk, I can always turn around and walk away.



"To love, is to risk not being loved in return."

Oh

my

freakin'

gawd!


It just hit me. It's not me that attracts the same types, it's my ass! Dang, not a whole lot I can do about that!

Everbody lies. Some more than others. To say that you always attract liars is to say that you always attract human beings. It's unreasonable to expect your partner to never lie.

Cultural and social conditioning make a lot of men unfaithful cheats. Not all men are cheats - just a large proportion - given the chance.

In my experience, men who are very physically attractive, or who think they're very attractive, do not make good husband / long-term boyfriend material.

In the same way that it's very difficult to find a very beautiful woman with a nice personality.

If you always go just for looks, you'll have to be very lucky to find a calm, intelligent, interesting, unselfish, faithful person.

If you always meet men in pubs, don't be surprised when you often end up with alcoholics.

If you only meet men via the internet, don't be surprised to often meet players or weirdoes.

If you're only attracted to "strong" types, don't be surprised if they turn out to be physically abusive.


Think back to your school days. How many people in your class would have made good partners for you? Probably not many. So why should the proportion be any different amongst the adult population?

Getting a boyfriend is not that difficult. Finding someone who deserves your love and who will love you back is very difficult.

But then half the fun is searching for love and the other half is enjoying your love when you find it...