Posted: Jul 17, 2008, 5:30 PM CST
The first question I would offer is about expectation. Why are you trying to fit this person you would have beside you into YOUR own box? You expect them to reply to your email because of your desire, not theirs. I am interested in how you see such a relationship developing from there. In contrast, if you would simply loet them know that you have NOTICED them, their reply would not only come, but be much more receptive. My advice here is that a relationship should be a mutually beneficial partnership.
Secondly, perhaps some thought should be lent to how you word your emails. People love to be complimented. The most beautiful woman in the world will still smile at a GENUINE compliment. People also like to know that their interests are shared. Show me a person who doesn't like to feel needed and I'll show you someone who is better off alone. My advice on this point would be first and foremost, contact someone only if they TRULY interest you, not just from appearance. Never miss a chance to compliment them. Even if they do not reply, the message you want to convey is there. And finally, be genuine in your message. Regardless of whether they respond or not, you said what you truly felt. Trust me, they will appreciate that.
Of course, this is just my opinion, I could be wrong. In any event, I truly hope that you can find someone that not only interests you, but also completes you.
J