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well...this should win you some "points" with the ladies!!
But you failed to mention anything about loveless, sexless marriages and men!! Wonder why????

Personally, I believe this happens more often than with women.JMO, of course

Stop trying to flog!!

This is from one of the websites that discuss this subject. I am interested in the subject as the opposite can happen too. Men that find themselves in a sexless marriage or partnertship (read the article first before giving opinion)
I mean I have noticed that in many situations women might start the relationship in a very sexual way -as men want in mnay cases- just to fall in their characteristic worries of building life together, children, etc, all those things putting an end to the initial passion.

I am just curious to know about people's opinion.
Bye
Hera's Women and the Loveless, Sexless Marriage

Support for the wives of the Loveless, Sexless Marriage
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------Many women have found themselves in a loveless, sexless marriage. For some this is due to an identified source such as an injury or disease with which their husbands suffer. For others the cause is their husband's addiction to adult entertainment, his infidelity or un-confessed homosexuality.

For others, there came a day when it was all over physically for no apparent reason. The husband no longer desires physical intimacy of any kind, from intercourse to holding hands.

Having concluded the problem is none of the above (in the first paragraph), these women found themselves shut out by more than their husbands; they've been left out in the cold by a society that's convinced the problem is with the wife and refuses to believe there could be anything wrong with the husband. Too, many of these women have been told to simply accept their husband’s lack of desire, effectively shutting down any valid need she has for closeness with her life mate. These women have found judgment and presumption in abundance while support and assistance is severely lacking.

Hera, the Greek goddess of marriage, is the symbol used by the online support group, Hera's Women, to represent those women whose husbands have redefined their relationship as a loveless, sexless union.

Hera's Women is not a dating-romance connection network nor does it seek to accomodate men and/or those who know why their marriage is without affection. It is specifically designed to welcome, validate, and support those women who already know that none of the above-listed problems (in the first paragraph) apply to their situation.

Some of the comments and commenters of the article, "The Loveless, Sexless Marriage" are the reason Hera's Women was started. For more information or to subscribe, please visit Hera's Women.

well...this should win you some "points" with the ladies!!
But you failed to mention anything about loveless, sexless marriages and men!! Wonder why????

Personally, I believe this happens more often than with women.JMO, of course

Agreed; over many years that is the number one complaint from most men that I know when this topic comes up.
Many seem to follow a pattern in that all or most what drove the man's sexual passions stop within a year of marriage children or not; after children virtually all have said the same...'she stopped...' 'she won't do......any more...' she's always tired....always has a headache...etc. etc. I've heard all this so often that it seems to be the number one complaint; the number one cause fro building up resentments on the man's part. Many males think that their wives become fat on purpose to avoid sex...so seems to be the impression of many. On the other hand, however....counseling should be sought out to remedy the situation if the love is actually there for both parties. Not to seek professional help will only add to the misery felt by one or by both; one simply should not avoid sex in a healthy loving relationship; it is by all accounts, the best way we humans have of expressing our affections and love for another in a marriage...jmo and all that also.

I think you have made it your lifes work to argue with everything I say!! Enjoy yourself

A loveless and sexless marriage??!! That would be pure hell!!

Been there, done that, and yeah...it was.
But I stuck with it for 18 years because I had made a commitment. Finally I couldn't take it anymore.

How or when did things change, from being with a person you loved who loved you? Was there a trigger for the behaviour?

the "no sex" was the behavior.

the "no sex" was the behavior.

Stop trying to flog!!

I've been there as well. I'm fairly certain that it is virtually never one of the partners' fault entirely. It is a state of relating that generally reflects on both people's feelings toward the other - just as most problems in relationships involve both individuals, not just one. It takes two to tango, as the hoary but true cliche goes.

The idea that both individuals in a relationship bear responsibility for that relationship doesn't seem to be a popular notion here, I've noticed. Here, the mainstay is blaming the other.