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I have reached that place and come out the other side. I am content and happy with myself but not by myself, not for a prospective 30+ more years. I actually love company and sharing and being with someone. Obviously it has to be the right someone, and I am willing to wait for that, but a companion to go places with and do things with and share stuff with is something I definitely want in my future.

I hope you realize your dreams..

That is dead on! When my last long-term relationship (7+ years) ended so badly, I had to pick myself up from rock bottom in two stages.

First, I had to realize that I had a RIGHT to be happy with myself and with my life again; if I let the ex diminish my happiness in any way, then I was still allowing him to affect me negatively.

Second, I had to choose to trust other men; if I let the fears and trust issues caused by the ex get in the way of having any other relationships, then I was still allowing him to affect my life negatively.

Either way, I was not about to let the ex have any more say-so over MY life. That's when I realized that the ultimate victory was to be perfectly content in my life, with or without a man. Granted, I would still like to meet a quality man for a long-term relationship; I would still like to unleash all the love I have left to give, but until the situation is right, I will continue being as happy and as active as I normally am. so yeah, my life is very, very good. Point for me, zero for the ex.

The best revenge, is a life well-lived...

Definitely!

I am happy to hear about your triumph over the pain that your ex caused you.. I really do understand how it feels, I went through one of the worst times in my life about a year and a half ago.. I posted something about it not to long ago in one of Riya's threads.. I would not wish the pain and suffering I went through on my worst enemy..
But like you I had to pull myself up, and get back on my feet and continue living my life, and like you would like to meet a quality lady.. I may have to go through a few before I meet the one that's right for me, and may even get hurt again in the process, but that is a chance I am willing to take to hopefully find what I have been looking for..

Keep on keepin on girl.. here's to finding what we have been looking for..

Btw, i'm sure a lovely lady like yourself won't have to much trouble finding a man that's right for you..

Happyness shared is multiplied, sadness shared is divided!

You never know what life brings and a good spouse is nice to have in both cases.

and they can tell you when you misspelled happiness too!

derrywoman and sxc666, right back at ya:

Thank you. I hope you do too.

Perfectly happy and content by myself. It took me a long time to get to this place in my life but I am proud to say I am here, despite all of the obstacles I and my little family have had to endure and go through to get here...we are happy and at peace for once.

It will take a very special man to change that for he would have to be able to "slip into my life" with out upheaving it...

I do, however, know for a fact that God has someone out there for me and when the time is right, we will meet (if we have not already and He is just getting a good laugh out of this, lol...God has a wicked sense of humor, you know, lol)...so to all of our futures whatever they may hold

Love to you all!

some point in our lives we come to the point
where we do not need someone in our lives
sometimes we just want someone in our life
we don't need them
but we want someone to share our life with

















don't ask me i get confuse when it comes to ladies anyway

Sometimes I find it easier to stay confused about alot of things.

Less stress.

Am at the point where I don't need or particularly want someone in my life full time. I enjoy my freedom. Kids are finally grown and I can come and go as I please. But if I did meet someone and we really clicked and got along with no drama or roller coaster rides would definitely make room.

Can say that I've reached that place ~ maybe because its really not my heart's desire. I want to be a part of that old couple that I see at lunch time ..... sitting beside each other, a few words spoken once in a while, just content to sit together ............. or that older couple that you see walking and holding hands together as they wander down the street.

You surely have Daniel.......sorry im only getting back to you now.....needed to close my eyes for the night.....hope you are good today...

Hi hun,

I agree with you entirly....I had this kind of relationship my way or the high way no nice at all......relationships should very much be a two way street......nice post....