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In the real world certain rules of contact with another apply,
what are your rules of proper etiquette when chasing someone who has sparked your interest/curiosity on the internet scene ?

Do you take the first"not interested"response and move on?

Do you actively hunt down all their threads and comments and post to them?

Do you flower them and write letters to them repeatedly?

When / where is the line drawn between very interested and stalker?

#1. I don't chase anyone. I have a bad knee.

#2.I don't hunt down their threads. If I find the content of their thread interesting I reply if not i just move on.

#3. I neither write letters nor send flowers unless the guy sends me one first. I will answer back when someone sends me one.

this is not a real world
this is a fake world

no clear rules of etiquete

if you are new and the other one has lots of friends, the friends will sugest her to block you

in the other hand
if she is new, and you are the one having friends, people in the forums will sugest her to be patrient that you are being funny, and she should join the fun

I'd love to hear answers to these questions.

I feel bad sometimes for telling someone I'm not interested, and even worse when I see the person religiously viewing my profile every day... However, because we're incompatible in the first place, I can't even explain to them the main point - that I appreciate their interest but sadly cannot reciprocate.

As far as my own rules go, if the door even looks locked, I won't try to open it. I do feel it's up to the man to do the pursuing (to a reasonable extent, however).

Yes, or even before. Lack of interest is clearly visible.



No, but I do pay attention to what they have been writing before I contact them.



Whithout respons? No, why would I? And flowers are earned...



When I block them.

i got no rules i just try to be punctual and reply to all msges i receive until some of those interested show their true nature and everything ends up with a "fuck off"

when i am really interested or fond of smb, i just say it:)

I've never been one to chase.
Simply put, the kind of men I prefer don't require me to hunt them down & drag them back to my cave.

As for when someone is attempting to gain my interests, I like to see normal interaction. If you can not speak to/with me like a human or a friend, I see no reason to continue.


Yes... but that's me.
If I tell some one that I'm not interested, they really should take it to heart. I do my best to be kind in my wording, but it's not a challenge to do else wise.


No. A little goes a long way.
If you already have something brewing, then playful stalking(- key word"playful") is tolerable.

I will, however, read anything they have posted. I've seen people post lies, simply to get someone to talk to them... drop into an active thread & post one emot(tacky!) over & over again... or stalk an uninterested person to the point of annoyance.
These are things you want to know about. It keeps one from having to hide a body later.



The key word here is "repeatedly".
Do you have an open dialog with said person? If you are talking, then a few notes/flowers are fun. If you're not getting the response you want, for gawdsakes, don't be a pest!


If I send a note & nothing comes back, it's time to move on.

For me, if I have to send a nasty response... then you're an idiot & should be flogged with dry branches. I will make a point of avoiding having to go to that point... but don't push it.
A stalker in the making will insist on an immediate response, fill the mail box up with argumentative letters before you even have a chance to read the first one & then run to the forums to rouse support from others when they don't get their way.
These are the people who should be glad they don't know me in person.
When manners are left to the way side & selfishness becomes the backbone of action, the person is given a solid chewing out & blocked.

...but that's how I roll...

Remind me to never get on your bad side.

I feel people need to express thier wants and desires openly and be honest and up front. Should someone seem to be "coming on strong" then talk with them. Ive seen both sides of the fence. Ill step back if a lady says shes only interested in friends and likewise Ill boldly tell a lady. sorry but Im not looking.
As in real life communication is key and being honest with people doesnt hurt any.
If things are "looking serious" than talk to the person come to an agreement with them and move on from there.
Thats the only eticate I know in RL and on-line.

You must be new here..dont mess with Spicey shes as smart and vicious as she is sexy and pretty....



Hi Spicey

I sure do... don't waste me time. Its not a guessing game.



oh ya thats the only way to get a virtual date NOT!


nope first time, if no answer, or delays, no response, or no thanks, I am outta that scenario.



I say I'm interested ... in private. Whats so hard about that?

Online is for messing around, chatting debating, goofing off. Even private mail doesn't guarantee a relationship but online stuff is so iffy, indirect and dubious that I tend to just write it off. And I dislike people who bring their relating drama to the forums. There's mail, flowers, email, phones, friends, a millioin ways to TALK with someone. I think stalkers are people who do that sort of thing online. Like to publicise their relationship online looking for support. blechhhh

*hahahaaaa...
Hi Hunny!

Dave knows how I am.
I don't tolerate BS, not dished out to my friends & certainly not sent my way.
That doesn't mean I'm going to pick at a cancer, hoping it goes away. I'll make short work of surgically removing that annoyance in a flash!

*luvluv...

Gotta luv a woman who dont mess around. Straight to the point.

I'll make a small attempt to open dialogue through mail once, maybe twice, really cant be chuffed with chasing

i don't usually persue............like to be persued at least at first

The hunt is on

In the real world certain rules of contact with another apply,
what are your rules of proper etiquette when chasing someone who has sparked your interest/curiosity on the internet scene ?

Do you take the first"not interested"response and move on?
Uh, yeah ... just like IRL. If I say I'm not interested, I'm not changing my mind most likely, and if I do it won't be cause they kept pursuing me. And if someone else is not interested in me, who cares? I respect that.

Do you actively hunt down all their threads and comments and post to them?
No, that is a bit stalkerish, and very irritating.

Do you flower them and write letters to them repeatedly?
Again no. One is all ya get without reciprocation. I'm not like some of the girls, I will send a flower sometimes just to be nice and show interest, if they don't want to respond, that's cool with me, but I'm not gonna keep it up, that would be a bit pathetic.

When / where is the line drawn between very interested and stalker?
The line is when your interest is not returned, and you keep on pursuing it. This ain't the 1800's when women expected to be wooed, and played coy and hard to get till she convinced the guy he'd have to ask her to marry him to get any. Most men and women nowadays, when they say no they mean it.

SHeesh...no wonder I haven't heard from you yet, Somechick!??

I firmly believe it's a man's role to pursue, pursue, pursue - until he's either mortally wounded or run's out of gas (or gas money!).