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Wow, that sounds like an amazing relationship!

Are you watching realisation dawn?

never heard of it ..


SIMPSONS forever!!

I don't think this has to do with not being willing to go out there again. I am fool enough to do that without reservation. I just wanted to be able to do it a bit wiser, maybe find some way of recognising signs or something so I don't have to be a fool every time.

What am I then doing here

I never said I did not break the trust...

If people can recognise a soft touch, good person etc, as a trustworthy person, then there must be a way of seeing it.

So is being a good erson and a good friend synonamus with being trustworthy? Are there other ways of recognising it?

Sorry to hear that.

I could maybe clarify this by saying that people pretend to be good people so it's not easy to recognise a trustworthy one.

ahhhhhh,, red flags ... Oooo ... well that may discourage you further. I could post a website to peruse those 'flags' but I find, and again personally that there are levels of abuse in us all, as well as levels of love. The flags might serve a purpose in avoiding the consistently abusive...But:

What might serve you better is looking for someone who is unafraid of talking about their feelings and just as willing to hear yours, without needing a bottle of Shnapps to do it.

People find it difficult not to take offense when it appears someone is hurt. We tend to personalize it as an attack instead of realizing they are feelings, just feelings. It's as important for the talker as it is for the listener to realize this. Problems begin with personalizing, the ego runs amock and all hell breaks loose. It then appears as if the other doesn't care, sadly, and communication takes a bad turn, even abusive.... all from not assessing one's feelings and then presenting them without bias, or blame.

Even if youm if the other person doesn't know feelings, then they will undoubtedly see bais and blame no matter how hard you tried to avoid it.

sad huh? ahhhh humans...

hows buddha?

there's a good point... people who dont challenge you relatively early in a relationship are likely people who stock pile sh*t, and save it up until you're lassooed...so avoid people who are nothing but charm for weeks and months on end...no serious discussions means something's up.

Better chance with someone who doesn't take your sh*t form the start, in a nice way of course.

JMHO

Thanks for that. It made complete sense.

Buddha is getting to know me nicely. It has the beginnings of trust. Ony because he is dead of course.

Like you huh?

Sounds good!!!

Seriously thanks! You kinda cut to the heart of what I really wanted to know.

very well said, and straight to the point

Opps, forgot the other side of the coin ... the person who shuts down or avoids discussions when you challenge them. Aggressive and passive aggressive ... the line in the middle is contemplative, then assertive. We humans fall off the line a lot


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good ain't he! He should set up a clinic.

thats UNpossible! someone would have to have met him and then?

:checkin the obits:

nope not there, keep lookin for him though

sex clinic ...

Dream on big boy!!!!!!!!

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