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Do you ever get that empty feeling like you are missing something or someone has taken a part of you that you may never regain?

Sounds a little depressing and I have started this thread many times, but have always deleted it.

If you feel this way, what do you think could make you feel whole again?

Zee

yep have felt that way.............when i feel whole again i'll let ya know what did it

Yes! When my mom died of Cancer last year in January is when I felt a part of me gone. I know she is with me spiritualy and I do feel her presence with me often but I still feel that a part of me is missing since she has been gone. She and I were always close. A lot of people said we looked more like sisters and best friends than mom and daughter.

I miss her alot

Often, particularly here in So Cal. Tactically, I try to refocus on other things...

-Things are what they are for a reason - better things are in store. Or at least it does not hurt to think that way.

-I am blessed with this life. It could certainly be much worse.

-One day I may just move back to Michigan. Yes, I know - that sounds more depressing - but it is home.

-There's a couple of bikes in the garage. Maybe I should go tinker...

yes
listing things im grateful for
and believing there is a wisdom that has a plan for me




if i need to be sad i allow myself to be sad for a certain amt of time
and then move on...cuz i can wallow...

sharing helps too so youre doin okay

I am empty inside and I don't think....no, I know, I will never be happy again.

I can honestly say the best years are behind me!

ship thats so hawt









STOP IT!

Good question.... but has more than one method of... filling in that void, or healing.


I do something.... like paint, write... go for a walk....... sit out side and look at the sky, my garden.... listen to music and think. Sometimes it involves me looking at myself to see why I feel this way.

I wonder why I feel this way if my life is full..... For myself, I think it's because I want to be special to that one person... does not mean I am not loved, but would like to have that special person in my life.

And since I am neurotic... I give myself hell for feeling this way.

Wish I had an answer for you. Sorry.

live life on the happy side
only stay on the sad side for a moment
I have them feelings
I can live in peace with those feelings
I just decide to live my life happy

Yes I have that now, and nothing I can do about it except to fill that void with love of friends and deal with the rest.
Time heals some and staying busy to helps some to. Having good friends around is also helpful.

i wouldnt have survived any of my life w/o my pets

My only pets are fish, they don't appreciate me taking them out of the water to hug them

I was thinking of getting a few parameciums, but I hear they are hard to train...

hmm .. i feel whenever we give unconditionally or love someone a lot and for whatever reason that person is away or gone from our life ... one would feel like a part of them is missing . Rather its a wierd incomplete feeling , a desire for more and the wish that things weren't this way.

But think about it , its almost like a cycle of life and nature. Nothing we have is ours for real or permanent. Everything , everyone we invest our love, time and life into is going to be there only for as long as they are .. but not always.

But does this stop us from loving or caring ? .. no !

So when u have loved , you have actually given so much that it enriched your life and somebody else's. So when they are gone or not around , it is definitely painful but for having given , you are richer in return and have the times and memories which are worth a lifetime.

Personally, i feel its just not in our hands many times to keep someone( anyone) in our lives and i think atleast one has the times spent together to think of .... better than not having felt or longed to cherish those moments in a lifetime.

hey, this is good.
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i've felt this time and time again (empty feeling) and i take time to think about it. i even cry even if tears don't really want to come (which is very frustrating),i wallow in self-pity(not a very good thing to do, but i do it anyways) but i give myself a due date(no kidding), ill tell myself, today is the last day for having this empty feeling and just fill my brain with happier thoughts and i focus on other things.

The thing is i feel its natural to feel empty at times as its a sign that u are still sensitive and feel ..

But the problem is that each one has an emptiness which can be filled in a different way. We need to realise what is it that we are actually seeking .

I feel this way a lot. That aching pit in your stomach and heart feels never-ending sometimes. Apperently time heals all wounds so that's what I am hoping for.
Good luck to you Z!

Ummm, yes and no.

I don't feel like there is something missing from me.

I don't feel like someone has taken part of me, cause even if they're not in my life anymore, they gave me something that they can't take away.

I get as lonely and depressed sometimes as anyone else. Sometimes I just let myself feel that way. After spending so many years denying my feeling to the point of being numb, I know this sounds weird, but it feels good to let myself feel bad. I used to be scared to, cause I was afraid I'd never come back from it. Now I know I can.

Sometimes when I get to feeling that way, I don't want to, so I do something to make myself feel better. Think about everything I have to feel grateful for, how lucky I am to even be alive, much less alive with the wonderful life I have now.

Whole, yeah I think sometimes that there is someone somewhere who could complete my happiness. Someone who could stand by me, who in the word of the Bonnie Raitt song, could stand a little shaky ground. But I don't have to have just any someone in order to feel complete. If I'm gonna have someone in my life, they need to have something to contribute to me, emotionally, mentally, physically. Maybe I'll find it someday, maybe not. Either way I'll be happy. I'll be complete. I will have friends and family to complete my life. I will complete other's lives. I will have a whole life, all of life, all that I can hold and more.

you have a wonderful way at understanding life.....

I used to line dance to fill that void but the person I am spending a lot of time with doesn't and has no interest. We fish together, play cards, do some rock n roll dancing, work in the garden, cook...lots of other things. You have to be happy with yourself....know who you are....

I think everybody get's "that empty feeling" with or without a relationship, expecting someone special or expecting something out of that someone special, or expecting nothing either or it is an empty feeling at times to you.