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i have tha off and on, especially recently when my boyfriend broke up with me in a text message w/out any cause. It can be hard , but i am trying to remember all the good things i have like my 10yr old and family and i am alive

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The " know who u are " can be such a long process in itself
But its true.

I totaly understand this void you speak of for a couple months now I have been feeling the same icky stuff.

Let me share a little one with you ok? today on the porch i was looking through my phone and found a locked message from my son over a year ago, it read " ma, i know you don't want to hear this right now but it is not the end of the world, you have your family that loves you, and you have me and i love you more than anything" he had texted this after a breakup.That made me smile today and i sent him a text saying "your sweet, i love you" it helps sometimes when we remember the BIG/LITTLE things we have in life









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When I become depressed or begin to feel that empty feeling of the lose of someone close to me I do take time to remember the good things,the bad and the crazy times and how much fun I had with everyone of them.

Sometimes I make a list of the ways each of them influenced my life and the things that I want to do because they inspired me to do them.

Then I do those things, and celebrate their life and what they gave instead of mourning my lose.

Then I get together with other people who knew/knows the person on a special day like turning that day like that persons bday's into a "share ways that that person touched my life in a positive way" party.

Everyone gets that feeling sometimes. And although yes, having someone to be there alot of times aids in relieving that feeling. It is not the cure. That empty hole inside of you that you feel is just that. "inside of you" and you can not fill the hole with something from outside. Such as a relationship, a new car, or house. The excitement of aquiring these things may cover the hole for a bit so you dont notice it. But once the dust settles you will feel just as empty in that relationship, car, or house. As far as what the real problem is, you are the only one who can answer that. I have dealt with that feeling for a long time. When you feel that way sometimes its easy to get caught up in feeling upset that you feel that way. Which causes a viscious cycle. Instead try to just accept that you feel that way. And then take a little time to look at why you feel this way. If it's something that you can do something about then do it. Like if you are lonely, go visit a friend or even go srike up a conversation with a stranger at a bar or somthing. Never know who you'll meet. And usually even things you can't do anything about you really can do something for yourself. Like aging. Cant stop it. But you can choose to not stop living. Sure the past has good memories, but the more you live in them the less you live and make new ones.
Just my opinion

I agree, welcome to cs by the way

Thank you

Welcome

I just accept that the best bits of my life are now over and can never be relived. Some people are missing that are irreplaceable. Some great times can never be relived. I can well understand when people say a part of them died forever when certain life events happen so they never feel truly emotional complete again.

I think it's maybe similar to when someone loses a limb. They just accept it, adapt and carry on living the rest of their physical lives as well as can be even though they can never be physically complete again.

By the way, I don't mean my answer to come across in a negative way, more a realistic one from my point of view.

And a very good one, thanks krugon.

Another good one zell. Acceptance is the key.

Like I'll never have my original hip back, and never be able to run and move quite like I did before I got hit by that d@mn car. I can't let it stop me from living my life. Well I could, I did for a while, but had to get past that. I'm happier now than I was before, just cause I know how to be.

Maybe it's not so much what someone has taken from me,but more like what I might have Lost or actually thrown away by not caring or not paying enough attention.
Something a Friend sent me a while ago:


The Soul does not grow by addition, but by subtraction.

Might sound like a Contradiction,but think about it.

never thought of it this way but yes ..

That's right You have a great way of explaining things

Wise words...I've danced around that thought but could never quite capture it. I threw away the best relationship I ever had. It has taken me nearly 5 years to come to terms with and take responsibility for my actions. The hole is slowly becoming less painful.

Let me give you some bad news.

There's nothing wrong with having an empty feeling,but knowing 'why' isn't going to solve your problem.

Knowing why you're angry,depressed,sad,etc....isn't going to do a thing for you.

It's kind of like being on the TITANIC and it's sinking,and you tell yourself,''I'm not getting off this ship until I find out why it's sinking.''
WTF????

The point is,get off the sinking ship and do something about it.

Easier said than done.......but you can do it!

Where is that Kicking Butt emoticon!

What did I DO NOW?