Posted: Sep 30, 2008, 1:55 PM CST
This seems very much like an exercise in futility. The term "Good Guy" is very relative, and, furthermore, most girls over the age of 24 recognize us "A$$holes" are only good for flings. So, maybe you should feel pity for the A-hole who can't maintain a serious relationship because he's scared to open up. Or, scratch that, feel bad for the "good guys" who pretend to be bad boys because women are seemingly attracted to the "dangerous, needs-to-be-tamed" wild boys. Or we can feel bad for the good guys that are afraid of telling their gal-friends how they feel, so they just end up being the "gay" friend with no chance (that whole he's like a brother spiel). OR! We could just feel bad for all the singles and half of the couples for the strange dysfunctions that accompany all of the relative personality types. Everyone's F'ed up somehow, no one is a "good guy," but, in some ways, we all are. Let what flows flow, plant the seed, wait to see what grows. Don't like the fruit? Find another seed in another garden. Variety, it's everywhere.