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Well I wouldn't give up, just continue being true to yourself. You did nothing wrong and followed through on your word. There will be someone out there that you'll find.

Sometimes we need to perhaps change our way of doing things. Sometimes people do have last minute things that happen or they chicken out or truly they do get sick. So maybe call to confirm before you leave, meet half-way (one does only one person need to do the traveling???).

I know its painful to be stood-up (had that happen to me as well) ..... but its not about you - its them and I wouldn't bother giving them anymore of my time or energy.

Awww sorry....we are just like that...Lol

Hey dude! Sorry you were disappointed on your meet. But before you give up put some more thought into this. Maybe she just plain got cold feet. It takes a lot of moxie to go somewhere to meet someone for the first time. Doesn't necessarily mean she's a scammer. People actually do get bad headaches, so maybe it was just coincidence. Don't know the entire situation with the two of you and I can understand your anger/disappointment, but give her the benefit of the doubt. Everyone gets at least one mistake forgiven.

No kidding.....

If this is the first time in your life that you have been stood up, live and learn.

True, so I gave the "Pilot" I spoke of before another chance. I met him and he was okay. We were supposed to go out to eat but all he wanted to do was watch TV in his hotel room. I enjoyed his company and he was literate and could hold a conversation but I had been asked for and expected dinner having driven an hour right after work. Other than that, not impressive and I didn't sent him a thank you or chat again--no second date or third chance for him. [scratched him off the list!]

Buy yourself a blow up doll.

You know, if life didn't give you disappointments once in a while, then you wouldn't appreciate all the things that do go good for you in your life. It also sounds like you have some other larger issue that comes from deep within that needs to be addressed. If you don't then you will never have the strength or self confidence that is required to enable a healthy relationship in your future.

Also, if she was just blowing you off, then you should thank her for ending it now instead of later and wasting your time on her. Obviously in this scenerio, she is not the one for you and you need to be glad that you didn't put more into the "relationship" then what you already have, if you really want to call it one.

the only date i've been on from here- i wasn't feeling well the day of, but i would have dragged myself there, come hell or high water( and , after meting him, i know i wasn't wrong!!) as i was so excited about meeting him.
I'm afraid she may have had a change of heart and , erroneously ,thought that it would be kinder to pass it off as ill health, than just admit she didn't want to meet. I'm sorry it happened but don't give up - there are so many mre chancs for happiness

oh come on...you know iowa girls are just nasty...

chin up and try again...

Sorry to hear this happened, Alan...but you really should not generalize women that we are all out to make you hurt or that we are all out to "play with your mind/heart/whatever". She is more than likely hiding something as the other posters stated above...don't give up over this one bump...keep goind, you'll find who you are looking for

Okay, I am going to try to explain things from MY point of view. I cannot speak for other women out there.
It is not meant to offend and I apologize in advance if I am being too forward or blunt.

In your threads/posts you generalize women a lot, lumping them all into one specific catagory where they are all 'against' you... It is YOU that is against yourself! As I have posted many times in your threads, CONFIDENCE speaks volumes to a woman. I don't want to be with someone who is down all of the time and who has the "poor me, life is unfair" attitude. That right there shows me that they have underlying issues within themselves and that they are no where near ready for a relationship. Finding a good partner is an important step in life but the most important one is finding yourself FIRST. I want to be with someone who knows who they are, who appreciates who they are and no matter how tough things get will still LOVE WHO THEY ARE! They aren't going to love me for the right reasons if this is not established first.

Also, If a guy tries too hard it is a huge turn off for me. I am not talking sweet gestures, sending sweet emails here and there, calling ever so often, but someone who repeatedly calls and checks in numerous times during the day when I have stuff going on. Desparation is NOT attractive to me whatsoever. It makes me worried because if he has nothing else going on in his life other than me that is just WAY too much pressure!!

I am not saying that you do all of these things. I don't know how you handle yourself one on one with someone. I am just offering up advice on how THIS woman feels. (ME)

I really am sorry that this happened to you. We all have painful things happen in life and you get up, brush yourself off and move on from it just a wee bit stronger. Yes she could have been hell-bent on hurting you, though I highly doubt it. She may have felt too much pressure to meet and she wasn't ready or may be she truely was ill.

I definately think that giving up on dating would be more of you giving up on yourself. DON'T DO THAT!!
Much luck to you Alan. I hope you read everyones advice and are able to move on from the situation.

Wow.Sorry to hear that,but! don't give up so easy.One day you will meet that special person :

Whoa back there....lol This doesn't only happen to guys. I've had numerous times when I've set up to meet a guy and he's never showed up, never called with an explanation, in fact...never heard from them again!!

Not everyone is sincere in their desire to meet someone. Don't take it so personally Alan. It's their problem, not yours. Just keep at it & you'll find the ones that do keep the date. Then you have to decide if it's worth following up with more.

well why shouldnt i be the ol predictable me?

your so full of self pity an emotionally healthy woman would run from you

as hard as it may be try to "act as if" you know your life is ok
and that you are content.

i say this because i have bitten my tongue since your arrival at CS-always so hurt, so victimized, so heartbroken , needy-etc etc

im sure youre a wonderful guy but you are one of the walking wounded-its really scary and unattractive-

if we have any age on us at all we all have our 'stuff'
- but it seems even a date with you would make me feel so obligated
to fix you/save you that ive been afraid to even type to you on a forum.

i dunno if this makes any sense to you but i went thru a period like this and i had to really really take a break from thinking i needed someone-i had to get a mentor and as time went on i had to role play with this person-meaning practice out loud what to say when interacting w/ someone i might like to date (its also good to remember we never know who we meet might introduce us to)

i gave away too much-my wounds showed- i had no 20mph-only zero-home alone and sad or 60mph telling someone too much in a first conversation.

im not ashamed-im better now. but i know for sure if i would have continued the way i was i would not feel at all fulfilled in any area of my life...

firstly-its toooo much pressure on the other person!!
and secondly-she doesnt know you so why take it personal?
im a firm believer that rejection is gods protection-
in hindsight i can see jobs and men that didnt accept me that ended up being a blessing. but the attitudes you have are having the opposite effect toward your goal.

i say this in all caring since youve posted this sentiment over and over


MF