Posted: Jul 24, 2008, 12:03 PM CST
5tuna wrote:I started a long term ralationship at a young age 17 to be axact we bought a house togather and even had brought a wonderful son into the world . we were togather for 7 years and we even talk about getting married . one week after that discusstion my world fell apart . she came to me and said she wanted to move out . after lots of tears , quastions , and confustion I did . then came lawers and such wich wasnt so bad . my lawyer said this was the easiest sepperation he has ever delt with . he then asked me why we are both doing this ? I simply did not have an awnser . I ended up with money for my house and shared custody of my son . she met someone shortly after this and is now getting married . her and i get along great and hardly ever have any disagreament . I still wonder the what if and think about her every day . I also wonder if she does the same .
Ask her!Ask her if she wonders.
I will answer for her though.Sure she wonders.
Once a child is involved ,there is or should be a permenent bond,at the parental level.
Have you moved out of the state your child is in?NO. Life now kinda revolves around your child.
Good Luck,been there.
Oh and to affirm a point that was made.Yes,they want to come back.
his/her:make this a generic letter for sake of discussion.I have seen cases where after 10 years a get together is talked about.
Final note:You will need to find closure,to help you move on.You are somewhere in the acceptance stage but keep going back to denial.
No bitterness or anger though.Thats a plus for the childs sake.
I wish "they",made it as difficult to get divorced as they do to get married.Depending on ceremonies and what not,planning etc.
Barring abuses,and extreme cases.We have an obligation to the children.They need BOTH parents.
It's made TO EASY ,to file some paper,and hand over a check.
Again.Good Luck.
