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My roommate may have guns, but I got untraceable drugs and syringes in my cabinet... (Just kidding, I have no drugs and I have no idea if she brings her firearm(s) to our house and I refuse to even know. I hate guns).Anyway, I think I agree with you. I haven't been flirtatious with him so I haven't sent mixed signals like that. Only friendly.
And I think I will stick to the "I don't want to mess up our friendship"-decliner, don't want to drag my roomie into it.

hahaha

Thanks for the help guys, makes me feel more comfortable about my decision knowing I'm not just being paranoid or something.

I think you should always trust your own judgement and decisions on things, no matter if it looks paranoid, just trust yourself and instints.

I know, but when you don't have a lot of experience with dating and stuff, it can sometimes be difficult to know if you're interpreting things correctly.

Thats true, but still if anything makes you uncomfortable , then listen to that.

When I first landed in this God forsaken/chosen country I didn’t know a soul.

I live in a small 2-bedroom apartment with a shared living/dining/cooking area. My flat mate is a young woman recently out of the police academy and we really get along – she calls me her best friend and it’s mutual.

Anyway, rewind to me getting to America. She took me in when I had nowhere else to go. She had lived with her boyfriend, but they broke up because they felt more like friends than lovers.
Her (ex) boyfriend really helped me getting settled, he went furniture shopping with me and carried all my stuff back to the place. He helped us paint the whole joint. I really got to know him pretty well.

He’s in and out of our apartment along with other friends and he’s just a really great guy. My roommate is now seeing someone else, and the two guys get along great too.
Six months after I moved in my roommate started to joke about me dating her ex. I either ran along with the joke in a sarcastic tone (“Yeah, wouldn’t THAT be something straight out of The Bold and the Beautiful?”) or simply just ignored it.
It has now been a year since I moved in and suddenly things are getting a bit too serious for my liking.

Her ex stops by more often now, often just to hang out with my roomie’s boyfriend "for no reason in particular" and basically ignores me/acts strange when doing so, or he hangs just with the two of us and suddenly everything's cool between us. He seeks me out when being HER guest if I’m home just to chat and hear about my day… It’s pretty obvious he likes me a lot.
And my roomie keeps saying in a suddenly-not-so-joking fashion that she would be totally okay with me dating him.
I think perhaps she’s in on it.

I find it kinda weird, this whole idea of me dating him. In my head he’s just my roomie’s ex, nothing else.
But still, I have fun around him and he seems like a really cool guy. I just don’t know if I got the right chemistry with the guy, I’ve never considered him date material (he was off limits) so I never looked at him that way.

So the question remains… Should I take the chance or should I bail?

I’m afraid of trouble with my roommate in spite of all the things she says, and I’m afraid of trouble in general since he’s part of the group of people I hang with… Don’t s… where you eat, right?

Hm… YOU decide!

just wait to see if he asks you out, if you like him go, if not don't. You're overthinking this...

She asked the question 2 months ago,

you're just staring at her chest,

and underthinking this...

It's like an epidemic!

It's like an epidemic!

God, you're hillarious!