Some issues or matters u should have discussed ..

riyablossom
somewhere India

Posted: Aug 1, 2008, 12:09 AM CST

Before u said i do .. be it marriage or relationship .. which today you feel might have made a difference if u had discussed or shared ..

Is there anything like that u think u would like to share ...

On the other hand .. what do u think are key things that should be discussed before u make the big decision ..

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JusDoinMytingYo
there Uzbekistan

Posted: Aug 1, 2008, 12:14 AM CST

I think people should disclose all memberships to singles and dating websites.... I mean ... if they still have an account for a match making website..... maybe you should reconsider getting married....

but i'm old fashioned..... I only believe in getting married once....

um, other things that should be discussed..... ones T-cell count, any burning of itching....

everything else is pretty much plain luck

IE, everything should be open for discussion, if not.... become a statistic.

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riyablossom
somewhere India

Posted: Aug 1, 2008, 12:15 AM CST

I think usually the things which make a big difference later on are usually the little things .. ..
But some major issues also like ..
* Religion and faith issues.
* Parental interference

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riyablossom
somewhere India

Posted: Aug 1, 2008, 12:17 AM CST

JusDoinMytingYo wrote:

I think people should disclose all memberships to singles and dating websites.... I mean ... if they still have an account for a match making website..... maybe you should reconsider getting married....but i'm old fashioned..... I only believe in getting married once....um, other things that should be discussed..... ones T-cell count, any burning of itching.... everything else is pretty much plain luck
IE, everything should be open for discussion, if not.... become a statistic.

Initially i thought u were joking in the T cell part ... then i got it

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JusDoinMytingYo
there Uzbekistan

Posted: Aug 1, 2008, 12:20 AM CST

small things will stay small unless you let them gather in a corner and set a gallon of insecurity next to them.... then boom....

I find it hilarious when I hear about couples getting married after only knowing each other for a few months..... It cracks me up....

I've seen so many people I graduated with get divorces... It's great because I get to say, "I told you so."

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riyablossom
somewhere India

Posted: Aug 1, 2008, 12:23 AM CST

JusDoinMytingYo wrote:

small things will stay small unless you let them gather in a corner and set a gallon of insecurity next to them.... then boom....

I find it hilarious when I hear about couples getting married after only knowing each other for a few months..... It cracks me up....
I've seen so many people I graduated with get divorces... It's great because I get to say, "I told you so."

I think its scary ..

not forgetting out here .. i mean in India still mostly its arranged marriages and usually wherein u dont have much time to actually get to know the person and quite a few are happy and most of them last ..

scary yet ..

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JusDoinMytingYo
there Uzbekistan

Posted: Aug 1, 2008, 12:27 AM CST

happy is a relative condition.

I think most are not happy, just complacent.

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alabamabebe
Banks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA

Posted: Aug 1, 2008, 12:28 AM CST

riyablossom wrote:

I think its scary ..

not forgetting out here .. i mean in India still mostly its arranged marriages and usually wherein u dont have much time to actually get to know the person and quite a few are happy and most of them last ..

scary yet ..

Ya know, I can't even imagine that, marrying someone my parents picked for me?

But y'all may have something, it seems to work better than our system, but is everyone really happy?

I don't think I could be, but then again I could be wrong.

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alabamabebe
Banks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA

Posted: Aug 1, 2008, 12:33 AM CST

Ok, to your question. Things I should have discussed before I got married.

Are you gonna beat me up when you get pissed off?

Are you gonna keep running the bars and effing everything in sight?

Are you gonna give up on life and drown yourself in beer?

These are some little things it would have been nice to know ahead of time.

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sxc666
Central Coast, New South Wales Australia

Posted: Aug 1, 2008, 12:33 AM CST

Beer.

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JusDoinMytingYo
there Uzbekistan

Posted: Aug 1, 2008, 12:37 AM CST

alabamabebe wrote:

Ok, to your question. Things I should have discussed before I got married.

Are you gonna beat me up when you get pissed off?

Are you gonna keep running the bars and effing everything in sight?

Are you gonna give up on life and drown yourself in beer? These are some little things it would have been nice to know ahead of time.

Wow, you must have really picked a winner last time.

speaking of brewski's I think I'll go get a cold one.

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keytone
Portland, Oregon USA

Posted: Aug 1, 2008, 12:43 AM CST

riyablossom wrote:

I think its scary ..

not forgetting out here .. i mean in India still mostly its arranged marriages and usually wherein u dont have much time to actually get to know the person and quite a few are happy and most of them last ..

scary yet ..

I can't even imagine

how does that work for you Riya? do you have a choice?? I really am clueless...I think your thread is a good one, I think many times people are so caught up in the moment they do not ask some of these questions which in the long run will have a very strong affect on the relation be it marriage or even a friendship for that matter.
;-}

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sxc666
Central Coast, New South Wales Australia

Posted: Aug 1, 2008, 12:45 AM CST

my old supervisor Shipra was from India and had an arranged marriage her and her hubby were sooooo cute and loved each other so much.

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JusDoinMytingYo
there Uzbekistan

Posted: Aug 1, 2008, 12:46 AM CST

keytone wrote:

I can't even imagine how does that work for you Riya? do you have a choice?? I really am clueless...I think your thread is a good one, I think many times people are so caught up in the moment they do not ask some of these questions which in the long run will have a very strong affect on the relation be it marriage or even a friendship for that matter.
;-}

yeah, they get so caught up in the moment of marriage that they don't wake up until the divorce.

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alabamabebe
Banks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA

Posted: Aug 1, 2008, 12:49 AM CST

JusDoinMytingYo wrote:

Wow, you must have really picked a winner last time.
speaking of brewski's I think I'll go get a cold one.

Wasn't just one. And yeah, I knew how to pick em!

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shipoker55
St. Petersburg, Florida USA

Posted: Aug 1, 2008, 12:59 AM CST

religious, political and sexual histories. Family medical problems that may be hereitary. Social issues. Maybe not on the first date....but when it becomes apparent a relationship might be in the works

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Dont_Look_Now
Huntsville, Alabama USA

Posted: Aug 1, 2008, 1:12 AM CST

riyablossom wrote:

Before u said i do .. be it marriage or relationship .. which today you feel might have made a difference if u had discussed or shared ..

Is there anything like that u think u would like to share ...

On the other hand .. what do u think are key things that should be discussed before u make the big decision ..

:

Who does the cooking!!!

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JusDoinMytingYo
there Uzbekistan

Posted: Aug 1, 2008, 1:15 AM CST

Dont_Look_Now wrote:

Who does the cooking!!!

whoever gets home first

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greeneyescp5
Denver, Colorado USA

Posted: Aug 1, 2008, 2:56 AM CST

my questions would probably be more in finding out if we are in the boat together....and would he go after me..if i fell out..as i would him

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greeneyescp5
Denver, Colorado USA

Posted: Aug 1, 2008, 2:58 AM CST

I heard on the news today, a man went into a burning building today to save his wife...he died...she didn't ....I think thats love..not sensability....and a very sad story

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