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then how do you know there's only a couple of answers

My late ex and I knew the minute our eyes met. We knew we found our soulmate and that we couldn't live without each other. We both felt like we'd gotten hit by a runaway freight train. We felt like we had been together before. We used to talk about it.

It would have worked for life if he hadn't found Drugs/Alcohol, which he used to numb the pain of everyday life. J was the only guy I met that told me I was the only one who could keep up with him in how his mind worked and I didn't use drugs or alcohol to do so.

He was a nerd and never felt comfortable with others until he had loosened up a bit. It is a real shame he took the path he did b/c the world lost a great mind when he started using.



But back to your question. It is a hard call to make. there are no right answers.

I've heard of people who knew the instant they met and had been together through old age to die within a short period of time of each other.

I've also heard of others that spent years even decades b4 admitting it to themselves then wondered why they had waited so long.

It's something that if each of us could figure out we wouldn't need to be here at CS.

See Flower´s post on the "moving in together" thread...............................

Well if you and this partner has alot of thing in common, well then it might be the right person for you.

I have been there, and i thought that this one guy was my partner for life, and even he told me that after we got engaged his friend told stories and lies, so he believed his friend so to me i still think he might have been the person i have been waiting for.

It's not something you decide on, if you and the partner feels the same way and you think it's your partner for life, then there is nothing to be scared....

He wasn't the partner for you darlin...because if he was willing to believe lies about you over the truth....that certainly wasn't showing you he loves you...If he was the right one...he simply would have told his friend..."I'm sorry but she told me the story and truth...and I believe her so drop it"...but he didn't do that...so that tells you a lot right there...the right man would still be with you because he loves you...no matter what trouble anyone tries to drum up!!!!!!!!!!

any advise for a flying man?

Yes....Get that mile-high club membership reactivated......

can't............suffering from LMJS

And what pray tell is that...OR do I even wanna know????

group hug

Oh ok..... Some how I don't think that's the meaning..BUT hey...

Knowing takes a minute..

Doubting takes forever..

JMO

If you really want a definitive answer: then, get to know someone at least for a couple of years.
That way you can look all the different sides of their personality. If they treat you good consistently, if you both resolve conflicts in a reasonable amout of time without the deliberate fight to break up -- on-off fighting syndrone. That there's no abuse going on. If they are the type of person that is there for you, backs you up, if you don't have intuitive, niggling feelings about infidelity. Don't neglect
to look at core issues such as finances, spiritual concepts.

Don't fool yourself if your serious about getting married. Be strong and happy with yourself before
bringing someone else into the equation, especially if yours or another's children are involved, too.

Just a couple of months..