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What happened to you?

Everyone has different agendas and some just have no respect.
Others just have to push their luck.

What kind of boundaries are we talking about?



Serious boundaries, like "don't call me at work, I'll get fired!!!"

or

trivial ones like , "don't tickle me there, I get excited....."

Did you let them know what these boundaries were in no uncertain terms? A lot of people seem to need it spelled out very clearly in order to understand.

If it gets to be too much, I will, and have, cut off all diplomatic relations with people who have no respect. It's not that I like it, but sometimes there is no other choice.

Life's too short as it is, no need for that crap.

Are you referring to physical, emotional, spiritual, sexual, or relational?

We can't set boundaries for others, boundaries are for ourselves, what we will or will not allow in our own lives. We can't force another to respect them, we just have to decide what consequences we're willing to allow to keep the boundaries we set.

Boundaries keep us from getting so enmeshed with another that we don't know where their feelings start and ours end, when they're having a bad day, it makes our day bad. Boundaries aren't walls, they can be flexible, movable. They can be bridges, but they keep us whole separate individuals in ourselves.

Alot of variables there, but at it's worst I think it just comes down to them putting themselves way ahead of you in their priorities.

Will if all boundaries where respected the world would be only with shellfish people it would be only take and nooooo give.

People will do whatever they want until they are stopped. it is the nature of man from childhood to push the boundries to get what they really want. You must comfront each push or have set the bounderies to account for the push.

I just love the way you arrange words!!!

Pity you live so far away, I'd just love to
take you out and just be amazed by
your mind.

Thats serious for you, women do it too.

Well, its not clear, love. You don't say what boundaries or in what way they were abused.....

Bottom line is they have a choice whether to respect them or not.... its a choice!! Having said that, perhaps allowances do need to be made for human error. Only you can decide whether its was remiss of them or intentional?

If the latter, they really don't have much in their defence, do they?

I know women do it too....otherwise there would be no babies!




Oh! I see........I mean mankind when I said man.

I can be serious, if I try real hard and don't think too much!

Yeah I know and now your head must
be hurting.

my head hurts.....I thunk!

it's all about me....not you!!!




THat is your answer!! sad, but true