my answer to getting older

StressFree small city, Kalmar Sweden

Sun Aug 10, 2008 9:44 AM CST : my answer to getting older

darlynda: i will be 50 next month and i am very happy with my looks and my outlook on life

awesome

Good to hear....you are only as old as you think you are I meant to say in my first quote...

darlynda tazewell, Tennessee USA

Sun Aug 10, 2008 9:47 AM CST : my answer to getting older

StressFree: awesome Good to hear....you are only as old as you think you are I meant to say in my first quote...

thank you but i think i will always take care of myself and never let myself go and good genes is always a plus

Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA

Sun Aug 10, 2008 10:29 AM CST : my answer to getting older

The main problem I have with your paean to aging, Darlynda, is that I find it rather too accepting of things which need not be accepted. I mean, the convalescent homes I've been in are full of people who've given up on exercising their minds and bodies - they call that acceptance. I call it ignorance. When mentally stimulating programs were instituted, their minds grew more active and joyful; when weight-training was implemented, the strength and flexibility of elderly individuals increased. How many older people are limping and being wheeled about for lack of exercise, nutrition, and simple joie de vivre?

For example, there's no reason to be satisfied with a "saggy butt" or having the generic soft, overweight out-of-shape middle-aged body. One simple solution is to get off your butt and do cycling, running/jogging, squats, yoga, etc. Wrinkles can be delayed or softened through simple things like avoiding excessive sun, moisturizing, and exercise (facial and normal).

Inevitably - barring technological advances - aging will take its toll, but one can live a far healthier and better quality life by valuing the superior physicality of youth and attempting insofar as sensibly possible to maintain it.

"Do not go gently into the good night" and all.

Jeff

Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA

Sun Aug 10, 2008 10:32 AM CST : my answer to getting older

Also, there's no sense in accelerating the aging process through unhealthy habits such as smoking, excessive drinking, and a sedentary lifestyle. One has a LOT of choice about how one ages.

bushbun Minneapolis, Minnesota USA

Sun Aug 10, 2008 10:32 AM CST : my answer to getting older

My advice to those who are getting older is to date younger...those that are old on the other hand should stop dating all ages.

Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA

Sun Aug 10, 2008 10:34 AM CST : my answer to getting older

bushbun: My advice to those who are getting older is to date younger...those that are old on the other hand should stop dating all ages.

Statistically, men who marry younger women live longer (or so I've read). The likely reason is that younger women create some pressure on the older guy to stay fit and mentally active.

SOme older women share that drive, too, but the ones who do - I'm fairly sure of this - do not maintain a passive attitude toward aging. They want to stay young and vital for as long as possible.

lovenkisses Somewhere in, Pennsylvania USA

Sun Aug 10, 2008 10:38 AM CST : my answer to getting older

shipoker55: That is as non-sensical as age is just a number. Great for poets, but not for reality!!

Um...I beg to differ! Although I plan to age gracefully, I'm going to have a dagonne good time while getting there!

Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA

Sun Aug 10, 2008 10:42 AM CST : my answer to getting older

lovenkisses: Um...I beg to differ! Although I plan to age gracefully, I'm going to have a dagonne good time while getting there!

From your profile, I'd say you're a VERY good example of someone who's working to stay young.

Indyfella indianapolis, Indiana USA

Sun Aug 10, 2008 10:44 AM CST : my answer to getting older

Ambrose2007: Statistically, men who marry younger women live longer (or so I've read). The likely reason is that younger women create some pressure on the older guy to stay fit and mentally active.

SOme older women share that drive, too, but the ones who do - I'm fairly sure of this - do not maintain a passive attitude toward aging. They want to stay young and vital for as long as possible.

:putting out ciggy emoticon:
:tossing liquor bottles emoticon:
:giving dog the gallon of ice cream emoticon:

StressFree small city, Kalmar Sweden

Sun Aug 10, 2008 10:45 AM CST : my answer to getting older

Good posts Ambrose

Exercise is the way to go in my book! I can say that playing baseball has kept me much younger...hangin with twenty year old youngins keeps me in touch with my care free youth...

DizzyDi Lancashire, Lancashire, England UK

Sun Aug 10, 2008 10:47 AM CST : my answer to getting older

lovenkisses: Um...I beg to differ! Although I plan to age gracefully, I'm going to have a dagonne good time while getting there!

I prefer to grow older disgracefully

more fun that way

trish123 Lancashire, Lancashire, England UK

Sun Aug 10, 2008 11:05 AM CST : my answer to getting older

Ambrose2007: Statistically, men who marry younger women live longer (or so I've read). The likely reason is that younger women create some pressure on the older guy to stay fit and mentally active.

SOme older women share that drive, too, but the ones who do - I'm fairly sure of this - do not maintain a passive attitude toward aging. They want to stay young and vital for as long as possible.

Excuse me if I may just sound a tad sceptical here but.......... maybe there is a case to be heard here for older women who refuse to be the 'bring me, fetch me, carry me' helpmeet which I have seen all to often in men who look for younger women - not all of course.......

My Childrens Dad was 10 yrs older than me and I once came into a conversation of his at a party where he was telling a friends mother that he had an automatic washing machine, a dishwasher and a personal shopper, the next sentence was, "here she is.......... this is Trish"..............

- they say you live and learn........... I did learn lots from that one

trish123 Lancashire, Lancashire, England UK

Sun Aug 10, 2008 11:06 AM CST : my answer to getting older

by Jenny Joseph

WHEN I AM AN OLD WOMAN I SHALL WEAR PURPLE
With a red hat which doesn't go, and doesn't suit me.
And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves
And satin sandals, and say we've no money for butter.
I shall sit down on the pavement when I'm tired
And gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells
And run my stick along the public railings
And make up for the sobriety of my youth.
I shall go out in my slippers in the rain
And pick the flowers in other people's gardens
And learn to spit

You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat
And eat three pounds of sausages at a go
Or only bread and pickle for a week
And hoard pens and pencils and beermats and things in boxes

But now we must have clothes that keep us dry
And pay our rent and not swear in the street
And set a good example for the children.
We must have friends to dinner and read the papers.

But maybe I ought to practice a little now?
So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised
When suddenly I am old, and start to wear purple.

cherokeemoon2 grove, Oklahoma USA

Sun Aug 10, 2008 11:25 AM CST : my answer to getting older

darlynda: old age, i decided is a gift. i am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person i have always wanted to be. oh, not my body! i sometimes despair over my body, the wrinkles, the baggy eyes, and the sagging butt. and often i am taken aback by that old person in my mirror(who looks like my mother!), but i dont agonize over those things for long. i would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family, or my beautiful sons for less gray hair or a flatter belly. as i have aged, i have become kinder to myself, and less critical of myself. i have become my own friend. i dont chide myself for eating the extra cookie or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that i didnt need, but looks so avant garde on my patio. i am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant. i have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging. whos business is it, if i choose to read or play on the computor until 4am and sleep till noon? i will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60s and 70s and if i , at the same time , choose to weep over lost love ....I WILL. i will walk on the beach in a swimsuit that is stretched over a sagging body, and i will dive in the waves with abandon if i choose to, despite the pitying looks from the jetset. they, too will get old. i know sometimes i am forgetful. but there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. and i eventually remember the important things. sure over the years my heart has been broken. how can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebodys beloved pet gets hit by a car? but broken hearts are what gives us strength, understanding, and compassion. a heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know thw joy of being imperfect. i am blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into grooves on my face. so many have never laughed, and have died before their hair could turn silver. as i get older, it is easier to be positive. i care less about what other people think. i dont question myself anymore. i have earned the right to be wrong. so to answer my own qestion, i like getting older! it has set me free. i like the person i have become. i am not going to live forever, but while i am still here, i will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. and i will eat my dessert single day.(if i feel like it)

Tk u sweety at my age i needed that.Ive fought the wrinkles and ect for so long Iam just worn out with the whole mess.

darlynda tazewell, Tennessee USA

Sun Aug 10, 2008 11:49 AM CST : my answer to getting older

Ambrose2007: Also, there's no sense in accelerating the aging process through unhealthy habits such as smoking, excessive drinking, and a sedentary lifestyle. One has a LOT of choice about how one ages.

i have no intention of letting myself go, i do take care of myself and i think i look pretty darn good to be 50 but i also know for a fact that i will never be 25 again and i accept the fact that things will sag no matter how many sit ups i do.

woody636 Elgin, Illinois USA

Sun Aug 10, 2008 11:55 AM CST : my answer to getting older

darlynda: i have no intention of letting myself go, i do take care of myself and i think i look pretty darn good to be 50 but i also know for a fact that i will never be 25 again and i accept the fact that things will sag no matter how many sit ups i do.

Hey kiddo! Good for you! A few years back while sitting having coffee all of a sudden my mom looked at me and out of the clear blue said, " I've got a 21 year old mind stuck in an 85 year old body!" Pretty much says it all, I think. We can't do anything about the aging process other than attempt to hold it off and have one hell of a good time while its going on!

EnSilencio Almunecar, Andalucia Spain

Sun Aug 10, 2008 11:58 AM CST : my answer to getting older

Your post is worth framing, darlynda.

sunshine92064 san diego, California USA

Sun Aug 10, 2008 12:05 PM CST : my answer to getting older

Getting older is like entering into a beautiful-realm-of-being.
Who would have thought what a wonderful ride this would
be?

Through my path I have grown, viewing each moment to be
nothing less than special. My view of what really matters is
so very clear ... That big house, fancy car, ocean cruiser, home
theater all are so insignificant. If you have taken off the
blinders of youth, you can now see what its really about

Have you reached out and touched someone today? Have
you visited with someone less fortunate bringing a smile to
their face? Did they warm your heart? Were you a good
listener to a friend who just needed to vent. Do you see
a little something special in most that surround you? And,
how about that hug to the person with tears in their eyes
who you have not seen before...

Gone are the days of being judgmental when compassion
fills your shoes.

Blessings surround us in all directions...family so precious,
our children are now having children (oh, how blessed we
are!). That incredible feeling of holding your first grandchild,
the greatest gift of all, cuddled in your arms.

We treasure our friends, and, try to bring a smile to the face
of at least one new person a day. How lucky we have been
to have been touched by their lives.

We no longer dwell on negatives, as out of those we now
see positives. Don't spend much time getting upset over
little things, rather concentrate on how we can make
things better, knowing the moment is only a blip-in-time

And so it is, that getting older is a wonderful experience
wrapped in such a peaceful feeling of such happiness
within ones self. So thankful for this glorious time, we
soak up the moment with a yearning to slow time as we
smell the beautiful roses of life

darlynda tazewell, Tennessee USA

Sun Aug 10, 2008 12:05 PM CST : my answer to getting older

EnSilencio: Your post is worth framing, darlynda.

thank you so much

Daniel4021 Somewhere, Tennessee USA

Sun Aug 10, 2008 12:21 PM CST : my answer to getting older

darlynda: old age, i decided is a gift. i am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person i have always wanted to be. oh, not my body! i sometimes despair over my body, the wrinkles, the baggy eyes, and the sagging butt. and often i am taken aback by that old person in my mirror(who looks like my mother!), but i dont agonize over those things for long. i would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family, or my beautiful sons for less gray hair or a flatter belly. as i have aged, i have become kinder to myself, and less critical of myself. i have become my own friend. i dont chide myself for eating the extra cookie or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that i didnt need, but looks so avant garde on my patio. i am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant. i have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging. whos business is it, if i choose to read or play on the computor until 4am and sleep till noon? i will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60s and 70s and if i , at the same time , choose to weep over lost love ....I WILL. i will walk on the beach in a swimsuit that is stretched over a sagging body, and i will dive in the waves with abandon if i choose to, despite the pitying looks from the jetset. they, too will get old. i know sometimes i am forgetful. but there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. and i eventually remember the important things. sure over the years my heart has been broken. how can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebodys beloved pet gets hit by a car? but broken hearts are what gives us strength, understanding, and compassion. a heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know thw joy of being imperfect. i am blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into grooves on my face. so many have never laughed, and have died before their hair could turn silver. as i get older, it is easier to be positive. i care less about what other people think. i dont question myself anymore. i have earned the right to be wrong. so to answer my own qestion, i like getting older! it has set me free. i like the person i have become. i am not going to live forever, but while i am still here, i will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. and i will eat my dessert single day.(if i feel like it)

This is a wonderful post, and imo you have described the essence of getting older, and how it should be viewed..

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