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I don't know what will occur first, the Lions winning a super bowl or the rapture. My money's on the rapture. UM football should be very interesting this year though!

yup .. gorgeous grandchildren and so on ..

If I am not motivated to kiss a woman, I really don't care how awesome her inner beauty is....that is why I have a lot of lady friends....

Been there, done that. Ewwww! And it is not shallow. By all means, lets debate this topic of natural selection...and why is it always women over 30 years of age starting these threads...

Seems like some members have a hard on or clit boner for marketing this concept that beautiful people are actually rotten inside....and not so beautiful individuals posses more inner beauty than their good looking counterparts....show me some studies...enough with opinions....

If I am not motivated to kiss a woman, I really don't care how awesome her inner beauty is....

Mindfull is defo an exception in many beautiful ways, but in this case ...
She's not the only one!!! I have never put looks before mind and heart ... In fact the only pic I had seen of Gongman (when I started being interested) was the one on his profile where he is playing a dan moi (jawharp) by a microphone! Can't even see his face properly ...

Correct! 'Cos you're a MALE. Attraction works 1) looks 2) emotional connection 3) interest in her intelligence

Us FEMALES typically attract differently: 1) his way of thinking (intelligence) 2) wow, I feel he could be a great friend (emotions) 3) he's very sexy (looks, physical side)

Sure there are exceptions, but wise men say this is the typical pattern of how we work and why we're having these discussions over and over again.

But you could still see his face, If he had a big boil and sscars on what you could see....would you still have been interested??Nobody seems to want to admit...looks count!!

You made me see the light, and I'm guilty of using someone else's picture on my post...I figured with a picture of a guy that is a 100 times better looking than myself I would get to chat with more girls....Brad Pitt.

Correct! 'Cos you're a MALE. Attraction works 1) looks 2) emotional connection 3) interest in her intelligence

Us FEMALES typically attract differently: 1) his way of thinking (intelligence) 2) wow, I feel he could be a great friend (emotions) 3) he's very sexy (looks, physical side)

Sure there are exceptions, but wise men say this is the typical pattern of how we work and why we're having these discussions over and over again.

You made me see the light, and I'm guilty of using someone else's picture on my post...I figured with a picture of a guy that is a 100 times better looking than myself I would get to chat with more girls....Brad Pitt.

But you could still see his face, If he had a big boil and sscars on what you could see....would you still have been interested??Nobody seems to want to admit...looks count!!

When I was in my late teens, I had a strange experience. In fact, I had it with two different people. Just to make sure that I didn’t miss the point I guess…

The first experience was in a place that I’ve never been before, a school of a kind. Everyone there was a stranger to me. It was late summer, people were sitting outside, talking, laughing, playing guitar (those were the days…). Suddenly I noticed a young man that had the ugliest face I’ve ever seen. I couldn’t help wondering: How is his life? With a face like that, can you ever find someone to love?
Guess what?Two weeks later the strangest thing happened. I fell in love with him! (at that point my preference changed towards men looks). My heart opened, I loved him and I also found him very handsome. The same face - the same person - totally different feelings.

A few months later, as I sat at a bus station with a friend. We were waiting for a long-distance bus, talking. A young man approached us - it turned out he and my friend knew each other. This young man had hardly any face at all. It has been destroyed in a fire long time ago.
This guy emanated something that I’ve seldom experienced in my entire life: a fountain of love, of joy, of freedom, of spontaneity, of living energy. It was so overwhelming that if it wasn’t for my bus that arrived right there thus bringing our acquaintance to an end right away, I’d most probably have fallen in love with him too.
And no, I do not have a special preference for people that could be defined as “ugly” by any standard. Both my former husband and others that I’ve had close relationships with throughout my life were very good-looking.

Looks open the door

men=simple

I have read on different threads, and have gotten e-mail from friends that have problems with pictures that have been posted and sent to them. Yes it is true that some do not send pictures of them selves but sometimes of another person, and some times they send pictures of them selves but when they were younger. Why people do this I do not know! But I would like to know why looks seem to be so imortant to so many people? I truely believe that your looks come from the inside where a camera can not reach!
I was married to a verry good looking guy, who it turned out his heart was black and cold as ice and became very ugly to me. The attraction was gone as soon as he let me see what was on the inside. I also had been engaged to a man that was not very good looking at all, so much so that he was 35 and I was his first lont term girlfriend. But I got to see what was in his heart and thru that I found him to be the most attractive man on earth! The thing is what is on the inside lasts what is on the outside changes all the time. One day we all are going to be wrinkled and our best features are going to be erased! the sex drive one day will be gone, but what we are on the inside will be as beautiful as it has ever been. And if a person can see that first all they will see on the outside is the beauty that radiates from the inside. And that is true love! If you want looks beauty and sexual attraction over what a person is on the inside your relationship will not last! It's all superficial and shallow not love!
It should not matter what the person looks like, what there figure is, or how old they are. If you are compatible and can love a person because of what they are made of thats what is going to give you the truest love of your life.
This is only my opinion, and the way I chose to decide if I love someone!
And I am pretty sure that some of the people who have misrepresented them selves to some of us is because of the way society has made us all think we need to be beautiful sexy and young! before we can get love. And some are so love deprived they use deception to try and get the love they really deserve.
Some I guess are just playing games and like to make people think they are what they are not. But if the one that has misrepresented them selves to you is hurt and lonely then maybe if you can't love them or trust them you should start with forgivness.