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I've almost given up on finding a life partner until my children are grown.

One of these two things seem happen since I've started dating again:

1) I discover things about my date that I could never live with. (Of course, I'm thinking of my family, "What would my children think about him?" I tend to "analyze" our date. (Is he allready treating me as a "piece of @ss" (using aka names: baby, sexy, doll, etc.)??? Are his "sexual" preferences the only type of conversation he can relate to? lolol
~I've met many of these men lately~

2) I don't usually carry on conversations about my children, b/c I'm so happy to be with another adult. I want to talk a/b adult things.
So, yeah...he's cute, great conversation, good since of humor. I'm starting to like this man. Then I drop the "C BOMB"...("I have three children")...never to hear from him again!!

Perhaps the biggest problem is some men would rather make them then take them on I suppose.

Stay the course, your patience will eventually be rewarded.

it sure is....have they ever been to Disney land?

I guess to some it might be pretty scarry, but I am sure you will find the right erson for you and your kids. There are a lot of guys who love kids, and will yours as well just give it time and don't give up!

Never been in your situation cause I didn't have any children before I began dating but I will say this tho that my kids come first and if I ever meant a man who didn't accept my children then I'd say good riddance .

If a guy got really close to someone and had really strong feelings for her then he would accept the children as part of the package. Most guys won't let it get that far (past a certain part). Definitely possible and probable so don't give up just yet.

I made the decision not to get involved with anyone while I raised my daughter, I didn´t want anything to get in the way of the relationship we shared... single parents have the opportunity to have a very different relationship with their kids then couples do. I realize that I´m not as young and attractive as I was while I was raising her and maybe I missed the boat... but I wouldn´t change that for anything, I had an amazing time raising my daughter.

when you find someone that does love YOU...he will love your children also, because they are a part of you....you will find love when you least expect it....dont give up

I met a woman with one child, married her and adopted her daughter! The relationship lasted about ten years. I met another woman. after my divorce, with two young boys and lived with her for thirteen years! she was 15 years younger than me. I'm still close friends with her, the boys and her large family to this day!

I can't say I was a father to the boys but as a partner I tried to help raise them. It wasn't possible for me to discipline the boys. legally, morally and for other reasons explained later when they misbehaved so eventually it led to them disrespecting me and treating me with contempt which eventually ended the relationship. Since the father was involved he offered the boys another home and during our time together the mother was affraid to discipline the boys because they would simply say I want to live with dad which of course she feared! Another reason I couldn't discipline them so they did more or less ad they pleased! A step parent, unless he has some means of control, is in a bad position with children that are not his own.

The woman constantly monitors the man for any signs of 'mistreatment' or 'unfairness' and confronts the man generally in front of the kids to 'protect' them! This undermines any authority, which is already limited, and causes the children to ignore the man knowing they are protected by mom! I was confronted by two boys who lied, stole, obtained things like flare guns and various chemicals and was chastised for even looking in their rooms because it invaded their privacy. In my mind I was protecting a home I put a lot of effort into obtaining and protecting the other people in it! I would be very hesitant about that type of relationship again.

I might, however, if the father had died and the mother willing to trust, empower and support me! Choosing the wronjg guy can be a disaster for your children and maybe you should consider raising them on your own! Sorry to say!!

I have three children at home and my "dating" philosophy is this: I am very very careful who I let get to know my children. I know that anyone who is allowed to be welcome into our family unit should consider it an honor. Anyone I let close to my kids needs to know this is a big deal, I don't take it lightly, and must mean they have EARNED my respect. Though I have yet to find the person I wish to spend the rest of my life with, I have developed many great friendships and so have my children. If anyone has an issue with my children they are an immediate NO! I cherish my kids and think it is an honor to parent and know them, and anything less from someone else is their problem, not mine. I am happy alone, yet hope to re-marry someday. Not, however, at the expense of lowering my opinion of my lifestyle and wanting the best for my kids. I believe we are worth the extra work of taking on a family, PERIOD. Someday the kids grow up, after all!

Well spoken

I am very reluctant to just introduce any new woman in my life to my kids right away. They have to really earn my trust and respect.

It's quite possible for single parents to find life partners, some people will view your children as a burden,

but others will see them as an opportunity to have more love in thier life.

I think it may just be a matter of how someone sees their world.

I have a very, very, very dear friend that has been married to his wife nearly as long as I have been alive. The have 4 kids9one only slightly younger than me).. One day Charlie says to me, "Patrick, when it comes to a woman and her children, a man will always suck hind tit and that includes me"..

Yet I have to ask, why so many women won't accept a man and his children....

Cause sometimes I think they're selfish. Or else jealous. I really don't know.

I have learned that too, I have also learned that when that doesn't appear to be the case...

run like hell.

I use to live in a Foster home, my best friends place, his dad was his step Dad, so there was 4 kids when my friends mom met the guy, later they had a kid and I moved in, it was no Brady Bunch....

It was tuff on him as all his paycheques would be devoured instantly, although my portion of rent sure helped alot.....

Can happen but he is a real good guy and you will see him coming...

Stop complaining.. Wait till you are old & senile like me and know nothing...

Who's complaining?

Huh????????

AM I complaining?