How Honest Are you

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Serenity1971 Serenity's Island, California USA

Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:08 AM CST : How Honest Are you?

We all talk about wanting honesty in our profiles and our lives, but really and truly how honest are you with yourself as well as others!?!

"To thine own self be true"

In talking with a near and dear friend tonight, we had kind of a chuckle for ourselves and some gut honesty came out of me that I never expected.

I was talking about my comfortable little apartment and how if I were to get involved and someone were to move in with me...You know what...There's no space in my closet for "his" clothing and I'm not really sure I'd be willing to give up my closet space.

Hmmmmm a little selfish? Maybe....But maybe it's more the fact that I'm content with just me right now at this moment. Maybe I'm not willing to put the effort into a relationship right now because I want to focus on me and get my life on the right track. I know that right now I'm right where I'm supposed to be right here right now at this moment.

Does anyone else have the same gut honesty? Can you admit it?

livinglarge in a good place , Kildare Ireland

Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:14 AM CST : How Honest Are you?

Yeah I had to be really honest with myself this week, I had to stop contact with some1 coz I was hurting ! The good thing about that though is I told the person 2, usually I wouldn't have said anything !

HJFinAZ Sun CIty, Arizona USA

Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:20 AM CST : How Honest Are you?

Serenity1971: We all talk about wanting honesty in our profiles and our lives, but really and truly how honest are you with yourself as well as others!?!

"To thine own self be true"

In talking with a near and dear friend tonight, we had kind of a chuckle for ourselves and some gut honesty came out of me that I never expected.

I was talking about my comfortable little apartment and how if I were to get involved and someone were to move in with me...You know what...There's no space in my closet for "his" clothing and I'm not really sure I'd be willing to give up my closet space.

Hmmmmm a little selfish? Maybe....But maybe it's more the fact that I'm content with just me right now at this moment. Maybe I'm not willing to put the effort into a relationship right now because I want to focus on me and get my life on the right track. I know that right now I'm right where I'm supposed to be right here right now at this moment.

Does anyone else have the same gut honesty? Can you admit it?

Just "had" to do it didn't you??

HJFinAZ Sun CIty, Arizona USA

Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:21 AM CST : How Honest Are you?

No room in my closet either....

Lionhearted1967 London, Ontario Canada

Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:24 AM CST : How Honest Are you?

Serenity1971: We all talk about wanting honesty in our profiles and our lives, but really and truly how honest are you with yourself as well as others!?!

"To thine own self be true"

In talking with a near and dear friend tonight, we had kind of a chuckle for ourselves and some gut honesty came out of me that I never expected.

I was talking about my comfortable little apartment and how if I were to get involved and someone were to move in with me...You know what...There's no space in my closet for "his" clothing and I'm not really sure I'd be willing to give up my closet space.

Hmmmmm a little selfish? Maybe....But maybe it's more the fact that I'm content with just me right now at this moment. Maybe I'm not willing to put the effort into a relationship right now because I want to focus on me and get my life on the right track. I know that right now I'm right where I'm supposed to be right here right now at this moment.

Does anyone else have the same gut honesty? Can you admit it?

I guess if you two really wanted to be together you would find a mutally comfortable place or you adjust. The power of love is irreisitable when it is real. For better or worse you find a way.

HJFinAZ Sun CIty, Arizona USA

Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:26 AM CST : How Honest Are you?

Lionhearted1967: I guess if you two really wanted to be together you would find a mutally comfortable place or you adjust. The power of love is irreisitable when it is real. For better or worse you find a way.

I sure as hell hope you were not suggesting I be with that crazy woman..

bamabulldog08 tuscaloosa, Alabama USA

Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:29 AM CST : How Honest Are you?

Serenity1971: We all talk about wanting honesty in our profiles and our lives, but really and truly how honest are you with yourself as well as others!?!

"To thine own self be true"

In talking with a near and dear friend tonight, we had kind of a chuckle for ourselves and some gut honesty came out of me that I never expected.

I was talking about my comfortable little apartment and how if I were to get involved and someone were to move in with me...You know what...There's no space in my closet for "his" clothing and I'm not really sure I'd be willing to give up my closet space.

Hmmmmm a little selfish? Maybe....But maybe it's more the fact that I'm content with just me right now at this moment. Maybe I'm not willing to put the effort into a relationship right now because I want to focus on me and get my life on the right track. I know that right now I'm right where I'm supposed to be right here right now at this moment.

Does anyone else have the same gut honesty? Can you admit it?

I tend to be brutally honest to my own detriment. It causes problems and I have to be careful.

Lionhearted1967 London, Ontario Canada

Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:30 AM CST : How Honest Are you?

HJFinAZ: I sure as hell hope you were not suggesting I be with that crazy woman..

Nope..that was a message to all..lol

tunnelwary La Jolla, California USA

Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:30 AM CST : How Honest Are you?

I'm actually a bit proud of following through with promises to myself.

I am absolutely head over heels for someone right now (not on CS), and she is showing me it's mutual. Everything fits. Do you know how "you JUST KNOW"?

At any rate she is a HS teacher of at risk kids in Wichita, KS. Naturally she has a very personal and vested interest in these kids.

I have always said that if there were even the hint of a possibility at having it all (meaning including a "one true love"), there is NOTHING that would stop me from going to the ends of the earth to make it work.

Luckily it's only from CA to KS and I couldn't be more sure, content, and without hesitation. I'm also very proud that I wasn't all talk because there are SO many obstacles that could be reasons (excuses) to stay.

I AM NOT hesitating. I AM being true to myself.

and a little bonus....Going back to school to get Teaching Certificate.

HJFinAZ Sun CIty, Arizona USA

Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:31 AM CST : How Honest Are you?

Lionhearted1967: Nope..that was a message to all..lol

WHEW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lionhearted1967 London, Ontario Canada

Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:33 AM CST : How Honest Are you?

bamabulldog08: I tend to be brutally honest to my own detriment. It causes problems and I have to be careful.

As long as you are not just judging them but are that way to yourself. On the other hand if it is really important want you want then it is only honorable to be brutally honest. That's not to say that some of your opinions may mellow a bit.

Lionhearted1967 London, Ontario Canada

Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:35 AM CST : How Honest Are you?

tunnelwary: I'm actually a bit proud of following through with promises to myself.

I am absolutely head over heels for someone right now (not on CS), and she is showing me it's mutual. Everything fits. Do you know how "you JUST KNOW"?

At any rate she is a HS teacher of at risk kids in Wichita, KS. Naturally she has a very personal and vested interest in these kids.

I have always said that if there were even the hint of a possibility at having it all (meaning including a "one true love"), there is NOTHING that would stop me from going to the ends of the earth to make it work.

Luckily it's only from CA to KS and I couldn't be more sure, content, and without hesitation. I'm also very proud that I wasn't all talk because there are SO many obstacles that could be reasons (excuses) to stay.

I AM NOT hesitating. I AM being true to myself.

and a little bonus....Going back to school to get Teaching Certificate.

That is exactly what I am saying!..

That is the way it is.. If it is real it falls into place and your "both" hellbound to make it work.

Great post!

thehearld shannon, Clare Ireland

Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:37 AM CST : How Honest Are you?

lets see, the difference between being lonely and alone? have you ever just found out that no matter what you do you are still single? no matter how hard you try or how many dates you go on, its still ends up the same, u on ur own? even though you have lots of good solid friends you just feel like you have nobody u think u can confide in. no person to share ur time with to experience the joy in life , the every day things that make you what you are who u want to be. you wonder "why? why cant i get that someone for me?" all ur friends are either married or living with people, u know they are there for u if u told them how u feel but u just dont or cant share ur inner most feelings about ur desire to have someone to share ur life , space , heart with.

HJFinAZ Sun CIty, Arizona USA

Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:42 AM CST : How Honest Are you?

thehearld: lets see, the difference between being lonely and alone? have you ever just found out that no matter what you do you are still single? no matter how hard you try or how many dates you go on, its still ends up the same, u on ur own? even though you have lots of good solid friends you just feel like you have nobody u think u can confide in. no person to share ur time with to experience the joy in life , the every day things that make you what you are who u want to be. you wonder "why? why cant i get that someone for me?" all ur friends are either married or living with people, u know they are there for u if u told them how u feel but u just dont or cant share ur inner most feelings about ur desire to have someone to share ur life , space , heart with.

Single for years yet I have not been there in a long, long,long time..

Lionhearted1967 London, Ontario Canada

Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:47 AM CST : How Honest Are you?

thehearld: lets see, the difference between being lonely and alone? have you ever just found out that no matter what you do you are still single? no matter how hard you try or how many dates you go on, its still ends up the same, u on ur own? even though you have lots of good solid friends you just feel like you have nobody u think u can confide in. no person to share ur time with to experience the joy in life , the every day things that make you what you are who u want to be. you wonder "why? why cant i get that someone for me?" all ur friends are either married or living with people, u know they are there for u if u told them how u feel but u just dont or cant share ur inner most feelings about ur desire to have someone to share ur life , space , heart with.

Well.. being single can be lonely but it also helps you appreciate things that maybe you took for granted or were shortsighted in. I think it is a way in preparing you to realize what you are looking for. Believe me.. you may meet someone who at first you least suspect and then your personalities match. Don't have any expectations and let things happen.

Lionhearted1967 London, Ontario Canada

Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:49 AM CST : How Honest Are you?

HJFinAZ: Single for years yet I have not been there in a long, long,long time..

Yup.. being single can be fun too!..LOL It is when it starts not being so fun that you start looking the the real thing.

Serenity1971 Serenity's Island, California USA

Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:49 AM CST : How Honest Are you?

thehearld: lets see, the difference between being lonely and alone? have you ever just found out that no matter what you do you are still single? no matter how hard you try or how many dates you go on, its still ends up the same, u on ur own? even though you have lots of good solid friends you just feel like you have nobody u think u can confide in. no person to share ur time with to experience the joy in life , the every day things that make you what you are who u want to be. you wonder "why? why cant i get that someone for me?" all ur friends are either married or living with people, u know they are there for u if u told them how u feel but u just dont or cant share ur inner most feelings about ur desire to have someone to share ur life , space , heart with.

My question to you is....Can you accept that you are exactly where you are supposed to be right at this moment?

My experience has taught me in this particular type of scenario that I needed to work on something about myself and become comfortable with who I was in order to be able to be comfortable with others. Self acceptance first, acceptance of others afterward.

hillbillyhoney houston, Texas USA

Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:50 AM CST : How Honest Are you?

First of all I am that type that says it before the barn door closes all the way.I say this is a date and if you have plans on puttin your shoes under my bed or leavin a toothbrush over.Dang it just wasn't that good.

Serenity1971 Serenity's Island, California USA

Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:51 AM CST : How Honest Are you?

HJFinAZ: Just "had" to do it didn't you??

Yes I did!!!!!

Problem with it? Too bad deal with it...Read 449!!!!

livinglarge in a good place , Kildare Ireland

Thu Aug 21, 2008 1:52 AM CST : How Honest Are you?

hillbillyhoney: First of all I am that type that says it before the barn door closes all the way.I say this is a date and if you have plans on puttin your shoes under my bed or leavin a toothbrush over.Dang it just wasn't that good.

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