Connecting Singles^® Forums 100% Free Online Dating

hi kotor ! welcome to the thread !



now why should anybody except anybody for who they are ?...you can't pick and choose your parents



and the way they are greatly affect you

how does that feel ?

I loved my Father and he is still in my heart.
He was my only authority. Of course He wasn't perfect man.

Gilly....

I wish I knew. I know one thing though. I'll never be like him. You see, even thought he was around he taught me something very valuable. Let your children and wife know everyday that you love them. Can't hate a man for teaching me that.

I really need to spend some time with him first to disclose that answer....hey Gilly hun...mum was in the circus and being the Romanian trapeze artist she was...that could and still can put her feet behind her ears...ummm yes he could have been the funny man...the strong man...magician..who knows??? The mind boaggles....and no hun..I don't have a huge feckin' beard!!@!

Love you..back in Oz now enjoying my beachy spot..come visit me!!!!

Have you abandoned the rainy streets of Dublin, Zarah? What did we do to you?

Why did you ask this question, Gilly?

hi zarah welcome to the thread girl !

its always a pleasure reading your stuff !...can you chill out and be ' your real self ' i never really could for long !!




what part of oz are you in then ? ...i'm thinking of going to africa soon

Why did you ask this question, Gilly?

to start a conversation

OMG FM you got an answer, not much of one but an answer, more than I ever get.

mine would never have taught me that because ...that was is problem ...no fucking feelings man !



tell what kind of man he was ...when we young about 8 or 9 years old i went to the local park to play with my brother , who was one year older than me.

Anyway he wanted to go home at 5pm but i refused and insisted on carruy on playing in the park, so my brother went home and left me in the parl playing by myself !




my father gave him a good beating for leaving me in the park.

his speech was

" THE TWO YOU LEAVE THIS TOGETHER ...AND THE TWO OF YOU COME BACK TO THIS HOUSE TOGETHER "

my dad mum and brother then came over to the park to get me ...and its one thing that was never forgotten as children




so you might think!



but i would have preffered knowing how much i need to go rushing back to tjhe house based upon how much i enjoyed his company god damm it !

It's a start!!

Now THAT is the start of a conversation!

\
Hi Dilly love the do. Looks great on you.
He was repeating the violence and abuse that he witnessed from his father. They were from the hills of Arkansas or what is known as hillbillies and they were quite a bit Native American although it was hushed up. Very poor and had to work quite hard to make ends meet.
My dads father was pretty violent and mean and they did at the time anyway tend to treat their hound dogs better than their women. So my dad although he was in the Northern US from an early age picked up those patterns of abuse, alcoholism and violence. Sad part is that my dad was meanest when he was sober.

It's a good conversation. Frankly it's a hard one and brings up memories that I would rather forget but it's all part of healing and although I don't like to see that some of the rest of you have gone through pain. I can empathize with you and hopefully learn. Bless the rest of you who love your parents and were blessed with a good childhood. No family is perfect we are all messed up but at the same time precious beings who do not live our lives out in perfection. lol
Therefore all these pains and heartaches that hopefully can be turned into some of our greatest strengths in exhibiting true kindness and compassion to others who are experiencing the same thing.

well it all sounds interesting dawn ! its funny but my dad was the opposite ...he never drank !! did your dad like you or hate you ?



what was he like with the rest of the family ? my dad was tight with money but thats one thing i never had a problem with and excepted ..because it was his money !




but when people try and groom you into their way of thinking and you don't like their way of thinking it then becomes a problem



i wonder how the hound dogs got treated ?




did you like anything about him or have any fond memories at all then ?

...in a word..no

how old were you when your father stopped drinking hugz ?