Posted: Aug 27, 2008, 3:02 PM CST
laura225 wrote:Ideally - yes.
And I love this attitude in you, you know. It's in my book too.
But what we have here: dissected relationship, one point in time put up for discussion: "You hear it - what's your take on that?"
So the way I see it, the answer depends on past, present (history of the relationship). Would I be happy to learn it was a pillow talk? No.
Is there a way of knowing (or learning later) that it was merely a "pillow talk? like 100% positive? Not unless your partner wants you to know it.
Oh, yes, Jeff, you would
If you are happy in a relationship, but at some point you started suspecting she says it casually. What would you do? Just throw it all away?
I love your attitude, Laura, period.
You may have a point about a casual "I love you" being acceptable to me...I guess if it were in the "I love being with you or how you're doing something" sense, then yes. I think I've said it to people here on CS in that more casual sense....
I'm just not sure that I'd ever say that while making love, because of the more serious implications. In sum, if the context makes it clear that it's intended more casually (I think it works as a sign of strong affection/friendship), then yes; if the context is more ambiguous - especially if it's more serious - then no.
I don't know about the 100% positive thing, Laura. I've fallen in love twice in my life, and with those people there was never a question, because of the nature of their character (I knew it was definitely not a casual thing for them).
