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Now people will think I only have one arm!

Well I will go ask the blind man if he saw the beating.

Hold both hands up, prove it.

The BLIND mand is a SHADEY old man.

I said a punny!

I love these threads too.....just read this by you... I dis-agree with you again....

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With your What????

Nose not hose! Shame on you!

Wheeew thanks for clarifying that

That's because you got too excited thinking about it

It starts with the parents spanking the children. The children start fighting each other. I have had a life of violence. When someone says I love you, I look for the daggers to come. I have broke the chain in my life. I have a healthy loving daughter who knows no fear.

that's good but I still get rambunctious at times and want a woman to spank me On the backside that is.

Only in play

oh yeah just not to where you leave marks.

I was going to ask "are you serious" but then I seen you were from Cali... so I guess there is no surprise about your veiw

You can disagree with me Tater, until you're blue in the face, it does not mean that I have any less respect for you, nor does it mean that I think you are a child abuser, a bad person for raising your children in the way that you do, that is your business and your business alone.

I have not hit, spanked or whipped my children, I have never had the emotional feeling where I have wanted to, they are all young adults now, and are respectful, fine young people that are great fun and work hard.

You cannot hit discipline into a person, but you do knock out confidence, and instill fear, I have seen it.

Look at how many people are victims of domestic violence? I said this back in September, when this thread was raised and I will say it again.

How many times have we read, from women, 'that if he ever raised his hand to me, I would leave'

How is a child to leave?

As I said back then, I have tapped a hand, as toddlers, I have grabbed them to stop them stepping into the road.

I have children in my care all day long, not just my own, I teach them morals, languages, how to be treated, hitting children was outlawed at schools.

However, I do agree with you, when you say sending them to their rooms is wrong, I see their rooms as a place for reflection, learning, not as a punishment.

No, quick, short, sharp fast punishment was the trick with my children, round to the local soup kitchen and in touch with the local volunteer centre and doing some wotk there, to remind them how lucky they are.

Never failed with mine.

I was leathered as a child, and whilst I hold no anger to my father about it, I do remember the fear, that if I did something wrong, I would lie because of fear of being found out and being hurt. It made me a devious, sneaky child because of fear and that resulted in more bad behaviour. I never wanted my children to feel like that and I once told my dad that, as an adult, when we were having dinner at my house with my children.

My dad was and is not a bad man, but that was how it was done back then, 'wait till your father gets home'

So for me, hitting my children was never an option, when they were little, as adults now, if I want to swipe on the behind for being cheeky, they are able to do it back.

But a looming adult over a little child, with a raised hand?

I remember that feeling, it is terrifying.

And my children did not deserve to be terrified.

I agree tater, When i was young i got my share of ass whoopins too, and i didnt grow up fearing my dad and didnt grow up being a bully and beating up on other kids. I did learn that if i was doing something wrong and if i didnt stop after being told 3 or 4 times then a spanking was coming. One time when i was about 7 and i had a spanking coming i actually put a hard cover book down the back of my pants to ease the pain, i thought for sure my dad would notice the book but he didnt and his first swat was followed by a slight grunt of pain from him,(i felt nothing) my mom and two older brothers were at the kitchen table and i heard them giggle, when i looked up my brothers had big ass grins on there faces, i thought for sure that there would be no more spanking because everyone thought it was funny, i was wrong because dad didnt think it was all that funny and i still got a spanking. I was very close to my dad and loved him very much and knew he loved me too. There was never a point in my life where i feared my parents. I believe learning right and wrong sometimes calls for a swat on the bottom and if your a good loving parent your child will not grow up to fear you or hate you for it.

If you have nothing to fear you fear nothing. Kids scream out for attention and if they don't get the amount they think the deserve they go on school shooting and or get into drug use.

I guess having a kid as a Meth head is much better than swatting them on the butt.

zee

Hitting children is no way to teach them how to raise their own. And everything we teach them will reflect upon our future as those little ones will come into positions where they pull all the strings in time.
I always sent my children to their rooms. No games, no television just silence and time for thought. Usually within 5 minutes or so I would go to each of them privately and ask them one question... the same question every time. I would ask them why they were in their room. If it became a blame issue or anything other than the reason they were in there I would just close the door and come back 5 minutes later and ask the same question again until they figured it out. Once they understood why they had been put in time out I would briefly explain the possible outcomes of their actions if they were allowed to continue what they were doing. Then a hug and they would be escorted or carried back to wherever they were prior to whatever they had done to garner the period of reflection. No harsh words, no screaming, no hitting and they almost always apologized to the other party on their own. Very few times have I ever had to encourage an apology and this made them closer to each other as a result. My children learned respect and the basics of cause and effect from this system and I wouldn't do it any other way.

The jails are overflowing with kids who should have been spanked. is this due to being a generation who had no fear? I think so.

zee