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kissmedeeply Petitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada
Tamarin: Read the article with interest...tried to pull it up here on my PC in the UK. I could not find it. Interesting to see that it was an American article just shows the difference in cultures...all very interesting.

Yes off course there is a difference between a short, tap on the bottom and being hit anywhere else. I think I may be right saying in Sweden it is against the law to smack a child, some one will tell us.

Here is a question for you if your partner misbehaved in your eyes would you smack(spank) them. So if I displeased my ex it was okay for him to hit me.

May be I am asking the wrong guy here keep it clean and not to much info please.


well yes..Eric told me if i get out of hand
he would put me over his knee and spank me..

And i am going to be bad quite oftengrin
Fallingman Dublin, Dublin Ireland
morgan5: hello having bought up 2 children both completely different can seee different things work with different children so we need to respect each others opinion.


Absolutely! wave
princemuncher northfield, Ohio USA
Tamarin:

Here is a question for you if your partner misbehaved in your eyes would you smack(spank) them. So if I displeased my ex it was okay for him to hit me.

May be I am asking the wrong guy here keep it clean and not to much info please.


Try not to bait. There is a difference between spanking a child and assulting an adult.

By the time you are an adult, you should have an idea of what is right and what is wrong.

A child, say under the age of 10 does NOT have the communication skills to be rational with when it cones to the dangers of heat from a stove, poking a fork in an electrical socket, etc.

Humans respond more effectively to conditioned response. TO get a time out for pouring bleach on a sibling or waking up in the middle of the night and trying to cut up an apple by his/her self, is not effective. That child will not know the pain associated with a sharp knife that slips, an electrical shock, or 3rd degree burns from a stove.

I'd rather they learn that there is some pain associated with danger instead of experiencing the degree of pain that resulted from a burn, shock, or cut.


As adults, we have already learned the dangers of such things. Spanking would be irrelevant and ineffective. Adults have the communtcation skills to resolve issues. If you partnerr smacked you around, apparently, they're still very infantile....
morgan5 somewhere sunny , Canarias Spain
kissmedeeply: well yes..Eric told me if i get out of hand
he would put me over his knee and spank me..

And i am going to be bad quite often
rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing



Tamarin somewhere, Lothian, Scotland UK
well yes..Eric told me if i get out of hand
he would put me over his knee and spank me..

And i am going to be bad quite often[/quote

Enjoy that kind of spanking KMDhandshake

But you know what I mean, we would not hit an adult so why a small defenceless child.



kissmedeeply Petitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada
I love you morgan..well spanking can be lots of funlaugh



kissmedeeply Petitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada
Tamarin: well yes..Eric told me if i get out of hand
he would put me over his knee and spank me..

And i am going to be bad quite often[/quote

Enjoy that kind of spanking KMD

But you know what I mean, we would not hit an adult so why a small defenceless child.


tamiarin its spanking not hitting

there is a big difference in that
morgan5 somewhere sunny , Canarias Spain
kissmedeeply: I love you morgan..well spanking can be lots of fun
distant memory blues that may change soon !! grin



kissmedeeply Petitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada
morgan5: distant memory that may change soon !!


Yup and change is goodgrin
morgan5 somewhere sunny , Canarias Spain
kissmedeeply: tamiarin its spanking not hitting

there is a big difference in that
thumbs up i agree and am sure you can see the difference Tamarin
princemuncher northfield, Ohio USA
I said: Humans respond more effectively to conditioned response. TO get a time out for pouring bleach on a sibling or waking up in the middle of the night and trying to cut up an apple by his/her self, is not effective. That child will not know the pain associated with a sharp knife that slips, an electrical shock, or 3rd degree burns from a stove.


Let me elaborate.

The same conditioned response works with reward as well. Do good and get a hug, treat or gold star. They do it in schools.

It encourages the child to keep doing well.







Tamarin somewhere, Lothian, Scotland UK
princemuncher: Try not to bait. There is a difference between spanking a child and assulting an adult.

By the time you are an adult, you should have an idea of what is right and what is wrong.

A child, say under the age of 10 does NOT have the communication skills to be rational with when it cones to the dangers of heat from a stove, poking a fork in an electrical socket, etc.

Humans respond more effectively to conditioned response. TO get a time out for pouring bleach on a sibling or waking up in the middle of the night and trying to cut up an apple by his/her self, is not effective. That child will not know the pain associated with a sharp knife that slips, an electrical shock, or 3rd degree burns from a stove.

I'd rather they learn that there is some pain associated with danger instead of experiencing the degree of pain that resulted from a burn, shock, or cut.As adults, we have already learned the dangers of such things. Spanking would be irrelevant and ineffective. Adults have the communtcation skills to resolve issues. If you partnerr smacked you around, apparently, they're still very infantile....


I just love debating with you Jim...did one of your kids really try to pour bleach on their sibling....I bet it was after you nagged them to have a shower! My house seems calm compared to yourstongue In this house the 13 year old lives on the soccer pitch and is obsessed with boobs and locks oneself in the balck hole with the Xbox and lap top. The 11 year old will be locked up by Grandpa in a nunnery on 15th birthday.
princemuncher northfield, Ohio USA
Tamarin: I just love debating with you Jim...did one of your kids really try to pour bleach on their sibling....I bet it was after you nagged them to have a shower! My house seems calm compared to yours In this house the 13 year old lives on the soccer pitch and is obsessed with boobs and locks oneself in the balck hole with the Xbox and lap top. The 11 year old will be locked up by Grandpa in a nunnery on 15th birthday.


Obsessed with Boobs?

I can assure you that he's not in that Black Hole with the Xbox!

Better check under the mattress for porn magazines.....rolling on the floor laughing
tgwstw Cork, Cork Ireland
Who doesn't like to get their butt cheeks reddened? devil
tgwstw Cork, Cork Ireland
I'm locked in my room with a PC and an xbox?

I'm a 13 year old boy!
princemuncher northfield, Ohio USA
I try to keep my comments respectful. Unless they're delusional or my buttons get pushed.

Everybody's opnion counts, except the Knights of the Templar....

rolling on the floor laughing
princemuncher northfield, Ohio USA
tgwstw: Who doesn't like to get their butt cheeks reddened?


WHEEEEEE!!!!!!

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motherload Cambridge, Ohio USA
I think both are appropriate as a child i was spanked and work in a field where timeout is appropriate.I spanked my son when he was younger and he still loves me and respects me.When i was older i hated to be grounded.



Tamarin somewhere, Lothian, Scotland UK
princemuncher: Let me elaborate.

The same conditioned response works with reward as well. Do good and get a hug, treat or gold star. They do it in schools.

It encourages the child to keep doing well.



Prince I thought you released I was a pre school teacher (reception, nursery, kindergarten)

We have five golden rules.....

1. Keep your hands and feet to yourself
2. Look after our books and toys
3. Speak to others they way we want to be spoken to
4. We do not run or shout out
5. We always try to do our best

Children have time out if they need it to think about what they did and was it a kind/not kind thing to do. Clever or silly.

Each week a child is picked to sit on the special magic golden chair for the whole week because they have accomplished something that was great for them...they have a photo taken and mounted on a certificate to take home to show everyone their achievement. Each child sits on that chair at least once in the Academic year.
They also get cert's for doing things well etc. Stickers always work well and are often used as a bridery...he,he!

I hug the children of this age and make sure they know they are all valued individuals in the class but there are guidelines and actions can be taken wrongly.

TLC works wonders on children of this age and they are like little sponges eager to learn, achieve and please.
Fallingman Dublin, Dublin Ireland
princemuncher: I try to keep my comments respectful. Unless they're delusional or my buttons get pushed.

Everybody's opnion counts, except the Knights of the Templar....


I heard they were behind 9/11!

oops wrong thread laugh




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