When did Appreciation become a four letter emotion????

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gangel Plovdiv, Plovdiv Bulgaria
I see this lack of sensibility sometimes at work,in the cafes, in the shops, anywhere you would love to feel like a worthy conversation holder.Seems that somewhere during our long run to ''perfection'' that we have lost our good manners, our ability to communicate in an everyday situation..dunno
vonney Dublin, Dublin Ireland
I hope that I do show the people around me that I appreciate what they do, I certainly make the effort and would always thank anyone who did something for me whether it be a friend making coffee, my Mam inviteing us to dinner or soneone serving me in shop/restaurant etc.
Good manners? yes but also that I appreciate what they have done.
I also hope that I have instilled this in my children, they always thank me when I do something for them, making lunches, dinners, doing their laundry.



rwantin Costa Mesa, California USA
Sad to say, we are becoming increasingly self-absorbed. That, or I have been living in So Cal too long.

I've been in a hospital 9 hours a day for the last week-and-a-half. One of the things I found interesting is how nice everyone is to each other. Holding doors, patiently waiting on someone, making eye contact and simply saying hello. There's almost a camaraderie - we're all in the same boat, visiting a loved one, hopeful for a positive outcome. We're nice to each other. We make small talk. We wish each other luck. I walked away wishing this was a microcosm for society, but alas, it is but a mere wish.

Indyfella indianapolis, Indiana USA


I'm somewhat "old school" .... I'll say hi to a stranger walking down the street.

Then I get that look...are you going to rob me? So much for social graces.
fireliter Allen Park, Michigan USA
jbibiza: Ocee35 wrote:
Please and thank you are alive and well around me, if someone prepares a meal they get a thank you, doesn't matter if it's family, friend or partner.

I don't care if I'm at your house working for free, if you make me a sandwich, you get a thank you, it's like a reflex.
I do agree, a little appreciation/consideration goes a long way.


when giving words of appreciation for anything should the other party its directed to acknowledge your words of appreciation with their own words of appreciation.
somechick Cincinnati Ohio, Ohio USA
I've always believed it only takes a few seconds to say Thank You,Please,You're Welcome.


Or just by showing someone by your actions or by doing something special for them in return of just how much you appreciate them.
Fallingman Dublin, Dublin Ireland
Indyfella: I'm somewhat "old school" .... I'll say hi to a stranger walking down the street.

Then I get that look...are you going to rob me? So much for social graces.


dropping jaw dropping jaw I agree with Indy about something!!


Good manners are almost the most important thing. If you are polite and show respect to others half the world's problems would never arise. People want respect more than money and possessions.

I do the same thing - say hello to people I meet on the road - and usually they are pleased....if a bit surprised.

So, Mr. Indyfella, have a nice day! wave
jbibiza Ibiza, Islas Baleares Spain
fireliter: when giving words of appreciation for anything should the other party its directed to acknowledge your words of appreciation with their own words of appreciation.




What you mean something like .... thank you,......... thank you for thanking me......... thank your for thanking me for thanking you...........laugh
Fallingman Dublin, Dublin Ireland
By the way....excellent thread JB wave
nomindgames Painesville, Ohio USA
Morning all.It is my natue to smile at people be freindly.I think most people are.Then I see the glass 1/2 full in life.
jbibiza Ibiza, Islas Baleares Spain
rwantin: Sad to say, we are becoming increasingly self-absorbed. That, or I have been living in So Cal too long.

I've been in a hospital 9 hours a day for the last week-and-a-half. One of the things I found interesting is how nice everyone is to each other. Holding doors, patiently waiting on someone, making eye contact and simply saying hello. There's almost a camaraderie - we're all in the same boat, visiting a loved one, hopeful for a positive outcome. We're nice to each other. We make small talk. We wish each other luck. I walked away wishing this was a microcosm for society, but alas, it is but a mere wish.



Hi Robert wave How´s your dad doing today, I hope you let him know that we continue to send our good wishes teddy bear

A hospital.... now there is a place for appreciation, I know it´s a nurses "job" to do the things they do but never was there a situation in which appreciation should be shown more. I completed and passed all of the nursing prerequisite courses which also included 6 months of hospital volunteer work only to find that I couldn´t cut it... it´s an incredibly difficult job and I just became way to emotionally involved. It takes an incredibly special person to be a good nurse!
jbibiza Ibiza, Islas Baleares Spain
Fallingman: By the way....excellent thread JB



Thanks FM.... glad you appreciate it!laugh laugh laugh hug
jbibiza Ibiza, Islas Baleares Spain
vonney: I hope that I do show the people around me that I appreciate what they do, I certainly make the effort and would always thank anyone who did something for me whether it be a friend making coffee, my Mam inviteing us to dinner or soneone serving me in shop/restaurant etc.
Good manners? yes but also that I appreciate what they have done.
I also hope that I have instilled this in my children, they always thank me when I do something for them, making lunches, dinners, doing their laundry.



thumbs up thumbs up Hiya vonneywave
dillydally behind the big green fields , Strathclyde, Scotland UK
I say thank you and please or any time that needs or deserves it ,iv taught my boy the same thing .Good manners go a long way ,my problem is i apologize to much even when i dont have to but im learning rolling eyes
vonney Dublin, Dublin Ireland
jbibiza: Hiya vonney


Hi jb

It does come down to respect really, and treating others as you wish to be treated.



shipoker58 Las Vegas, Nevada USA
jbibiza: Tonight I had to throw out a customer for being incredibly rude and obnoxious to one of my waitresses.... and it just got me wondering... how did our society become so ungrateful and unappreciative of all the things others do for us in our lives.

What happened to the simple words of courtesy... please and thank you?


When was the last time your boss said thank you for a job well done?
When was the last time you thanked your partner, or parent or friend for dinner for cooking dinner, or making breakfast, or doing the laundry. We seem to think that if it´s a persons "job" to do something that appreciation and gratitude don´t need to be shown.

I can´t help but think if we took a little time each day to let the people in our lives know that we appreciate all the little things they do for us... we might have more successful and happier relationships.







If you still have your job...the boss is saying thank-you for a job well done. When you no longer have
your job....it means you are not doing a good job.


People don't need to be stroked. That's for dogs. If you have a job...you are doing well.


As for waitresses and other hospitality staff....they deserve better treatment from customers.............MOST OF THE TIME
Claayer Wild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK
I was just going to say.. Often we are more polite to strangers than we are to the people closest to us.

But clearly not that customer for a start. haha.

Good for you chucking him out..
I can't bear attitudes like that.. thumbs down thumbs down


wave hug



lovestrees Tacoma area, Washington USA
shipoker58: Tonight I had to throw out a customer for being incredibly rude and obnoxious to one of my waitresses.... and it just got me wondering... how did our society become so ungrateful and unappreciative of all the things others do for us in our lives.

What happened to the simple words of courtesy... please and thank you?
If you still have your job...the boss is saying thank-you for a job well done. When you no longer have
your job....it means you are not doing a good job.People don't need to be stroked. That's for dogs. If you have a job...you are doing well.As for waitresses and other hospitality staff....they deserve better treatment from customers.............MOST OF THE TIME


Hi Shi! I worked as a union carpenter for many, many years.

Our Chrismas bonus was NOT getting 2 checks-(they would hold your first check 'til "lay-off" time)

When the boss would hand you 2 checks, you were fired, right then, bye bye.

Or course, when any of them would threaten me with 2 checks, I would smile big and hold out my hand! rolling on the floor laughing



lovestrees Tacoma area, Washington USA
jbibiza did NOT write the above quote. Shi did!



lovestrees Tacoma area, Washington USA
lovestrees: jbibiza did NOT write the above quote. Shi did!


Ok, they both wrote it. But I wanted to quote Shi's.




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