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Maybe a man who's approaching a woman may not know exactly what to say.

Maybe he doesn't know how to express himself in words.

I tend to give the guy the benefit of the doubt.

Sometimes when I'm writing to a guy I sometimes trip over my tongue and can't figure out what to say even when it's sending an answer back to them.

When I send a flower and say hi, it represents the usual masculine effort of making the first move. Just like at a bar, etc. The female (most) expect the man to make the first move [valiant; prince charming; bold...whatever]. Just like how there are risks of making the first move at a bar, etc., there are risks to sending a flower on the part of a male.

Most men will say that for every wife they get, they probably spoke to 100 females. A flower does the same thing. Not every woman who gets a flower will respond, but hey, I have never received a flower from a woman I did not flower first. Of course, the real e-mails, etc. will come after the initial contact.

You can just ignore the flower if you don't want to talk to the guy.

with all due respect...most of us will click on the sender's profile if we find their picture attractive or interesting enough, regardless of how short the flower note was, and make an ad-hoc decision whether we want to answer or not

i hear you

Isn't sending a flower making an effort?


Note to self: Don't send flowers to NMG.

well, my stance on this is pretty well known, so I'll not bore you with repeating it

I agree, I think the flower with a nice gesture is cool! I like flowers, send me flowers, I dont care, I might not think we are a match but I will thank you anyway.

Is this your way of saying you want no more flowers from me? I tell you plainly why I send them!

general principle,no reason, no condition, or agenda!

and I like them!!!!!

Me too, I love flowers from almost anybody. Thank you wiz!

Yes thank you from me too...they are greatly appreciated.....

for some people it's hard to speak to the opposite sex. the flowers are for those people a easy way to attempt to start a conversation. if you just hate flowers you could put don't send me no damn flowers. that should solve the problem eh?

I don't think it's the flowers...I think it's the please contact me message she doesn't like....

I love & appreciate all the flowers you 've sent me.

I don't see why that's a problem either, you like them, you send a flower or message back, if you don't, then don't. No problemo.

It's not for me...Maybe she doesn't feel comfy sending the first e-mail or making what she thinks feels like the first initial contact...I dunno really....