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kissmedeeply: We lie becos others lets us get away with it

I met an honest man on here..almost to honest..

but wouldnt have it any other way...we talked for months..here and on the phone and mail..

Then we met in March..Nothing he said or did suprise me...

Becos he was very open and honest..

And some know who i am talking about...

They know him as well..

Now we are engaged and i am relocating..

Its all about taking the time to get to know him very well first before the meet...

Hello Sister Shelley

Hugz_n_Kissez: I'm glad to see you snuck out of the convent again sister Joanne... Well that's the way it should be...taking time to get to know each other with honesty on both sides and then won't be any surprises....and give the pain in the arse all my love by the way....

Shanmariee: Well how about this for a lie on a profile...

They say they are honest, they are not a player, they want a real relatiionship, they are tired of head games and getting their heart broken, etc. etc....

Then why do I notice this pattern? I've had this happen to me twice now.

I start talking to a guy, first IM and email then telephone then after some time of getting to know each other, we make arrangements to meet in person. They fly over to Spokane here, we meet, things seem to be going well, we have a great few days or so together, laughing and enjoying each other's company. It comes time for them to fly back home, we part our ways smiling and saying how we need to meet again blah blah blah... BUT... what actually ends up happening is that we talk again as usual for about 2 weeks or so, maybe a month then towards that month mark, they just fade away. They disappear on me. They can't even be manly enough or have enough balls to tell me directly, hey I found someone locally, I lost interest in you, I dont think the distance is going to work, whatever their reason is, I am a big girl, I can handle it. Just tell me you don't want to talk to me anymore and I'll be fine. Why just fade away and leave me wondering what is going on and only after a little bit of time, do I obviously figure it out, oh gee you dont want to be with me anymore!

Gee if that isn't a head game, amongst other things, such as selfish and juvenile bahavior, I don't know what is. One was 35 and one was 34 years old.

I am just burnt out on games and bs. I need someone to get to know me for the right reasons. Not shallow or selfish reasons or to use me and toss me away.

Why can't I find someone who really cares about me for WHO I AM and not just for what I look like? Does he even exist? Thus, I have yet to discover.

Fallingman: In fairness, can we be honest here and hope to succeed?

Grumpy, ugly , smelly fat middle-aged man living in trailer park seeks young babes to cater to his every need. Doesnt do it for you? Thought not!

fireliter: with age, many endearing traits/characteristic of a person will come or go.

thus the use of words like... healthy, vibrant, young, adventurous, passionate, romantic, relaxed, stable,even secure being placed in front of ones age of the person, should be strongly encouraged.

I've met some people ten years my senior that can claim any number of these and then again I've met some that where only honestly capable of one of these.

misrepresenting who or what you are can sometimes cause you yourself more pain and heartache then you can imagine...regardless of how much you try to place blame on the one you lied to from the beginning.

at these ages mentioned, some are not dating to find someone for the long term, albeit the profile clearly states something else.

shipoker58: But at least I am honest...isn't that what this is about????

hollandgirl: Seeing some of the pictures, they say; "I am 58 years old" Really, how come you look 70 plus? Sorry!

Next guy; He is 5/8 we meet and he is 5/2 wow he shrunk must have used water that was too hot.
Hey guy you think I would not notice?
So I asked how come......? Well I thought once we met you would not care. Maybe so, but now I am asking; What other lies have you told me?

Age is just a number I am 70 years old.
Looking for women between 50-60 so the "only a number" was only meant for him. lol

Next; He is ready for a woman. Okay, that sounds good to me.
We meet and before he gets out of the car he has to check as he is a diabetic.
We walk 200 yards and he tells me that he can't go on. He needs to rest.

Next; Any real honest men left out there, (or I die trying!)

hollandgirl: Seeing some of the pictures, they say; "I am 58 years old" Really, how come you look 70 plus? Sorry!

Next guy; He is 5/8 we meet and he is 5/2 wow he shrunk must have used water that was too hot.
Hey guy you think I would not notice?
So I asked how come......? Well I thought once we met you would not care. Maybe so, but now I am asking; What other lies have you told me?

Age is just a number I am 70 years old.
Looking for women between 50-60 so the "only a number" was only meant for him. lol

Next; He is ready for a woman. Okay, that sounds good to me.
We meet and before he gets out of the car he has to check as he is a diabetic.
We walk 200 yards and he tells me that he can't go on. He needs to rest.

Next; Any real honest men left out there, (or I die trying!)

shipoker58: But at least I am honest...isn't that what this is about????

venere08: It is what this is meant to be about. Unfortunately, between people trying to be funny, myself included, being flippant at that moment 'cos that's how you might feel, or the person is into chronic FLIRTING, it can become a bit of a chore to sort out what is actually real and what is not. I am not really one for online dating sites. I never last very long on them. But it can be interesting for the time.

I have made good friends whom I originally met online, but not on dating sites. I think online 'friendships' can become just as muddied as through any other manner of relating. I think dating sites can be prime candidates for this.

shipoker58: well, I can afford to be honest on this site...because I won't ever meet anyone on this site . I have made it very clear, that I am not looking for a oartner. My profile couldn't be more clear and honest.Bottom line, I really am here for the forums and nothing else

kitty01: I am what my profile says, I am always honest, even when it gets me in trouble.

kitty01: I am what my profile says, I am always honest, even when it gets me in trouble.

friendsfirst: All my information is recent.JUST ASK!