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I have read several posts by cs members suggesting that a person needs to tear down "walls" in order to find love, yet I have read time and time again about people being happy, secure, or comfortable being single and even one who couldn't be bothered with a relationship. It would seem these people are building walls? I only ask this because, although I haven't been offically single that long, already I have an almost indecernable yet undeniable feeling if "don't really give a s#$T" growing in my head and frankly find ther prospect terriffing. How does one know if your building walls or tearing them down?

I wish I knew.

I don't thing we actually realize when the walls are built....we probably start seing them when they are way too high and obstruct all liught or when somebody's on the other side, banging to come in.....only tearing them down is an active, intentional process - well, most of the times anyways

Either way the inspector will be around for their cut.

I need a wrecking ball.

It takes character to say" I don't know?"

I'm a carpenter. I hate those F@#$ckers

The answer lies in mortar or a hammer... which are you holding in your heart?

Tearing down walls is not an acceptable behaviour as it is wasteful and poses the hazard of forgetting where we have been. Remodeling or restructuring the grounds is a much better consideration. That grey barricade would make a better deck with a hot-tub and such perched upon it.
If you are having fun in life others will see this and join in the games.
Sittling alone in your self-made prison allows you the occasional visitor but they tend to pat you on the back and get right back to the outside world real quick to enjoy the sun and fun that occurs outside each of us once we part the clouds of grey.

I think when we want change in our lives we know what to do.

I'm betting the people who are talking about tearing down walls are usually pointing their finger at someone besides themselves. It's easy to see YOUR wall, because they're standing on top of theirs.

I think over the last couple of months I've built my wall and right now I'm just standing behind it.

I've put up a wall because I don't want to get hurt anymore.I guess I've got to learn to trust again.

Whether it's someone you love, a friend or aquantance it's still painful when someone hurts you.

I just get the feeling it's going to be a real short one way trip to don't give a s@#t and I don't like it one damn bit.

I haven't looked at your profile but EVERY women that I've met in my age group has trust issues. I guess when you get emotionally punched in the face enough times, you learn to duck.

Neither do I but when we hurt we tend to build a wall around our heart.

its not easy...banging your heart against some mad buggers wall....

It also hurts when someone doesn't trust you also.

I'm not sure age has anything to do with it. We live in a throw away world. If something no longer makes us happy, we pitch it and get a new one. No one fixes anything or maintains anything...not even relationships.

Oh shut up! I told you I will open the wall for you ...