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Oh I don't bother .................. just move on !!!

You don't keep love, it's like a heart , its beating or its not no matter what.

Always keep it at the forefront and remember that nothing is worth losing it....

How do you keep your 'Love' alive: Despite time, aging, quarrells, sickness.....?

It's a state of mind that you both have to have.

I am sure that if you were truly in love you would try to keep it.

No way ... love is like a bus .............. wait 5 minutes and another one comes along
I am kinin of course , but if love broke down , I wouldn't try to flog a dead horse

Yikes ....Kidding

You both have to be on the same page. I have tried and am still trying to figure this out my self.

Yes I agree...if it's not mutual...then it won't work...eventually someone gives up....

Great SEX

Still not sure if you have any idea what you are talking about. It is true that love dies if it is not maintained. But it seems that you are scared to do what it takes to get over the hill. JMO

Hell, I can do that without her!!

Oh Doctor Ruth , I have never meet you , but please tell me what I really want , what I really mean ............. I'm only 40 , you know ............. how am I supposed to know

Wellllllll............

After 40 years of marriage.......I think I would still give her a rose....

Haha now you are the one who doesn't know what you are talking about

Being loving and sharing love keeps love alive. Being loving and sharing love means:

When each person learns to take responsibility for their own feelings rather than making the other person responsible for their feelings of worth, lovability, security, happiness, joy or pain.
When each person has their own and their partner’s highest good at heart. when we both support our own and our partner’s joy and well being. Both of us are considerate of the other person without giving ourselves up.
When each person chooses to be honest and authentic about how we feel and what we want and don’t want. That we are each willing to speak our truth without blame or judgment.
That each person stays open to learning about our own and our partner’s wants, needs, and fears, especially in conflict.
I think what keeps love alive is each person’s willingness to do whatever inner work is necessary to keep the heart open to loving and learning. Controlling behavior is motivated by fear – of loss of self and loss of other, of engulfment and rejection, of smothering and abandonment.

When each person is willing to do the inner work necessary to heal these fears, they are able to keep their hearts open more and more of the time. Love flows freely when hearts are open to loving and learning.


JMO

If I knew this I'd still be in KY