mylifewithu: I don't see where it really needed a frame of reference, someone sounding low in spirit that day and still grieving being told that, they shouldn't post their stuff , just burns me up. I like her she is a very nice person, she had a good love that died, and she is still hurting , where is your compassion to people like this. I don't see that as being supportive basically telling her to get over it. Do you understand where I am coming from on this.
I posted it here, cause you stated you always say I statements, well you are not using I statements right. I statements say when you do this, it makes Me feel this way. etc. It's not a personal attack or anything, and not belittling them.
I am upset, I have grieved for the death of a loved one, my own sister. < That is a I statement. People can't just get over it. We all have to deal with it and heal. I just beg you to have more compassion for people cause I am not seeing it.
I understand what MF was saying.... we have all suffered loses of people who were dear to us, and it is agonizing to recover from. But there is a time, place and people to whom that grieving should be shared with. One or two comments on a forum with people you don´t know when it pertains to the topic being discussed I understand, but continual comments about your loss and grief to people who don´t know you and who are not effected by it I have a hard time understanding.
I was in a situation when my daughter was in gymnastics where the mother of my daughters best friend lost her father. The girls had an out of town gymnastic competition that weekend so I told her mom, Deb, that I would take them to the meet giving her some time and space. At the last minute Deb changed her mind and said that she wanted to come, she didn´t feel like being alone. That was fine, I took her and 4 of the girls competing to the meet where we were staying over the weekend.
While I understand that Deb was in a lot of pain losing her dad, she made the weekend miserable for the girls...they were afraid to laugh and have a good time... they were not directly effected by her loss... was it fair to put them in her grieving process?
I´m not saying that SC doesn´t have a right to post what ever she chooses to and up until now I have never commented on it. But when I see someone getting attacked, for what I thing, was a comment made in concern rather than maliciousness.... I do feel obliged to say something.