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Thank you! High words indeed!

It just seems to me that one should lead/teach by example and the best example is where you lead yourself. Anyone can be a "leader" because there are always people who will follow blindly just because they are being led. But I think a good leader/teacher would always ask "Would 'I' follow/listen to me?" and even if I never again lead anyone but myself, I still want to know that I can trust where I'm going.

Come on now, you fish in a canoe, what more do I need to know? And your words hereabouts express much of the treasured dust of those trails. I am not a follower but I would stake out your house and walk the river's edge just to find a few of those secret hidey holes you fish and I know that I would find more than just pristine nature. There are lessons in the aloneness of the wilds and you my friend have wandered a fair share of those and taken back the parts of you that you found there. The teacher who least wants to teach is often the best suited for the job.

It took me until I was 40 to discover who I was and it involved my daughter leaving home... no longer was my identity "Jen´s Mom" and walking away from everything and everyone I knew... yes, some of us have to take drastic measures!

I think when you embrace who you are instead of what trying to become what others think you should be you begin to honestly know yourself. When you realize that because others don´t think or feel the same way you do... that it doesn´t make you wrong... is an important discovery.

There's a saying on the internet...
"Pics or it never happened"

Self-awareness is a precious gift we can give ourselves, being introspective, and trying to better understand ourselves. Life is a continuum in constant movement and so are we; do I know who I am? It's so hard to pinpoint it exactly.....but I no doubt know who I'm not. Individuality is very high on my list only because I feel one should never define himself to fit a mold or an expectation.....then one may easily becomes lost in translation. What makes us beautiful and strong and unique is accepting and rejoicing in who we are; let's leave protocol and pretenses at the door.

It is really hilarious to read some of the postings here. You talk about phoney!! I read the postings of one person and then remember the hateful e-mail sent by this person, full of venom and vulgarities! I am not sure this person is in touch with reality let alone the real self!

Still figuring out really and am thankful to life for i have this chance to find out. Most women in my culture and my age would be married off with responsibilities to take on.

With each new person i meet i realise something new about me. What i like , what i dont , my flaws , my lack of understanding , open mindedness .. many many things plus the good things which i should be actually proud of but i never thought of.

Its an ongoing journey ...

Plus what i am here is the real me but not entirely.There are many many things i am not going to talk about or share. And there are some things meant to be shared only with a special someone.

We all say things, Ship.

At one time I thought I knew who I was but no longer.

Ave a beer Dan.... your a cool dude

Why?

A few years back I became griticall;y ill.As I was healing I realized many things.All I could do was lie in bed,so much time for thought.I realized some,detetermined some,made goals,etc..So I am now well grounded in some areas and some I never will be,that's okay.
1.I now chose my battles carefully
2.I am not sort of or partly but I am commited to God in full
3.I refuse to argue,but will debate
4.I am accomplishing goals and know the difference between goals and dreams
5.I realize I have faults that I denied through the years and am working on or have changed.Not easy for an old dog
6.I know I may mistakes,I try to correct them.I am at peace with death whether it be tommorow or years from now,I truly like me,appreciate what I have,and still make a short story long,that's just me.
This is a good thread to make all of us stop and think.

Too early in the day Stooie still coffee time



As to why Sommer, I have an idea but it's just something I need to work out on my own.

It is and when you do, you will feel so much better...

I have a good idea of who I am, but I am still learning. I consider myself a work in progress.

Nice thread Sommer....

I believe you are one of the most "real" people on CS

I am with Ship on this one, but we do continue to learn, as Riya said it is an ongoing journey...

Thanks Starlin...what a nice compliment!

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