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Unpack that a bit sweetheart....

It's hard because we have been there and done that.....older and wiser now....going in with eyes wide open.....and plus we tend to analyise everything.....well at least I do.....

It doesn't matter if you are a single parent or just single

It's a jungle out there, the survival of the toughest

But seriously, when you start thinking about meeting new people, then going through the good and not so good dating experiences, trying to find someone who thinks alike it's a long and heart-wearing process.

I think it's more difficult because you have to consider how this person will be around your children. It's not only you and your wants and needs, but the children's too. Children should always come first. I think parenthood matures you in some ways that nothing else does.

hard to find time....

My last date was a hot pocket, a shoulder rub, 2 interruptions totally 15 minutes in the break room.

It's more difficult with children.I have a 6 yr old and he comes first but I need to make time for me too. It can be done away from the kids ,Grandmas are a great help!!!
Good Luck!

I have a 3 year old son, never had an issue getting guys. Most guys don't care.

I don't think it's necessarily being a single parent that makes it harder...been there...I think it's being older and wiser, and not being willing to settle for less than what we want. We meet someone, in the first couple of dates it doesn't click, then we're looking again. I know I stayed longer when I was younger because I didn't care as much about the things that I do now.

I have been a single mom for 5yrs. I can find men to date its just that they get tired of having the kids around after about 6mos.

So many say they have kids or want kids...I don't know what to say. I wish you luck. It's hard on the kids, too. They get attached and then he leaves. And you have to make sure that a man you get seriously involved with is compatible with you as a co-parent because if he becomes permanent you'd have to agree on parenting.

It should get easier as the kids get older. I know that doesn't help now, but it will be easier then, hopefully.

Don't know...My children were never a problem during the times I was single and was dating...even after 6 months... On the other hand...my dogs have been a problem...

I had a 3 year old, i'm 22, and I haven't had a hard time dating? I found most guys were okay with me having a kid. And my boyfriend now is great with him. And I think if me and him stayed together long-term he'd be a good father figure(His real dad isn't in his life, by HIS choice.)

Most of us have had a myriad of reasons why we end up here. Majority of us have experienced varying degrees of hurt or pain in our lives. Therefore it is always going to be difficult for some of us to learn to trust another potential partner no matter the other person's intentions.

Most decent people will eventually accept you and your progeny given sufficient time and understanding by new aparty.

It takes time.

I think just the people make it difficult a

bit. I explain; some people before they give the chance to know

the person they start with, they jump to the next one and by the

time they discover it wasn’t worth it, the first person will

loose interest because they think they were et down.

People being greedy and may be they feel good because they got

people interested in them and may be also give them something to

make them try to catch it by they want the chase to last as long

as possible. Something to keep looking for the next day

They keep jumping from one person to another and never be

patient and try to give a chance to relationship to fly.

I think people should be relax and have a faith in other people

and good will.

here here.. Too many want to rush in instead of letting things slowly develop...

Agree with ya

Sometimes our expectations are so high, 90% of people can't meet them. So you narrow the dating pool by a large margin. I was on one dating site where a lady had around 15 "you cannot not be..." Then she starts complaining she has trouble finding dates. I think if we choose 2 or 3 things we can't tolerate in a mate, and compromise on the rest you'll have more success. Remember, the person you date has to put up with idiosyncrasaties. The more don'ts you have, the less does you'll get.

Sometimes our expectations are so high, 90% of people can't meet them. So you narrow the dating pool by a large margin. I was on one dating site where a lady had around 15 "you cannot not be..." Then she starts complaining she has trouble finding dates. I think if we choose 2 or 3 things we can't tolerate in a mate, and compromise on the rest you'll have more success. Remember, the person you date has to put up with idiosyncrasaties. The more don'ts you have, the less does you'll get.[/quote

Agree completely! I don't bother listing even 2 or 3 things I can't tolerate. Maybe because I've never really thought about it quite like that. Easier to write, phone, meet and see what happens. If nothing else, you've had a nite out with some companionship.

Yes it does ... have to have a babysitter all the time. Have been there ...done with it.