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My dad is Catholic, and my mom is Methodist. They've made it work for (Oct 21st) 47 years now. Mom serves, and eats, only fish on Fridays...or at least non-meat dishes. They have different schedules for going to services, so dad goes early and gets the donuts on the way home, and mom has breakfast ready when he gets there, then she goes to hers. She was more adamant than dad about me going through Confirmation because she'd signed papers agreeing to raise us girls all as Catholics. None of us stayed in that faith as adults.

Now, I'm a Pagan, my younger sister is Methodist and the baby is Southern Baptist.

Although I prefer not to date anyone who belongs to any organized religion, I can if they're open-minded enough to accept my beliefs. My current bf says he's Baptist because that's the church he was raised in, but totally understands and shares many of my beliefs...and is educated on and interested in the rest, at least.

I think it can work if one respects the beliefs of the other. Not one of my marriages ended because of religious differences.

I have been married in the same faith when I was still Catholic, married to a fellow Catholic who switched to Methodist with me for the years we were together so that we could get married (Catholics don't recognize divorce and we had a baby on the way), and to an Atheist who married me in the Methodist Church to make me happy. My last one was Pagan to Pagan, but I always called him a Pagan Agnostic. However, we did a Handfasting first, which is the old Celtic ways and not a legally recognized marriage...but we got a certificate that states that day we were joined as partners in love and life. And our vows made promises much more in depth than the normal ones. A year later we got legally married because he was sick and needed my health benefits, and toned the ceremony down a bit from its Paganism out of respect for our Catholic fathers, who were both in attendance.

Interesting!

What is Handfasting ? And why is it not recognized legally as a marriage?

Please forgive my ignorance, I do not fully follow your comments.
Could you detail?

It's the way the Celts got married before the advent of Christianity, during the times when the Brehons were the ruling law of the land. "Jumping the broom" comes from those days as well.

In a handfasting the couple's hands are literally bound at the wrists while saying the vows, binding you to them. It was an awesome ceremony that we put together ourselves, and the day we did that only the officiatior, my husband and I, and two friends as witnesses were there. We did it in a cave with a waterfall beside it...in the same park his ashes are now scattered throughout.

It can be done as a legal ceremony...for us it was the only marriage we intended to have, one of the heart but not a record of law.

You can google handfasting and get a lot of info on it. We were both of Celtic decent and practitioners of the old ways. I still am.

This is not an area that we are in agreement on

I will leave it at that
Peaches

people of different faiths should not marry....but then again, neither should people of the same faith

I dont think its essential though it does make things a lot easier.

But to make a relationship successful there are a lot many factors which need to be taken in to account so this is just one of them. A relationship is just like anything else you want in life. One needs to put in hardwork and dedication to keep the spark alive inspite of having ups and downs. Its always easy to have options or think of the other options but a lot of dedication goes in to working things out with the person you choose to be with, when the differences arise.

So ... same faith or not .. maturity , understanding and love are pre-requisites.

Hey darlin...nicely said....

I don't see a problem with it, so long as both partners are respectful of the other's beliefs, and neither one tries to "convert" the other.

Hi Ladies

no sheep but ..ok ????

Hey Harry...and yes I agree...accept each other belief systems because that's part of who they are...trying to change or convert your partners beliefs only says...."you're not good enough as you care cause you're not like me"

*are...

Or goats, but that's ok too.

Two people or 2 million religious people can marry and to coexist, if they are not fanatics. When they really love God, they can love each other.

If more people of different faiths married each other a lot of the fighting in the world would stop.

I thought that had already been tried.