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As for the loved and lost syndrome, I find that b.s. for me. I didn't love to lose. I would have rather never had any of it had I known.
I agree with this, I do not subscribe to that at all...
I do not regret the two long term relationships I had, from one I got two bonuses, my children and from the other I recieved alot of things that I have learnt, but then I may have learnt those anyway... But for the pain I felt, I would not rather have gone through it.
Because I did not love to lose, I loved him to have a future and whilst I made mistakes too, when a person cuts that, it is not easy to then change and pick it all up again. That has taken me a year and a half...
As for loving a person from here, who knows, I do not, but I am happy with the forums...