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It could be a whole gamut of reasons, from.....

Meeting someone, their lives becoming busier for whatever reason, just becoming a little jaded? Don't forget.... everything has its shelf-life, nothing is forever. Some just take a break and come back and its always good to see them return.....

Of course, for some, it may not live up to their expectations. Its all too easy to have unrealistic expectations, is it not? In my view, CS is the best site around by far and those that have stayed for any length of time are clearly testament to that?

CS has given me the opportunity to inter-act with people from all walks of life, all over the world. I have made some fabulous friends whom I still keep in touch with OFF-site..... AND.... its FREE!! What more do you want?

I feel the same as tina....I've become an outsider.

Now I usually just read instead of posting.

Plus, I have yet to have a date from this dating site...so what's the use

No, some of the viewpoints made should not be made public. I think the fault there is an inability to assess the situation and modify one's behaviour accordingly, no? That said, there will be private jokes banded about that mean nothing to others. Its simply that there are instances whereby certain members have made more of a connection with some than with others.... its called forming a friendship. It happens.... in RL too!

That doesn't mean to say one should feel that they should stay out of a thread because of it or give up all together because they feel left out.... it says more about being prepared to give up at the first hurdle than it every will say about those who are inter-acting more fully. Sometimes, one has to be steadfast and resolute in forming and maintaining relationships with people, and THAT applies in RL too!

Effort is needed from ALL participants.... its that simple!!

It often feels like one doesn't belong here....if you're not in that inner sanctum.

JMO but true

I lose interest if it's the same set of boring people posting same boring answers in the same boring threads and having the same boring conversations day in/day out Oh yeah, and all the arguing makes me lose interest too and the religious and Politic threads completely send me to

Plus, I don't have much spare time these days so that also makes me lose interest as I feel guilty for being here when I could be doing something worthy

I understand that you say, I have found also that I don't understand the back and forth of a "private joke", let's say.....

But I don't feel "left out".... its all a part of life.

But.... please read my previous post on this. Friendships need nurturing, one needs to invest time, effort, energy and interest, and that doesn't happen overnight!

It takes time..... give it time?!

sometimes feels like there is the "In Crowd" you can end up feeling invisible

Well said Ras


I used to be an active forum poster but some of the reasons above are why I stopped posting for a few months, that and the taking of an arguement from one thread to another.

What really disapointed me was to discover that people who were deliberately adding fuel to the fire on one particular arguement were going into the EU forums and laughing about it, discussing the posters on here like children in a schoolyard.

Sadly I have come back to find nothing has changed.

Yup - some people seem to like to discuss their personal sex lives in public (yuck to me, but their 'right' I suppose) and also choose to make really nasty personal attacks in public (not supposed to be allowed but often happens) AND block the person they are attacking so that the person attacked can't privately send an email saying 'F U 2!'

It's just not fair!

I think its part of the original poster's responsibility to make sure that they reply to posts made by the less frequent poster, to include them into the conversation, it will encourage more posts and help to make the poster feel more included in the thread.


JMO

That's nice - as long as neither is totally abusive!

You know:

'I think your post stinks!'

Reply:

'Dear less frequent poster - please kiss my ass!'

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Nah....... doesn't work too good!

I do feel that is a valid point, my friend, yes!

Albeit, I too am guilty of a little back and forth nattering amongst those I have more of a friendship than perhaps some others, I would place more importance on a post making a relevant point or being interesting, entertaining, etc even though I was not familiar with that particular poster.

I've been in and out of forums going on 3 years,
I believe that to truly find someone special requires us all to sometimes leave the house and keyboard.

I use the forums for intelligent advice, humor and the opportunity to share like opinions and beliefs, and to hear/read opposing views as well...always nice to know that I'm not alone in how I feel. but to not go out and experience a conversation, opinion, praise or rejection face to face can be detrimental to anyones social skills.

Afterall, we all are more than a thumbprint pic or typed thought or an opinion.

Diversity is the bread and butter of the forums, as well as honing social skills... I will continue to come and go, learn and laugh here at the forums.

Intelligent advice, Dan?? Bugger only knows where ya get that?!!




A delight, as always, love!!

I agree, sometimes it is easy to miss a post but it does happen were people who do not post as often as others are just ignored. Like vonney i used to post alot but was not here for a while., came back and alot of the time feel like an outsider now,

You have asked a question that any one person left on this site can answer!

After making tests over 2 months l now know that there are very few people on this site(this has been confirmed by the only 3 people l have ever chatted with, and, all unhappy with the site). The same people are on the same forums and they in turn get fed up with the threads and then create another thread.

In one session l clicked purposely on 1,200 photos, surely if someone clicks on you it would be nice to see who it is and find more about them?, no' it does not happen like that l can assure you!..........................75% were not logged in for over 2 months, others 1 month. Looking at people who liked my photo , for example 15% actually deleted their profile!, why on earth would you give a score of 8, 9 or 10 to a person when you do not wish to know them?, is it just a matter of seeing a good photo and clicking?

I have a habit of sending a Thankyou to peole who vote on my foto, again...................100 votes got 2 replies..............................and they were not serious!, sending flowers to people that after 2 months remain unopened, messages that also after 2 months remain unopened, but, the people have been registered as being online, how can that be?

In short the people that have profiles are really not very serious and therefore you will not get a good response to anything that goes on here, do your own survey, see how many people you can find logging in on a regular basis, look at the 'online' people, you will find few.

The forums have to be stimulating as well, people talking about 'two flies on the wall' seems to go down very well but other interesting things get left behind. I am only replying here because l by chance saw it on the home page, l have written to the CS management to relay my findings......................................they failed to answer. A couple of scammers l found they did take off, but prostitutes that work on the site are still here.

If you like it here, then stay, don't get upset by the lack of people because that's just the way it is!

you sound unhappy here, so why do you stay? I stay because i have made some good friends here

***Why do people loss interest in CS forums?


I don't see that people lose interest at all. A lot of people who have been on here for awhile, have left. That's because it gets old after awhile. There is a lot of new blood. What I notice is that cliques are developing and when someone adds a comment...they are ignored. People are turning threads into private conversations between two people, instead of taking it private. When someone tries to enter a comment...they are treated as if they said nothing at all. I know I tried to enter two conversations yesterday....and was totally ignored!!

The lady I was seeing tried on several occasions to enter into conversations, and was TOTALLY ignored!!

It can be easy to miss a post or two when having a fast paced discussion with one or more people, i have gone back through threads and seen where i have missed often interesting and intelligent comments that have slipped by because of the pace of posting.

I think people forget sometimes that this is in fact a "Forum" a place where ideas are discussed, one of the most irritating things on here is the people who stick their head into every post with a fickle comment and then start a silly conversation that has nothing to do with the OP.

This is a forum not a chat room, there always lots of "silly" chat threads that people like that can post on. Sad lack of basic manners.

becuase "we" (?) are ignoring "you"(?)